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Jacob Taylor is a freelance writer and advocate for male victims of sexual violence. He blogs on Toy Soldiers.

Bulletin Board v241

A new moniker and a criminal pardon allowed predator to fly under police radar — – He ran from his past, but couldn’t escape who he is. Nearly 30 years ago, James Dean Barnett was convicted of sexually assaulting a 10-year-old boy while Barnett volunteered at a London children’s agency. This week, in court in St. Thomas, he sat waiting to be sentenced on four more sex charges against children — three neighbourhood kids, ages eight to 10, and a boy from his past who’s now an adult. But there was a twist: Barnett was now 49-year-old Tyler Giles.

About 14,000 Men In the Military Were Raped Last Year — Almost None Will Report It — Most survivors of rape in the military are men. Men also develop post-traumatic stress disorder from rape at almost twice the rate they do from combat, according to a sobering in-depth report published in GQ last month. The magazine’s in-depth look jump started a long-overdue conversation about an issue the mainstream has long been slow to respond to. The problem? Historically, very few male survivors report their assault, muffling an already egregious epidemic.

At civil trial, a former altar boy disputes Jon David Couzens’ account of priest’s sexual abuse — A former altar boy took the stand Friday and disputed Jon David Couzens’ allegations of sexual abuse by Monsignor Thomas O’Brien three decades ago. Jeff Barlow told Jackson County jurors that Couzens’ claims that O’Brien sexually abused four altar boys, including Barlow, as a group in the early 1980s at Nativity of the Blessed Virgin Mary Church in Independence were false. Continue reading

A Letter to a Poser

I chose to avoid most of the coverage about #GamerGate because I already knew how the liberal media would spin it. It took little time before the claims of “misogyny” and “sexism” trumped any level of honest reporting. Only a handful of media outlets interviewed GG supporters, and most of those interviews continued to peddle the “all gamers are sexist men” trope.

The death threats against Anita Sarkeesian, Brianna Wu, and Zoe Quinn continue to receive attention while the numerous threats and doxxing of GG supporters largely goes unmentioned.

What bothers me most, however, are the attacks on gamers in general. It is not that the attacks any different than the usual “they’re basement-dwelling losers” nonsense. It is that I assumed that people were past this kind of invective. I assumed people had seen enough evidence that gaming did not make anyone violent or hateful. I assumed that people had seen enough attacks on gaming to know that most gamers only want to play games. I assumed people had seen enough to know that gamers are people, too.

Instead, I saw people falling back into old habits, lambasting gamers as pasty white, unshaven, unwashed men living in their mom’s basements. I saw people who write for gaming publications calling for bringing back nerd bullying. I saw a geek culture icon attacking the very community that made his so-so film a $1.5 billion success.

Yet none of that prompted a need for a response. After all, these are far-leftists. There is little more that one could expect from them.

One article, however, did necessitate a response. Former NFL player Chris Kluwe took to The Claudron to attack supporters of GamerGate. His invective and ad hominem-filled rant perfectly demonstrates why the anti-GamerGate side has not won despite every attempt to do so. Below is my response to Kluwe’s rant: Continue reading

A Dose of Stupid v102

It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:

Transgender Woman Can’t Be Diversity Officer Because She’s a White Man Now

I know what you are thinking. You think some woman had a sex change and now the liberals on campus have gone after the now him because of “the Patriarchy”. It is much worse.

Timothy Boatwright applied to an all-women’s school. While he checked the “female” box when he applied for the school, he identified as “masculine-of-center genderqueer” when he got there. Granted, that is rather nonsensical, but it is not the stupid part. This is:

And, by all accounts, Boatwright felt welcome on campus — until the day he announced that he wanted to run for the school’s office of multicultural affairs coordinator, whose job is to promote a “culture of diversity” on campus.

But some students thought that allowing Boatwright to have the position would just perpetuate patriarchy. They were so opposed, in fact, that when the other three candidates (all women of color) dropped out, they started an anonymous Facebook campaign encouraging people not to vote at all to keep him from winning the position.

“I thought he’d do a perfectly fine job, but it just felt inappropriate to have a white man there,” the student behind the so-called “Campaign to Abstain” said.

“It’s not just about that position either,” the student added. “Having men in elected leadership positions undermines the idea of this being a place where women are the leaders.”

