It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:
One would think that when discussing rape jokes one could not possibly exclude males from such a discussion. In fact, it is likely that upon reading “rape jokes” the first thought in one’s mind was some little quip about soap and bending over in prison. Of course, one would be wrong:
Obviously, a lot of women feel uncomfortable about rape jokes because rape is an ever-present background threat to daily life for us, not just a bit of regrettable “bad sex”. Melissa McEwan at Shakesville has written quite a lot about how rape jokes bolster rape culture, and posted an excellent essay on the subject of rape jokes this week, and it highlighted a point I hadn’t especially considered, and which I wish I had considered: that rape jokes are Post-Traumatic Stress Triggers for those who have been raped.
Between five different posts on three different blogs, the bloggers managed to discuss rape jokes without even mentioning males being on the receiving end of half, if not most, of them. Not one mention. It would be more upsetting if it were not such an impressive feat.
So, just to be clear: jokes about female rape, not funny. Jokes about male rape… wait, males can be raped? Well, even if it were possible, its funny.