When a predator strikes

When a predator strikes, society views male and female abuse victims differently:

They are crimes and abuses, but often they’re treated as entertainment. Girls are pressed into the role of seducer or naive victim. Boys are seen as studs.

Sexual misconduct by teachers is remarkably common in American schools, an Associated Press investigation found. But how Americans react to it is deeply split depending on the victim’s gender.

“Hollywood, they think it’s such a hot thing when a guy gets laid at a young age. I tell you, it’s not a hot thing,” said Jeff Pickthorn, who speaks from experience. He was 12 when he began having sex with his seventh-grade teacher, who was 24. “They say that guy’s lucky. I say, no, he’s not lucky at all.”

At the time, Pickthorn might have agreed with them. For several months, he had sex with his teacher until his parents found out and the teacher was pressured to resign. It left him “with no boundaries,” he says now at 54, his life marred by affairs, gambling, and ruined marriages.

The article is a pretty good commentary on how the abuse of boys is viewed in our society. While the article reports that in a 2004 study males were more likely to view the abuse as positive, there is a rather interesting statement that suggests that perhaps women are not as sympathetic as described:

Colorado high school teacher Carrie McCandless got 45 days behind bars for unlawful sexual contact with a 17-year-old male student. Not knowing the victim was her son, a friend remarked to the teen’s mother that having sex with McCandless would be like “climbing Mt. Everest” for any boy.

1 thought on “When a predator strikes

  1. Yes, the article is fairly good. I think the biggest part of the difference between the sexes in viewing these crimes is how we train kids. Girls have been taught to view sex crimes as horrid and a tragedy. Boys have not been so trained and often have some training that any conquest of a female is a good thing. That social training adds up.

    I was sad to see that some girls were being abused by their classmates for reporting, that is so wrong.

    The point of boys not really noticing the damage until they are in their forties has been made before and I think is often a valid point. A major novelist (John Irving?) who was molested by a woman when he was a boy said much the same thing. He didn’t see the damage until he was in his forties and then he was shocked about just how much damage had been done.

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