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Jacob Taylor is a freelance writer and advocate for male victims of sexual violence. He blogs on Toy Soldiers.

The Last Goodbye

When I saw the teaser trailer for The Hobbit: The Battle of the Five Armies and heard The Edge of Night, I hoped that Peter Jackson would use that song for the ending credits. Billy Boyd has an amazing voice, and it would be great to hear a full version of the song.

Of course, Jackson did not do as I wanted. He did much better. The Last Goodbye is a perfect bookend not only to the Hobbit films, but to the Middle-Earth films in total.

This is easily my favorite song from the films. Continue reading

Former tutor claims student abused her

Abigail Simon faces four counts of first-degree criminal sexual conduct against her former student. She is accused on engaging in repeated sexual acts with the 15-year-old boy. However, Simon claims that she is the actual victim:

In testimony punctuated with weeping, Simon said the teen within a matter of weeks in the spring of 2013 used physical intimidation, psychological manipulation and rape to control every aspect of her life – even to the point that she did what he wanted when she was on the other side of the country.

“My thoughts, my life, were consumed with making (the teen) happy,” she said. “It was bizarre.”

It gets more bizarre:

Simon was questioned all day by her attorney, describing events from the beginning of their relationship that started with him slapping her after accusing her of spending too much time with other students she was tutoring.

She wept as she explained how the boy managed to get her to take him to restaurants, drive him to Chicago and South Bend and let him into her apartment all using threats against her and himself.

Two things come to mind. One, this is the case that should have prompted Joanna Schroeder’s ire about double standards against male victims. What man could take the stand and claim that his 15-year-old female victim controlled his life and expect anyone to take such a claim serious? Continue reading

Man freed after 19 years of wrongful imprisonment

A jury convicted Jerry Lee Brock of child molestation in 1995. They reached their decision based on the testimony of then 11-year-old Regina Rush. Rush claimed that Brock molested her as she slept. As a result of prior convictions for burglary and promoting prostitution, Brock received life in prison under the “three-strikes” law.

However, there was a problem: there was no abuse. Rush lied. She waited until 2012 to come forward, writing a six-page letter explaining her actions:

She said she made up the story because she wanted attention from her mother and because she worried that Brock was a drug user and a bad influence on her mom.

Price held a hearing Nov. 10 to assess Rush’s credibility. Now 31 and a mother herself, she testified under oath, detailing that she had previously been taken away from her mother due to her mother’s drug use, and she didn’t want it to happen again.

“Ms. Rush testified that she realized just how wrong it is to make such serious false accusations,” the judge wrote in his order Thursday. “The dishonesty was eating away at her inside and she didn’t want to carry that burden any longer. … She simply wanted to clear her conscience.”

Interesting how it took nearly 20 years for Rush to want to clear her conscience. Continue reading

A Dose of Stupid v103

It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:

A 12 Year-Old Boy’s First Kiss Shouldn’t Be With a Grown Woman

I was ready to agree with that statement until I saw what it referred to:

That little peck was nothing. It is hardly worth mentioning. It certainly does not rise to the level of child rape . And yet Joanna Schroeder could not help herself: Continue reading

These aren’t the nerds you’re looking for

In my previous post, I discussed the first part of Noah Brand’s series on nerds. As I noted, Brand’s argument can be summed up as gamers are losers who were born losers, will die losers, and not even other losers will mourn them.

He attempts to show sympathy towards male geeks, yet instead falls into the ever common feminist mistake of bashing the people he claims to want to help. In his second part, Brand goes full McIntosh.

First, Brand graces us with an excellent Freudian slip:

In part one of this article, we talked about the cluster of people who are, or believe themselves to me, permanently awkward and socially nonfunctional, people who need simple and consistent rules for interactions.

I believe the proper English would be “or believe themselves to be,” however, the mistake is quite revealing. Geeks do not think themselves permanently awkward and socially dysfunctional. They usually think themselves misunderstood.

They’ve tried to make spaces for themselves within geek/nerd culture, where they don’t have to be acceptable to other people, and they respond with rage when they feel those spaces have been violated by “outsiders”.

Geeks did not create a space where they could be unacceptable; they created a space where they would be accepted. They usually have little problem with “outsiders” coming into that space, as long as the “outsiders” respect it. However, many of the “outsiders” do not respect the space. These people only want to control it. They often demonstrate this by harassing and mocking the community, which is ironically the reason the community exists.

Their experience of outsiders, and especially of women, is that they cause pain, therefore causing them pain is justifiable.

That is a very poor strawman. Most geeks do not attack “outsiders” or women, despite the pain they suffer. If they did, few people would target them for abuse. After all, it is unwise to abuse someone who will fight back. Better to abuse those one knows will do nothing, hence Brand’s two condescending articles. Continue reading

Rebranding nerdom as “rage”

Noah Brand resurfaced on the Good Men Project to remind everyone that gamers are losers who were born losers, will die losers, and not even other losers will mourn them.

And that is just the first part of the series.

The amount of condescension and projection in the article is stunning. I agree that the “notion that one is either the bully or the bullied, and it’s impossible to be both, lies deep in a lot of thinking, and it’s a trap. Indeed, it’s one of the primary intellectual sins of social justice movements, when we imply one is either the oppressor or the oppressed, but never both.” The article is an excellent example of that.

It is also precisely what it looks like to bully someone. Brand’s article is yet another body in the three-month-long feminist pile-on on gamers. Feminists took to the gamer hate with a glee and fervor not seen since someone dared suggest some women lie about rape.

Brand attempts to show sympathy towards gamers, yet his definition of sympathy proves fleeting: Continue reading

Bulletin Board v243

Alabama Baptists call for prison reform, noting overcrowding and sex abuse — The Alabama Baptist Convention passed a resolution today calling for prison reform in Alabama. “We do believe crime merits punishment, but incarcerated criminals need to be treated humanely,” said the Rev. Roger Willmore, chairman of the resolutions committee. Alabama Baptists “call upon the governor, attorney general, and Alabama Legislature to seek ways to end abuse in Alabama prisons,” the resolution said.

Former teacher sentenced to six years in prison for sexually abusing 25 young boys — A former teacher at Terra Nova School in Holmes Chapel has been sentenced to six years and nine months in jail for sexually abusing 25 boys he taught in the 1970s. Keith Cavendish-Coulson, 71, of Crookham Hill, Crookham Common in Berkshire, pleaded guilty yesterday to 42 counts of indecent assault on boys who were aged between eight and 13.

I was victim of abuse in boys’ home, Jean McConville’s son tells inquiry — The son of a woman “disappeared” by the IRA has claimed he was sexually abused at a boys’ home in Co Down. Billy McConville was six when he went to Rubane House after his mother was abducted, murdered and secretly buried by the IRA in 1972. Jean McConville’s body was recovered on a beach in Co Louth in August 2003. Continue reading