Archie Comics co-CEO accused of gender discrimination by male employees — The embattled co-CEO also mocked the five employees’ claim that she’d used her “gender as a weapon” by yelling, “Penis! Penis! Penis!” during a business meeting. The co-CEO of Archie Comics’ says she couldn’t have discriminated against her underlings – because they’re white men. In papers filed in Westchester Supreme Court, Nancy Silberkleit’s lawyer says a gender discrimination lawsuit filed against her earlier this year by a group of Archie Comics employees should be tossed in part because white guys aren’t members of “a protected class.”
Boy, 13, testifies about alleged rapes by woman, 20 — A defense attorney yesterday tried to discredit the testimony of a 13-year-old boy who claims he was sexually abused by a 20-year-old woman living with him and his family in Haverhill last year. The defendant, Heather Paltinavich, 21, of Haverhill, is accused of two counts of statutory rape. Her trial began Monday in Essex Superior Court with jury selection and opening remarks and testimony began yesterday.
The Boy in the Boardroom: When Sexual Abuse and Manhood Collide — Two buddies who haven’t seen one another in months walk into a sports bar, find a table, and scan the menu. Man #1 was just prescribed a new diet by his doctor. Beer and fried foods are off limits, so the grilled chicken salad jumps off the page. Man #2 has been fighting a fever, and recently started an antibiotic. He can’t wait to get home and crawl into bed. The waitress approaches and asks if they’re ready to order. Crickets. They look at one another.
Campaign to help those suffering from male domestic abuse is launched — A new campaign backed by Hinckley police is hoping to strip the stigma from male domestic abuse. Figures suggest one in six men in Leicestershire experience some kind of abusive behaviour by a partner, an ex or even a relative but few report the problem. The new initiative hopes to encourage more men to come forward rather than suffering in silence. As part of the campaign information posters are being distributed to gyms and sports clubs. Continue reading →
65,000 images seized in shocking ‘boy lovers’ network — MEN aged from 22 to 76 – including teachers, accountants, bank managers and tradies, were among the Queenslanders arrested as part of a global child exploitation ring. Queensland police said more than 30 people have been charged on more than 200 offences in what was described as a ‘boy lovers’ network. During Operation Taskforce Argus there were 65,000 images. In Canada, 45 terrabytes of data – all involving the abuse of young boys – the equivalent of 15,000 DVDS – was seized.
Clubs and gyms targeted to help male victims of domestic abuse — Police are to target sports clubs and gyms to urge men who are suffering domestic abuse to seek help. Leicestershire Police is delivering leaflets to venues popular with men across the city and county to spread the message that help is available to victims. In 2011, about 11 per cent – 321 – of the victims of the 2,800 domestic crimes reported to Leicestershire Police were men. Research has shown that men are less likely than women to seek help.
Double standard: Society views female predators and their male victims differently — The exuberant comments were left on a story about a 27-year-old Catholic school teacher accused of raping a 14-year-old. “Boy, did I go to the wrong schools!” said one. “I wish I had just ONE teacher like this!!!” said another. “I wish it happened to me when I was a teen in grade school,” said a third. It’s a sentiment unlikely to be expressed when the perpetrator is a man and the victim a teen or preteen girl.
Ex-politician guilty of child sex abuse says 18-year prison term ‘unreasonable’ — A former city councillor in Saint John, N.B., convicted of sexually abusing and making pornographic images of boys for more than a decade is appealing his 18-year prison term, saying the sentence is excessive. “The sentence was unreasonable and in excess of the appropriate range in all circumstances,” Donnie Snook says in a notice of appeal filed with the provincial Court of Appeal in Fredericton. Continue reading →
One of the main barriers male survivors of sexual violence face is a lack of services. Most existing sexual violence services only assist women and girls. Of the services that do assist men and boys, most provide limited counseling and referrals.
Male survivors need services, however, even when those organizations are created, they face dismissal by the existing female-only groups. For example:
Survivors Manchester, a service which supports men and boys who have suffered sexual abuse, received a letter stating that the Rape Support Fund would only be allocated to women and girls over the age of 13.
The service is the only support centre for male victims of sexual abuse in Manchester and is only one in five across the UK as they received 48% more referrals from last year after the high profile arrests of several famous figures.
The letter explained that the fund was for ‘rape support services whose primary purpose is to provide direct support to victims of rape and other forms of sexual assault, including both recent and historic abuse,’ but only for women over the age of 13.
