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There are many men and boys who experience abuse in their lives. They often do not have a place to talk about those experiences. This post is a space for that.

Any man or boy who wants to share his experiences of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, bullying, and harassment may do so here. You may submit your story as a comment. You can use your own name, a pseudonym, or remain anonymous.
You may share whatever you feel comfortable with, be it your whole story or just a moment.

The purpose of this post is show people what men and boys go through. It is to shed light on the truth of those experiences and shatter the stereotypes of about them.

I will moderate all comments and remove any that are not from men or not on topic. This just to make sure the comments are only from men and only about their stories.

(A note to those posting: if you use profanity, the comment will automatically go into moderation. This applies to all comments on this blog, so it is nothing personal. Once I see the comment, I will approve it.)

No, Game of Thrones is not a triumph for feminists

Last year feminists lost their minds over Game of Thrones. They declared the show “sexist” show because sometimes on the show female characters have bad things happen to them, particularly rape. Never mind that the story is essentially a fantasy version of the real life War of Roses between the Lancasters and the Yorks. Never mind that it is set in a medieval world and therefore abides by the rules and social norms that applied in medieval Europe. No, feminists expected things to be different because they wanted to feel “empowered”.

Of course, feminists completely ignore the mountains of violence and cruelty committed against males on the show, including in the first episode in which a little boy is pushed out of a window and crippled. Feminists had no outrage for the murder of dozens of children who had the misfortune of being Robert Baratheon’s bastards. They did not care about the set up of Jon Snow. They seemed to rejoice in the torture and mutilation of Theon Greyjoy.

Season six, however, presented a change in tone on the show. This past season saw women rise to power. Granted, these are not the most elegant, egalitarian rises. Only one of the women is acting out of honor or valor. All the rest act out of revenge or entitlement, or what feminists call “empowerment”. Because of the focus on these women, feminists now support the show. They also now declare it a secret “feminist fable”: Continue reading

A little discussion about modern feminism

The American Enterprise Institute posted an interview between Christina Hoff Sommers and Camille Paglia. It is a fascinating discussion about the current state of modern feminism within academia. Their conversation reminds me of the commentary in Daphne Patai and Noretta Koertge’s book Professing Feminism. They wrote the book in the late 1990s, yet twenty years later the complaints about the polarizing impact of modern feminism remain the same.

If feminists had the kind self-reflective conversation Sommers and Paglia had during the interview, I suspect more people would become feminists. Instead there appears to be an element within the modern feminist movement that latches onto the worst type of victimology, cognitive dissonance, and self-righteous selfishness. There is no self-reflection, only the arrogant “knowledge” that feminists are right because they say they are right. Continue reading

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Australian Defence Force male recruits share stories of forced sodomy to Royal Commission — Horror stories about sexual abuse of teen recruits to the Australian Defence Force (ADF) continue to surface two years after the sexual abuse on 207 male teens from 1960 to 1984 while aboard HMAS Leeuwin came out. On Tuesday, the mother of a female teen recruit described the horrific sex acts done on her daughter which led the 15-year-old to commit suicide.

Child-sex abuse victim whose abuser is in Australian prison says Brooklyn Jewish group ignored, covered up allegations — Manny Waks says he was sexually abused as a child in Melbourne, Australia, by a member of the Brooklyn-based Chabad-Lubavitch sect. And like many other victims around the globe, the activist says, he’s been unable to get justice from the organization because of New York’s statute of limitations. Under New York State law, survivors have to file lawsuits by their 23rd birthday.

Convicted paedophile awaits sentencing for abuse of boys — The 69-year-old man, who cannot be named to protect the identity of his victims, pleaded guilty at the Central Criminal Court to three charges of sexual abuse on dates between January 1991 and May 1991 while the boys were aged five and 14-years-old. The youngest victim, now 30-years-old, said the man lived in a camper van next to his parent’s home. He said he was a friend of his parent’s and said “they trusted him, so I trusted him”. Continue reading

Taliban exploits child rape to kill Afghan police

As terrible as this is, one must give the Taliban credit for their creativity:

The Taliban are using child sex slaves to mount crippling insider attacks on police in southern Afghanistan, exploiting the pervasive practice of “bacha bazi” — paedophilic boy play — to infiltrate security ranks, multiple officials and survivors of such assaults told AFP.

