A Band of Brothers


There are many men and boys who experience abuse in their lives. They often do not have a place to talk about those experiences. This post is a space for that.

Any man or boy who wants to share his experiences of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, bullying, and harassment may do so here. You may submit your story as a comment. You can use your own name, a pseudonym, or remain anonymous.
You may share whatever you feel comfortable with, be it your whole story or just a moment.

The purpose of this post is show people what men and boys go through. It is to shed light on the truth of those experiences and shatter the stereotypes of about them.

I will moderate all comments and remove any that are not from men or not on topic. This just to make sure the comments are only from men and only about their stories.

(A note to those posting: if you use profanity, the comment will automatically go into moderation. This applies to all comments on this blog, so it is nothing personal. Once I see the comment, I will approve it.)

Dave Rubin interviews ‘The Red Pill’ director Cassie Jaye

Dave Rubin interviewed Cassie Jaye on the Rubin Report. Jaye directed The Red Pill, a documentary about the men’s rights movement. Jaye is a feminist and began the documentary as an attempt to look at the movement from a critical lens. She originally planned to make a film about “rape culture”, but shifted her focus after reading several articles by men’s rights activists that were critical of the theory. She decided to explore the men’s rights movement, partly to understand what it was about and partly to reveal the sexism within the movement other feminists warned her about.

However, during the process she found her views changing, and the film changed along with it. Instead of purely focusing on the men’s rights movement, Jaye also included her video journals about her changing perceptive on men’s issues. She initially doubled down on her feminism after the first series of interviews. It was further interviews with feminists and their reaction to her film that started to evolve her position. Continue reading

Help Restore the Anchor House

Back in April I wrote about the Anchor House. It is an organization that takes in trafficked boys. The group faced a backlash from the community as the people living near the group’s chosen location feared the boys would be violent. The Anchor House did find a location and manage to find funding as well.

I do have a criticism of the group, which is that they are a religious group. While it does not appear that they force Christianity onto any of the children, it is part of their platform. I do not see the need to inject religion into the situation. Nevertheless, the Anchor House is one of the few organizations that assists male victims of human trafficking, and I think people should support them.

This more necessary now, as the location was devastated by hurricane Matthew. The home was due to open in March 2017. Given the level of water damage, that has been delayed. Worse, the group’s flood insurance did not apply as they were still within the waiting period. They estimate it will take $80,000 to repair the damage.

The Anchor House has a GoFundMe fundraiser to try to cover the damage. They are hoping to raise $30,000, and the time of writing this they are at $5,745. I encourage people to support fundraiser. Any amount you can spare can help. Donate the money for your daily cup of coffee, a movie night, or that video game you already know will suck.

If you can, please donate. It is for a very good cause, one that rarely gets any attention.

What happens when you play loose with the definition of rape

I wrote about case in February in which an Iraqi refugee raped a 10-year-old boy because the man had a “sexual emergency”. The man, known as Amir A, claimed he had not had sex in four months and felt the need to release his “excess sexual energy”. He assaulted the boy while they were a pool facility. After the assault, Amir went back to the pool and continued diving and swimming. The boy reported the assault, and when confronted, Amir admitted to committing the crime.

This occurred Austria, a country that has taken in a number of Middle Eastern refugees. The Austrian government tries, like many European nations, to avoid any apparent attacks on Middle Easterners or Muslims. While this is a noble and reasonable position, the application of it is far from either of those. Instead of revealing what happened, the Austrian government attempted to conceal the assault from the media, claiming to do so for the victim’s protection.

Now, the Austria Supreme Court has taken it one step further. Amir A was convicted and sentenced to six years in jail for sexual assault and the rape of a minor. The Supreme Court decided recently to throw out the conviction. Their reason is because the prosecutors did not prove the victim said “no”: Continue reading

First Alaska woman charged with possessing child pornography gets no jail time

I write often about the double standard that applies to women who commit sex offenses. Female sex offenders are less likely to be reported, less likely to be arrested, less likely to be charged, less likely to face trial, less likely to be convicted, less likely to receive jail sentences, and less likely to receive lengthy sentences compared to male sex offenders. This occurs regardless of the nature of the abuse, the number of victims involved, or the impact of the abuse on the victims. We see this in numerous cases in which police, prosecutors, and judges will admit that the women’s violence severely harmed the child only to have the women walk away with suspended sentences and probation, often without having to register as sex offenders.

