If it had been a woman…

When a scandal makes news, someone inevitably asks whether things would have happened differently if women had been in charge. Some people believe that women would step in to solve a problem, prevent a problem or stop a problem. Theresa Walsh Giarrusso argues this in her article about the Penn State scandal:

Would a woman have made different decisions? Would a woman have called the police? Would a woman have immediately broken up what McQueary reportedly testified he saw happening in the locker room shower – the alleged rape of a 10-year-old boy?

I believe almost any woman would have immediately marched into that shower and stopped it – even if it was her boss, her father, or someone she respected or someone she feared.

I’m not trying to slam all men, and I think many men would have also handled things differently. However, many men were involved and none called the police.

Would a woman have handled these child abuse allegations differently? Would a woman somewhere in the chain of command have stopped it immediately? Is this a good old boy problem?What is out moral responsibility within the community?

The answer comes from another article published the same day as Giarrusso’s:

A Winston-Salem woman apologized Tuesday for her role in allowing a registered sex offender she was dating to sexually abuse a 9-year-old girl.

“I should have seen the signs, but I can’t go back and change it,” Heidi Lynn Weidemann said in Forsyth Superior Court.

Weidemann, 34, of Goldfloss Street pleaded guilty in April to two counts of felony child abuse involving a sex act and two other related charges in which she was accused of aiding and abetting her boyfriend at the time, Jessie Olin McNeely Jr., who was convicted Monday on charges that he sexually abused the girl.

This is not a “good old boy” problem. This is a power and money problem. The reason the people who knew about the allegations may have kept silent is because it would look bad. I wish it was something more than that. I wish it is was because these men were controlled by “teh evil” masculinity, but it was not. It was just greed and selfishness. They would — allegedly — rather keep the guy who rapes boys than risk losing the guy who makes them the image of winning.

The solution to this problem is to tell people to report the abuse to the police first rather than tell some school official.

8 thoughts on “If it had been a woman…

  1. “This is not a “good old boy” problem. This is a power and money problem. The reason the people who knew about the allegations may have kept silent is because it would look bad.”

    I agree, although I would hasten to add that it is also a moral problem. I know that brings up a can of worms and has fallen out of disfavor to bring up “morality” and all that entails. I recognize the reasons people get squeamish when that word is mentioned, yet I do believe it is part of the problem.

    “It was just greed and selfishness.”

    I agree and like you wish it were not so.

  2. Hmmm, the person who raped me was both a woman AND a mother. I guess that means that when she is not busy drugging and raping people she is just as likely to spend her time saving children from sexual abuse.

    Thanks Theresa. I appreciate the hell out of that…

  3. Ms Giarrusso is using the experience of those boys as a tool to manipulate and spin denigration of men more broadly. She objectifies those victims and their experiences by doing so.

    For safekeeping…

    A couple of years ago a woman from California chatted up a fourteen year old Perth boy over the internet. She subsequently travelled to Aus to have sex with that boy.

    The local media responded with soft focus stories about a cutesy internet romance. Womens’ magazines ran articles under headings such as “Schoolboy Lover”. Her trip was effectively paid for BY those magazines meaning hundreds of thousands of Australian women sponsored that trip.

    So forgive me Ms Giarrusso if I find it difficult to take your assertions seriously.

    And, by the way Ms Giarrusso, there was a woman around when I was molested as a seven year old. She seemed to be having too good a time crushing my body to bother with stopping it.

  4. For God’s sake, there’s no shortage of women who don’t protect THEIR OWN CHILDREN from abuse when it’s more convenient to let it continue, and this woman thinks “almost any woman would have immediately marched into that shower and stopped it – even if it was her boss, her father, or someone she respected or someone she feared” for someone else’s kid?

  5. Truly horrid what I’ve been reading about this. I suppose one or two of the people involved might have “assumed” an investigation was done, but still, I basically agree with you: this was a “see no evil” type of thing mostly due to power and greed. The one accused was useful, thus he was protected instead of them properly getting the police started on an investigation.

  6. News is finally coming out about Sandusky’s personal life. He and his wife Dottie adopted six children. There was a special room in the basement for overnight “guests” Sandusky has been accused of molesting.

    Ready for this… Grand jury testimony indicates Dottie called victim #6 before he was going to testify. Isn’t that witness tampering?

    His wife either covered for him, lent tacit approval or may have even been a co-abuser. Stranger things have happened. And this case just gets stranger.

    Read more at…

    http://mbd.scout.com/mb.aspx?s=157&f=1395&t=8242172&p=1&sto=MS

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