They are crimes and abuses, but often they’re treated as entertainment. Girls are pressed into the role of seducer or naive victim. Boys are seen as studs.
Sexual misconduct by teachers is remarkably common in American schools, an Associated Press investigation found. But how Americans react to it is deeply split depending on the victim’s gender.
“Hollywood, they think it’s such a hot thing when a guy gets laid at a young age. I tell you, it’s not a hot thing,” said Jeff Pickthorn, who speaks from experience. He was 12 when he began having sex with his seventh-grade teacher, who was 24. “They say that guy’s lucky. I say, no, he’s not lucky at all.”
At the time, Pickthorn might have agreed with them. For several months, he had sex with his teacher until his parents found out and the teacher was pressured to resign. It left him “with no boundaries,” he says now at 54, his life marred by affairs, gambling, and ruined marriages.
The article is a pretty good commentary on how the abuse of boys is viewed in our society. While the article reports that in a 2004 study males were more likely to view the abuse as positive, there is a rather interesting statement that suggests that perhaps women are not as sympathetic as described:
Colorado high school teacher Carrie McCandless got 45 days behind bars for unlawful sexual contact with a 17-year-old male student. Not knowing the victim was her son, a friend remarked to the teen’s mother that having sex with McCandless would be like “climbing Mt. Everest” for any boy.