The one instance in which one would expect this not to occur is in child pornography cases. The reason is that the cases hinge on the creation, possession, and distribution of the images or videos. The only thing necessary to demonstrate any of the three is evidence that the person has the images or videos. If the state can demonstrate this, which it usually can, there is no reason why a woman possessing hundreds of pictures of children engaged in sex acts should receive a different sentence than a man with the same types of images.

But Alaska decided to prove this basic logic wrong:

A former Alaska woman who was sexually abused by her paternal grandfather and then, as an adult, downloaded and traded videos of child exploitation has avoided any jail.

Brittany Alexandra Robinson, 25 was the first woman in Alaska to be charged with possessing and distributing child pornography, according to Anchorage police.

Let us stop here to note two things. Continue reading

Let us talk about the Polished Man campaign

I happened upon the Polished Man campaign a few days ago. It is a campaign dedicated to raising awareness about sexual abuse against children by men. It is important to make that distinction because the campaign fails to acknowledge that women can be and are the perpetrators of sexual abuse against children. From the campaign’s website:

Why Men?

90% of all sexual violence against children is perpetrated by men.

But that doesn’t mean we are pointing the finger.

We’re asking men to lead the way, to start conversations and challenge the culture from where they stand.

One man-i-cure at a time.

That is not entirely true. I have written numerous times about female sex offenders. Not only it is evident that women commit sexual violence, but it also appears that women, according to a feminist-run study, to commit at least 40% to 60% of the sexual violence against males. We can see this trend in action by looking at studies over the years. The more people research this topic, the more we find that women are responsible for a large amount of sexual violence.

I understand the point of the campaign. It is the typical self-indulgent, viral hashtag activism that is so popular these days. It is not that the celebrity men do not care about preventing child rape. It is that very little will actually come of it beyond pandering to people’s need to seen in a certain light.

Yet what makes the campaign so troubling is that it misrepresents the problem by explicitly blaming men for sexual violence, effectively erasing female perpetrators. It also uses a clear gendered element to campaign, implying boys are not victims of sexual violence. The campaign is little more than virtue signalling.

Of course, this begs the question of who the campaign reached the “90% of all sexual violence against children is perpetrated by men”. I will let TL;DR explain, as he did a tremendous job of pointing out the gross negligence of this campaign: Continue reading

Not a difficult choice

I will post one more thing about the presidential election. I make no attempt to hide that I have no intention of voting for Donald Trump. The man is entertaining to watch, a total spectle, mesmerizing, yet utterly unqualified to be president. You could pick a random person off the street and they would be better prepared for the job. Trump’s thin-skinned nature may play well in business circles, but in political and global circles it would put the country and world at serious risk.

Many Democrats and liberals will read that and assume I support Hillary Clinton. I will try to make this as clear as possible: I would sooner have a son, raise him to be completely differential to all adults, wait until he reached puberty and take him to Pennsylvania State Penitentiary and leave him stripped naked in Jerry Sandusky’s cell with a bottle of lubricant before I would ever vote for Hillary.

In short, it will never happen. Continue reading

MILO at Auburn University: “Feminism is Cancer for Men… and Women!”

Breitbart reporter Milo Yiannopoulos is currently engaged in his Dangerous Faggot college tour. To date, he has had one school cancel his talk, another was cancelled due to a bomb threat, and one was also sidelined as the college attempted to overcharge for security. Nevertheless, the tour continues.

Milo’s talks have been hit or miss. He is certainly playing to a crowd and being the provocateur. It is difficult at times to parse what he actually thinks verses what he says for the lols. It is clear there is a trolling aspect to his tour, and it may be that his supporters are among those being trolled.

That said, when Milo’s talk work, they work well. I thought he did a good job of breaking down the current issues with modern feminism on college campuses. He does go for a number of low blows, some of them unfair, although still funny. Overall, I think it is important for people to understand the impact modern feminism has on college students and the environment, particularly when it comes to the way the schools operate. Continue reading