The New York Times ran an in-depth article giving further insight: Continue reading

Grisham and the law

John Grisham waded into a political war-zone when he commented on the conviction of people who possess child pornography. Grisham stated in an interview with the Telegraph:

“We have prisons now filled with guys my age. Sixty-year-old white men in prison who’ve never harmed anybody, would never touch a child,” he said in an exclusive interview to promote his latest novel Gray Mountain which is published next week.

“But they got online one night and started surfing around, probably had too much to drink or whatever, and pushed the wrong buttons, went too far and got into child porn.”

His comments sparked criticism from child advocacy groups. However, Grisham went on to state:

Asked about the argument that viewing child pornography fuelled the industry of abuse needed to create the pictures, Mr Grisham said that current sentencing policies failed to draw a distinction between real-world abusers and those who downloaded content, accidentally or otherwise.

“I have no sympathy for real paedophiles,” he said, “God, please lock those people up. But so many of these guys do not deserve harsh prison sentences, and that’s what they’re getting,” adding sentencing disparities between blacks and whites was likely to be the subject of his next book.

No one paid attention to that part, or this part of the Telegraph article:

Since 2004 average sentences for those who possess – but do not produce – child pornography have nearly doubled in the US, from 54 months in 2004 to 95 months in 2010, according to a 2012 report by the U.S. Sentencing Commission.

However the issue of sex-offender sentencing has sparked some debate in the US legal community after it emerged that in some cases those who viewed child porn online were at risk of receiving harsher sentences than those who committed physical acts against children.

A provocative article in the libertarian magazine Reason headlined “Looking v Touching” argued last February that something was “seriously wrong with a justice system in which people who look at images of child rape can be punished more severely than people who rape children”.

Grisham later issued an apology for his comments. Continue reading

Laurie A. Couture’s unedited article published on A Voice for Men

I wrote two days ago about Laurie A. Couture and her article she submitted to the Good Men Project. According to Couture, the editors at GMP made her edit the article three times in order to remove criticisms about feminism. Once the article received approval, it was posted only to be edited yet again to remove all references to feminism. That version is still on GMP. A Voice for Men published the original version of the article today.

Now that I can read both versions, I find the editing odder. These are the portions that GMP edited out:

The blockage has come repeatedly from feminists who run most social justice and human service programs as well as from media that is feminist-influenced.

and this:

Increasing numbers of young adults are questioning feminist theory. They are taking notice and are challenging limiting, divisive and sexist beliefs, actions and statements. Social media platforms are exploding with hashtag wars and sign campaigns between feminists and those who are rejecting feminism. Sadly, these campaigns seem to be generating more hostility than mutual understanding.

and this:

It is time to allow a fearless and honest critique of any aspect of feminist theory that minimizes sexual and domestic violence against males, minimizes violence by women and advocates for anything other than compassion and equality in healing these tragedies.

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Good Men Project, Bad Feminist Politics

The editors at the Good Men Project continue to demonstrate a profound level of hypocrisy and dishonesty. They want people to think GMP stands for discussing men’s issues. However, time and time again the editors reveal their incessant need to defend feminism, even to the detriment of their claims about open discussion.

Many people experienced this bizarre double-think over the years. Yet, few documented it as well as Laurie A. Couture. Couture wrote a piece titled An Autistic Critique of Feminism: A Humanitarian on the Autism Spectrum Refuses to be Silenced about the Overlooked Side of Social Justice. She submitted the article to GMP, and the editors accepted it. What followed shows the precise problem with GMP and the magazine’s claims about its concern for men’s issues. Couture explains in her video: Continue reading

Sexual Exploitation of Boys

Lynne MacDonell spoke to a college audience about sexual violence against men and boys. Her lecture provides an insight to some of the issues that males face when they come forward.

MacDonell makes special note of the currently accepted statistics on sexual violence against men and boys. She mentions that college-age men report nearly the same rate of sexual violence against their female counterparts. She also mentions that more men and boys are coming forward than ever before. That revelation leads her to suspect that more boys are sexually abused than girls.

I am inclined to agree with MacDonell. Males face a host of stigmas that females do not. The desire to blame males for their abuse is much higher. It even exists in the abuse support community. Concepts like “rape culture” engage in victim-blaming men and boys by implying they are complicit in and benefit from the social structures that led to their abuse. Likewise, the support community, particularly organizations run by feminists, treat males not as victims but as potential abusers. Continue reading