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There are many men and boys who experience abuse in their lives. They often do not have a place to talk about those experiences. This post is a space for that.

Any man or boy who wants to share his experiences of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, bullying, and harassment may do so here. You may submit your story as a comment. You can use your own name, a pseudonym, or remain anonymous.
You may share whatever you feel comfortable with, be it your whole story or just a moment.

The purpose of this post is show people what men and boys go through. It is to shed light on the truth of those experiences and shatter the stereotypes of about them.

I will moderate all comments and remove any that are not from men or not on topic. This just to make sure the comments are only from men and only about their stories.

(A note to those posting: if you use profanity, the comment will automatically go into moderation. This applies to all comments on this blog, so it is nothing personal. Once I see the comment, I will approve it.)

Chrissie Hynde makes me agree with feminists

Even a broken clock is right twice a day. So here comes one of the few instances I am inclined to agree with feminists. The Pretenders singer Chrissie Hynde released her autobiography recently. She recounts in the book an instance of sexual assault:

In her recently completed autobiography, Reckless, Hynde recounts how she was forced to perform sexual acts on members of an Ohio motorcycle gang who had promised to take her to a party, but instead took her to an abandoned house.

“Technically speaking, however you want to look at it, this was all my doing and I take full responsibility,” said the singer, who recalled being high on drugs at the time.

“If I’m walking around and I’m very modestly dressed and I’m keeping to myself and someone attacks me, then I’d say that’s his fault. But if I’m being very lairy and putting it about and being provocative, then you are enticing someone who’s already unhinged – don’t do that. Come on! That’s just common sense.”

“I don’t think I am saying anything controversial, am I?” she concluded.

One can anticipate the feminist response, but for the sake of openness, here it is: Continue reading

When Women Rape Men

TJ Kirk, the Amazing Atheist, explains in explicit detail precisely what is wrong with the fantasy narrative that women raping men is “awesome”:

In Plain Sight: The Rape of Afghan’s Boys

Posted on January 29, 2015

Christian Stephen wrote an in-depth article on Ryot about the systemic rape of Afghanistan’s boys.

I first wrote about the dancing boys (“bacha bazi”) in 2007. Over the last eight years I continued to write about the situation as news about them appeared, yet to my knowledge no one has taken any action to address this problem. The most I saw anyone do was Care2 starting a petition to get then Secretary of State Hilary Clinton to do something. Nothing occurred.

The Canadian government knew about the problem back in 2007, yet initially ignored reports. Even when they acknowledged what happened, the government did nothing to address it beyond trying to silence the soldiers who spoke out about the abuse.

In March of 2014, the U.S. State Department acknowledged the centuries-old practice had become a problem, yet that followed the Obama administration issuing a new Army manual telling troops not to judge Afghan social customs, such as the practice of bacha bazi.

Stephen’s article covers much of the same information the other articles presented. Continue reading

Ex-cheerleader receives probation for child rape

In a move of stunning stupidity, Judge E. Scott Bradley sentenced former cheerleader Baltimore Ravens cheerleader Molly Shattuck to two years of probation for fourth-degree rape. Well, that is not entirely accurate:

Former Baltimore Ravens cheerleader Molly Shattuck was sentenced Friday to two years of probation, with every other weekend in custody, after pleading guilty to raping a 15-year-old boy at a vacation rental home in Delaware.

Shattuck could have received 15 years, but for some bizarre reason Bradley decided that alternating weekends in jail, therapy, and registering as a sex offender was punishment. That is one massive slap on the wrist consider Shattuck originally faced two counts of third-degree rape, four counts of unlawful sexual contact, and three counts of providing alcohol to minors.

Some people may consider this an overreaction consider that the act in question was oral sex. However, one must look how this happened: Continue reading

Where are all the Outraged Feminists?

I meant to post this a while ago, but it slipped my mind. Youtuber TL;DR takes on the rather bizarre claim made by June Eric-Udorie that no men or men’s rights activists talked about Survivors UK losing their funding. She states:

I am outraged and we all should be. Survivors UK run a vital service for men who have been affected by sexual abuse and if it shuts, this will affect countless men in London. But perhaps what makes me angrier is that so few men and men’s rights activists (more commonly known as MRAs online) have condemned this. I’m always being told that feminists don’t give a shit about issues like male rape or suicide. In fact, our detractors contend, feminists don’t give a shit about men. In case you missed the memo, feminists hate men. At least that’s the impression that we get from anti-feminist men and MRAs, mostly active on the web where they moan about men being oppressed because obviously, being a man is so hard these days.

Except there were scores of men’s rights activists writing about it. I discovered what happened because I saw it on r/mensrights on Reddit. TL;DR destroys Eric-Udorie’s idiotic assertion. He also shows what I discovered after I went searching for more information about what happened: virtually no feminists mentioned the funding cut. The only feminist place I found discussing was Salon.

A Dose of Stupid v115

It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:

nypost jared

While few consider the New York Post a bastion of journalistic integrity, one would think they would use better sense than this. Let us set aside that they used the most obvious, easiest, and therefore laziest joke. The problems lies in the context: wishing that some rape Jared Fogle in prison.

Perhaps I missed something over the years. When did rape become the just punishment for rape? Why, when the media reports on these cases, can one find numerous comments applauding the idea of repeatedly brutalizing a convicted rapist in prison? How can people simultaneously hate and call for rape? Continue reading