For those who do not know, the Good Men Project has angered feminist… again. This time, the backlash came from GMP running two articles, one about a “nice guy” who raped a woman who spent months flirting with him, and the other an anonymous account from a man who admits he has likely raped several women while binging out and does not intend to stop.
The articles have some issues that are worth addressing, but to be honest I am somewhat tired of having to go down that road with GMP.
I am also tired of having to go down this road with feminists. I am referring to many internet feminists’ tendency to pounce on anyone they think does not tow the party line, even if they have done the very thing they accuse their target of doing. This current feminist onslaught against GMP is being lead by Jill Filipovic from Feministe. She took issue with GMP’s articles, labeling the site a “MRA hellhole”. She has apparently made it her goal to shut GMP down, force a restructure of the site by getting GMP founder Tom Matlack to bow out and have the moderators ban all “MRAs” from commenting on the site, and/or get every outlet that features GMP content to cut their ties.
Of course, the grand irony of Jill’s rage against GMP for running the two articles, particularly the article by Alyssa Royse about the “nice guy” rapist, is that Jill published a similar article back in September. I wrote about the piece, calling it out for the hypocritical rape apologism that it was.
In the article, Jill could not quite bring herself to count a woman having sex with her sleeping boyfriend who she says she thought was awake as rape. Jill certainly could not bring herself to call the woman a bad person or rapist, even though earlier in her piece she claimed that she did not buy into the idea of an accidental, unintentional rape.
While I have no particular allegiance to GMP, I do not like seeing people get picked on by folks who do the same thing they blast others for. So I tweeted to Jill and GMP that it is rather hypocritical for Jill to attack the blog, and Jill responded with snark:
Jill Filipovic (@JillFilipovic) December 15, 2012
She later went on to deny she wrote the article in question, but after I posted the link again she dropped that. I was content with allowing her to make a fool of herself by defending something she has spent the last week trashing GMP for running, but then she tweeted this:
Jacob Taylor (@tsbarracks) December 17, 2012
I had to read it a couple of times to make sure I got it right, because it looks very much like Jill wrote it is not rape if you think the sleeping person is awake.
This is the same person accusing GMP of rape apologism for running an article written by an anonymous guy with a notice from GMP stating that they do not support the man or endorse any of his actions, and an article written by a woman who’s friend she still considers a “nice guy” even though she thinks is he a rapist and convinced that he was for having sex with a sleeping woman who had spent months flirting with him.
When I tell feminists that other feminists say truly egregious nonsense, the first response is “not any feminist I know.” Well, Jill Filipovic is a feminist they would know. She has a popular blog that is linked to by virtually every feminist blog I have glanced at over the last three years. This is a prominent feminist figure, and she just excused a woman raping her sleeping boyfriend on the grounds that somehow a woman purposefully putting a man’s penis into her vagina does not count as intentional and therefore is magically different than a man intentionally putting his penis into a woman’s vagina.
This is the kind of thing plenty of feminists would never believe happens, and I want to make it clear that the comment was unprompted. Jill tweeted that all on her own. I would love to say I am surprised, but given some of her recent writings I would be lying.
Again, just to be clear, Jill’s argument is that it is not rape if a woman has sex with a sleeping man who may have a sleeping disorder if the woman thinks he is awake.