In keeping with the goal of this week, I would readers to post links to articles or blog posts concerning male victimization on this thread.
Originally posted on September 23, 2013
CNN ran an article about Jack Williams, a Vietnam-era veteran who faces numerous physical and mental health issues as a result of rape.
According to the article, Williams’ assistant drill sergeant raped then 18-year-old Williams several times while he was in training:
In the dead of night, the assistant drill sergeant woke Williams and ordered him to a second-floor office.
Williams stood before the sergeant in his government-issue T-shirt and boxers. He stared straight ahead, like he was supposed to. Suddenly, the sergeant choked him, threw him on the floor.
“He was all over me. He was raping me.”
After it was over, Williams cleaned himself up and went back to bed.
“In the military, everyone pulls together. I did not want to be the one who let everyone down.”
The article states that the cadets were cut off from the outside world. They were not allowed any calenders or watches, nor were they allowed to make phone calls or leave the base. Williams kept the rape to himself. The sergeant came back several days later. This time, the sergeant beat Williams and knee-dropped him in the kidneys. Williams later fell on rocks during a training session, making the injuries worse. Continue reading
65,000 images seized in shocking ‘boy lovers’ network — MEN aged from 22 to 76 – including teachers, accountants, bank managers and tradies, were among the Queenslanders arrested as part of a global child exploitation ring. Queensland police said more than 30 people have been charged on more than 200 offences in what was described as a ‘boy lovers’ network. During Operation Taskforce Argus there were 65,000 images. In Canada, 45 terrabytes of data – all involving the abuse of young boys – the equivalent of 15,000 DVDS – was seized.
Clubs and gyms targeted to help male victims of domestic abuse — Police are to target sports clubs and gyms to urge men who are suffering domestic abuse to seek help. Leicestershire Police is delivering leaflets to venues popular with men across the city and county to spread the message that help is available to victims. In 2011, about 11 per cent – 321 – of the victims of the 2,800 domestic crimes reported to Leicestershire Police were men. Research has shown that men are less likely than women to seek help.
Double standard: Society views female predators and their male victims differently — The exuberant comments were left on a story about a 27-year-old Catholic school teacher accused of raping a 14-year-old. “Boy, did I go to the wrong schools!” said one. “I wish I had just ONE teacher like this!!!” said another. “I wish it happened to me when I was a teen in grade school,” said a third. It’s a sentiment unlikely to be expressed when the perpetrator is a man and the victim a teen or preteen girl.
Ex-politician guilty of child sex abuse says 18-year prison term ‘unreasonable’ — A former city councillor in Saint John, N.B., convicted of sexually abusing and making pornographic images of boys for more than a decade is appealing his 18-year prison term, saying the sentence is excessive. “The sentence was unreasonable and in excess of the appropriate range in all circumstances,” Donnie Snook says in a notice of appeal filed with the provincial Court of Appeal in Fredericton. Continue reading
Christopher Ketcham wrote an article for VICE about sexual abuse in the Orthodox Jewish community. The article sheds light on a problem that, much like the Catholic Church’s sexual abuse problems, has remained hidden as a result of protecting the offenders and punishing the victims:
In New York, and in the prominent Orthodox communities of Israel and London, allegations of child molestation and rape have been rampant. The alleged abusers are schoolteachers, rabbis, fathers, uncles—figures of male authority. The victims, like those of Catholic priests, are mostly boys. Rabbi Rosenberg believes around half of young males in Brooklyn’s Hasidic community—the largest in the United States and one of the largest in the world—have been victims of sexual assault perpetrated by their elders. Ben Hirsch, director of Survivors for Justice, a Brooklyn organization that advocates for Orthodox sex abuse victims, thinks the real number is higher. “From anecdotal evidence, we’re looking at over 50 percent. It has almost become a rite of passage.”
People who complain about the abuse are kicked out of the community. For example, Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg began blogging about the abuse in the community. He also set up a hotline for people to call. He made media tours and publicly denounced the abuse. The result: he is excluded from all activities in his community and receives death threats. Continue reading
Originally posted on July 21, 2013
One of the common reactions to news about sexual violence against boys is that it harms boys less than it harms girls. This is particularly true when the abuser is female. The common opinion is that boys are more resilient because they are male. People also believe that boys always desire sex from women, therefore any sexual activity from women is always acceptable. Should a boy refuse the sex or dislike it, people will assume he is gay. Should a boy abused by men get an erection, ejaculate during sexual abuse, continue to engage in any activity with the male abuser, people will assume he is gay.
This idea that boys experience less harm leads to situations where abusers, particularly female abusers, receive less prison time for their actions. Roger Sherman noted this is in an op-ed:
Our societal perception frequently does not recognize this when it comes to women abusing boys. In this regard, a very important discussion was presented in a recent Statesman article between the Ada County prosecutor and the judge in a case regarding the abuse of eight teenage boys by a 35-year-old mother in Kuna.
According to the article, the judge disagreed with the prosecutor, who argued that female perpetrators are “treated more leniently than men and that boys (abused by women) are somehow considered ‘lucky.’” The judge concluded that “there is a difference” between boys abused by women and girls abused by men. “I have a problem articulating what the difference is,” he said.
Unfortunately, this perception that there is a difference can lead to irreparable harm for male victims. According to the authors of an authoritative study reported in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine, sexual abuse significantly increases the risk of developing health and social problems – such as drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness, and marital strife – in both men and women. A history of suicide attempts was more than twice as likely among both male and female victims as among non-victims.
Caseworker blames starved boy’s family for not warning her about abuse — A caseworker for a Toronto boy who starved to death at the hands of his grandparents says other family members should have warned her the couple had a history of abusive behaviour. Margarita Quintana, a frontline children’s aid worker, is testifying for a third day at the coroner’s inquest into the death of Jeffrey Baldwin.
Domestic violence against men at its highest level in Northern Ireland since police began recording statistics — Domestic violence against men in Northern Ireland has increased by more than 40% in nine years – and that’s just reported incidents. PSNI figures reveal that the figure reached a record of 2,525 male victims in 2012/13, up 259 cases on the year before. Police started recording the statistics nine years ago. They also show that in one year alone (2011/12) the level of reported incidents jumped 25% (from 1,833 to 2,266).
GMP: Fathers are not important — The Good Men Project (GMP) recently ran an article by Suzanne Venker about the importance, indeed irreplaceability of fathers in the lives of children. Venker supported her contentions by pointing to the spectrum of psychological and social maladies which are inarguably much more likely to befall fatherless children than those whose nuclear family remains intact. She also conveyed a deep sense of appreciation for her husband and his importance in her life and the life of their son. The tone of the article was upbeat, affirming and positive about the importance of men and masculinity, particularly in the lives of children. Of course, GMP quickly realized their mistake and took the article down. Continue reading
A few days ago, I wrote about a film my cousin and I watched. I got the subtitle from Bad Guy, one of Eminem’s new songs. My cousin had been listening it for several days.
Bad Guy is the sequel to Stan. In the new song, Stan’s younger brother Matthew gets revenge on Eminem for causing Stan’s suicide. The lyrics are powerful, but what stands out to me is the second verse: Continue reading