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Jacob Taylor is a freelance writer and advocate for male victims of sexual violence. He blogs on Toy Soldiers.

The lady doth protest too much, methinks

I continue to find it pathetic that every few weeks feminists feel compelled to write articles about how people misunderstand them. For a group that has been around in its present form for nearly six decades, feminists are completely incapable of convincing people they are not misandrous ideologues bent of ruining society.

As Zerlina Maxwell stated in her recent article:

The message is fairly simple: Feminism in this case is the sanctimonious, uptight older sister, always out to spoil everyone’s fun.

In 1990, Pat Robertson famously said, “The feminist agenda is not about equal rights for women. It is about a socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism, and become lesbians.” Despite countless well-reasoned arguments to the contrary, it’s clear that some 25 years later, feminism still has an image problem.

And whose fault is that?

This isn’t to say it’s feminists’ fault.

Really? Please explain. Continue reading

Boko Haram kidnaps 97 boys and the world remains silent

I knew this would eventually happen:

The Islamist terror group Boko Haram kidnapped at least 97 men and boys and killed 28 people this week in a raid on villages in Borno State in northeast Nigeria, a local leader and residents said Friday.

Boko Haram gunmen also injured 25 others during the raid in which scores of homes were burned, the sources said.

The gunmen raided the farming and fishing village of Doron Baga and surrounding villages on the shores of Lake Chad, about 110 miles north of the state capital, Maiduguri.

The raid and kidnappings occurred on Monday, but the news did not emerge sooner due to lack of communication and because cell phone towers were destroyed in previous Boko Haram attacks.

It is worth noting that even though the majority of the victims of this series of kidnappings and murders were male, various media outlets chose to ignore their sex. For example, the CNN article quote above is titled “Boko Haram kidnaps at least 97, kills 28 in raid.Continue reading

Woman abused son on webcam

A woman faces three years and three months in jail for abusing her son and broadcasting it via webcam to her partner. According to the article, the abuse came to light when the woman admitted the abuse to a domestic violence charity:

It came to light when his mother made a complaint at Next Link Domestic Abuse Services in Bristol.

Her disturbing confession was passed on to Avon and Somerset police and she was taken in for questioning. Her son was also interviewed.

Prosecuting, Mark Hollier said: “In a very ordinary voice, he described an incident to the police officers about how his mother had given him a sex lesson in the main bedroom of the family home and this was observed by [the partner] via a webcam and computer link.”

The mum – who wept through much of the hearing – denied “volunteering” to have sex with her son.

She was charged with engaging in penetrative sexual activity with a boy under 13 which she admitted.

Of course, the claim is that the man is ultimately responsible for the woman’s behavior. As the judge put it: Continue reading

Bulletin Board v235

Callum Carson bravely breaks a social taboo by openly talking about being the victim of male rape — SCOTLAND has witnessed a steep increase in the number of rapes reported to police. But while this crime is often viewed as an attack on women, there are male victims too. It is rare for anyone to publicly share their experience of rape – particularly a man. Callum Carson, from Bathgate, waived his right to anonymity to share his story in a bid to raise the issue of male rape and highlight a system that he feels let him down.

Charge: Self-styled swim coach molested gravely ill boy at Seattle Children’s hospital — An Idaho man accused of sexually assaulting a seriously ill boy at Seattle Children’s hospital now faces a child molestation charge. A self-styled swim coach, John Hudspeth was caught by Children’s staff molesting the boy while he was being treated at the hospital, King County prosecutors say in charging papers. Hudspeth, a 63-year-old resident of St. Maries, Idaho, is alleged to have spent years grooming the boy for abuse prior to the sexual assaults.

Coventry rape centre launches counselling service for men — Coventry Rape and Sexual Abuse Centre has launched a counselling service for men. The project will provide specialist counselling to men who have experienced any form of rape or sexual abuse at any point in their lives. It will also help fathers and adult male siblings of abused children. CRASAC already supports younger males from the ages of five to 18, but in the past, there was no provision for adult men. Continue reading

When women sexually abuse

Originally posted on April 11, 2013

Several years ago I read a book called Female Sexual Abuse of Children. Michele Elliot edited the book. As I recall, the book gave two different views of the issue: one professional, the other from the victims.

The book relied on a handful of testimonials — I believe four women and one man — to describe the ways women sexually abuse children. However, what they shared painted a picture far different from what people expect. These abusive women were not angels. The abuse was not pretty and harmless. These women were not victims of controlling men forcing them to act. These women were just as vicious, violent, and predatory as many male child rapists.

For obvious reasons, Elliott’s book prompted a great deal of backlash. Here is a dedicated sexual abuse researcher and a feminist writing about women committing child rape. Elliott recounts the responses people had to her findings in an interview. Continue reading

You have to ask?

Finally: You have to ask????????????

That was how Richard Aubery ended his comment on a recent Good Men Project article titled Shame: Is GMP Part of the Problem?

The author, Scott Heydt, stated:

This is not a rhetorical question.

Neither is Richard’s question, so I will repeat it: you have to ask?

The Good Men Project runs dozens of articles a month. As the commenter who spawned Heydt’s response noted:

GMP publishes more articles that shame and blame men than most of the websites on the internet. Some are written by men, some by women. They purport to tell men, in one way or another, what they’re saying, doing and thinking that is wrong, and how they should think, talk and behave instead.

At this point, a lot of men, and a number of women, are hip to the game – and routinely take remedial action in the comments section.

But – really and truly – GMP is a part of the problem, not a part of the solution.

I advise young men, in particular, to read the material here with a great deal of skepticism, because a lot of it is toxic social engineering – attempting to shame and blame them into being something that someone else wants you to be, rather than being who you you want to be.

I noticed a trend among the published articles on GMP. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v234

Bristol boy, 7, was ‘tied up and sexually abused’ in changing room — The complainant in an alleged historic sex case told a jury he was tied up and sexually abused as a child. Former Downend man Richard Wilmot was a teenager himself when he preyed on a boy aged as young as seven, in assaults which included a swimming pool and park, Bristol Crown Court has been told. Rupert Taylor, defending, said each allegation did not take place. But when each instance of alleged abuse was raised, the complainant told the court: “It did happen.”

Lawyer who launched sexual-abuse case against Bryan Singer withdraws — A lawyer who launched a high-profile legal action against X-Men director Bryan Singer over alleged abuse of a 17-year-old boy in 1999 has controversially withdrawn from the court case. Jeff Herman had been representing plaintiff Michael F Egan III, a one-time Hollywood hopeful who claims he was raped by the film-maker and forced to take cocaine at sex parties in Los Angeles and Hawaii more than 15 years ago. The Hollywood Reporter says the civil case filed on Egan’s behalf against Singer remains open but that Herman has dropped his client.

The Many Fabricated Enemies of Feminists — Writing in The Atlantic recently, Conor Friedersdorf claimed: “Feminism has actual enemies. Fabricating more is perverse.” Perish the thought. Friedersdorf wrote these words after finding himself on the wrong end of the feminist ire squad: having written an even-handed article defending George Will from the excesses of feminist vanity and left-wing outraged indignation, Friedersdorf was treated to a terrific example of feminsm’s insatiable ability to “fabricate enemies.” Continue reading