The ancient custom is prevalent across Afghanistan, but nowhere does it seem as entrenched as in the province of Uruzgan, where “bacha bereesh” — or boys without beards — widely become objects of lustful attraction for powerful police commanders.

The Taliban over nearly two years have used them to mount a wave of Trojan Horse attacks — at least six between January and April alone — that have killed hundreds of policemen, according to security and judicial officials in the province.

“The Taliban are sending boys — beautiful boys, handsome boys — to penetrate checkpoints and kill, drug and poison policemen,” said Ghulam Sakhi Rogh Lewanai, who was Uruzgan’s police chief until he was removed in a security reshuffle in April amid worsening violence.

“They have figured out the biggest weakness of police forces — bacha bazi,” he told AFP.

It is a brazen yet still impressive tactic to use a culture’s pedophilia against them. It also apparently works. The authorities have no idea how to deal with this, largely because the authorities are often the ones keeping boys as sex slaves. The article mentions an instance in which a checkpoint commander’s sex slave killed seven policemen, including the rapist commander, as they slept. He then let the Taliban forces in to ensure everyone was dead.

The Taliban denies using any boys as attackers, yet the evidence clearly shows they do it. And why would they not. Consider this: Continue reading

Man raped at gunpoint by three women

Three South African women kidnapped and raped a man to collect his semen:

According to reports, the three women were driving in a black BMW when they spotted the unsuspecting pedestrian and stopped in the pretense of asking him for directions. One of the women then pointed a gun to his face and forced him into the car.

The women drove the man 500 kilometers (about 311 miles) to a location where they attempted to rape him. When they could not get him aroused, they forced the man to drink a concoction that induced an erection. They repeatedly raped the man, collecting his semen and storing it in a cooler after each ejaculation.

The report states that these incidents are becoming more common. Similar crimes occurred in Johannesburg and Gauteng. Police have yet to arrest anyone for the crimes. It is possible that the assaults stem from an attempt to use the semen as part of traditional medicine: Continue reading

Feminists now want to “reclaim” #NotAllMen

A group of feminists want to reclaim the hashtag #NotAllMen. This comes after feminists spent a fair amount of time turning the hashtag into an anti-male meme used whenever any man challenged a feminist narrative.

This idea of feminists “reclaiming” a hashtag they essentially created and ruined so asinine that I will not bother trying to explain it. I will quote the source and provide further links. From /r/MensLib: Continue reading

A Dose of Stupid v126

It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:

The Washington Post throws its own study under the bus

It must suck when the evidence does not support your narrative. The Washington Post reviewed the federal campus safety data for over 2,000 colleges. According to their findings, over 1,300 of those schools had no reports of rape on campus in 2014. That would seem like a good thing. After all, it would imply no one was raped on campus. However, the Washington Post took the results a different way:

There were no rapes reported in 2014 at California State University at Long Beach, a public university with about 36,000 students. That could seem like a positive sign. But school officials aren’t boasting about it. They know sexual violence victims are often reluctant to step forward, and they want to hear more often from survivors.

“We always operate under the assumption that zero does not really mean zero,” said Cal State Long Beach spokesman Mike Uhlenkamp. “We realize that under-reporting will happen. It is a fact based on the national data. We’re going to try to do what we can to change that culture on our campus.”

Uhlenkamp is correct. Zero reports does not mean zero incidents of sexual violence. However, it also does not mean that 1 in 5 women are raped while in college. Indeed, it would imply that assaults on college campuses are not that common. The Washington Post was undeterred by that: Continue reading