In light of my recent kerfuffle with feminists, I thought this article by Robyn Urback was particularly ironic:
Take Back the Night as a movement began in 1975, following the brutal murder of a Philadelphia woman who was stabbed to death walking alone one evening. … Marches now take place annually in countless cities worldwide, as women walk to reclaim the streets and rally against victimization. But while some Take Back the Night marches have grown to accept men, many others — including Toronto’s march this Saturday — have upheld their steadfast “No Boys Allowed” policy. After more than three decades, it’s time for a change. … Organizer Deb Singh is used to hearing the question of why men can’t take part in the latter, and she gives me the short version when I again posed it to her. “It’s not to say that men aren’t survivors of sexual violence,” she says. “But as we know, women are the ones who are disproportionately affected. It is important for us to create a space where women can reclaim that power.”
Urback states, “… the exclusion of men ignores the plight of male survivors of sexual violence, however in the minority they may be.” Urback is wrong on two points. One, in all likelihood sexual violence against males happens as frequently as sexual violence against women. Two, which is more of an oversight, female-on-male sexual violence does not get challenged, discussed, or protested as often as it should either.
However, Urback is correct that Take Back the Night serves as another, feminism-driven mechanism to marginalize male survivors, and in a very insidious way. Feminists often peddle that myth in order to justify excluding men because acknowledging male survivors, as Singh noted, does not fit the feminist paradigm. However, the exclusion does not just perpetuate the myth that sexual violence against males rarely happens. Unfortunately, it also perpetuates many male survivors’ belief that they are the only ones who got hurt.
As I noted in that piece, that kind of sentiment leaves male survivors in the rather bleak situation. No one should experience that kind of profound isolation, let alone have forced on them under the guise of helping more “deserving” and “needing” victims. Yet this is what male survivors generally get from feminists. As much as feminists claim to support equality and want to stop all sexual violence, one can easily find examples of them essentially male survivors’ plight and pain solely to promote a feminist position.
It is hypocrisy at its finest, and as usual such hypocrisy ends up hurting a hell of a lot of men for no good reason.