Are men oppressed? Male rights activists maligned as ‘sexists’ fight to have movement recognized on campus — At the latest battle in the emerging campus war over men’s rights, as a man in a pink keffiyeh, with a pink hammer and sickle on his chest, shouted slogans through a pink megaphone at a group of men’s rights activists who marched on the Ontario legislature to denounce the oppressive effects of feminism, it was tempting to invoke Henry Kissinger’s quip about the Iran-Iraq War: “It’s a pity they both can’t lose.” Neither side made an articulate case through their mutual loathing.
Do men need a place to call their own? Experts make the case for men’s centres in campus, community life — A U.S. professor specializing in studying the psychology of boys and men, masculinity and manhood will make the case for creating men’s centres on campus during an address in Toronto. The speech by Miles Groth is slated to take place Friday evening at an event organized by the Canadian Association for Equality (CAFE), which is working to raise funds to create the Canadian Centre for Men and Families. Advocates on both sides of the border are seeking to fill what they view as a void at schools and within communities — programs dedicated to studying, serving and supporting male interests and needs.
The facts and figures on male rape and sexual abuse in Ireland — The recently released Dublin Rape Crisis Centre’s Annual Report for 2012 laid out the facts of rape and sexual abuse in Ireland. The figures are astonishing and disturbing. Over 9,000 genuine contacts were made with the National 24-Hour Helpline in 2012, over 25 a day, and almost half of those were making their first ever contact with the service. Men made up over 17 per cent of those who contacted the Helpline in 2012, highlighting just how big sexual abuse and rape issues are for Irish men. Continue reading →
Survivors Manchester, a UK group dedicated to supporting male survivors of sexual violence, created a self-guide for abused men and boys. From the site:
The Survivors Guide Project aims to produce a unique self-help guide written by male survivors of sexual abuse and rape for male survivors and their supporters to aid understanding of the legacy effects and provide information on healthy coping mechanisms and sources of support. This will be achieved by bringing together adult male survivors to collect their experiences of the impact sexual abuse has on the health and wellbeing of boys and men; and compliment it with the knowledge and expertise gained from a variety of allied health, social care and legal professionals. Using online presence, groups, 1:1 discussion based activities and interviews to gather information, an editorial team will create content and work with a designer to create the print layout.
Information on the legacy of abuse will be gathered using online, peer-support groups, discussion based activities and interviews with professionals. The content will then be created by a voluntary editorial team of 10 members, primarily beneficiaries, with eight sessions supported by a professional writer/journalist to develop copywriting skills. A visual artist will support the teams design decisions in eight other sessions. A local graphic design company will create the visual print design and layout of the guide, with input from the editorial team and visual artist. At three different stages, a full draft will be presented to an ‘Expert Panel’ made up of beneficiaries and professionals, including those from the BME and LGBT community, for agreement and production.
There are many men and boys who experience abuse in their lives. They often do not have a place to talk about those experiences. This post is a space for that.
Any man or boy who wants to share his experiences of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, bullying, and harassment may do so here. You may submit your story as a comment. You can use your own name, a pseudonym, or remain anonymous.
You may share whatever you feel comfortable with, be it your whole story or just a moment.
The purpose of this post is show people what men and boys go through. It is to shed light on the truth of those experiences and shatter the stereotypes of about them.
I will moderate all comments and remove any that are not from men or not on topic. This just to make sure the comments are only from men and only about their stories.
(A note to those posting: if you use profanity, the comment will automatically go into moderation. This applies to all comments on this blog, so it is nothing personal. Once I see the comment, I will approve it.)
Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so. Every month I will post a new link to an organization that provides services for male victims. As the list grows, I will create a page where all the links can be found.
Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.
Together We Heal is for those who have suffered the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. It exists to give aid and counseling to those in need, educate any who seek information on how to best protect our children and to expose the predators and their methods. Together we can do all of these things and begin the process of healing.
We are available to any who want to be educated on how best to protect their children from these dangerous sexual predators. Since 90-95% of CSA occurs at the hands of someone that is known, trusted and often loved, it is essential to be educated on what signs or red flags to be looking for.
We work with Schools, Religious groups, Civic organizations or in a home full of concerned parents. We are here to help prevent further damage and to help those who have already been assaulted begin the process of healing.