It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:
Stupid is as stupid does
Some men’s rights activists took offense to the feminist twitterfeed called #mencallmethings. Sady Doyle created the feed to list the various insults she receives. Other feminists have joined in. This has been a big deal on feminist blogs because apparently they are awash in nothing but insults. As is typical, those feminists were very quick to claim men never receive any insults, which turned to men rarely receive insults, which turned to men never receive insults based on their sex, which turned to men receive far fewer sex-based insults than women. Granted, few of the people claiming this are men or men’s rights activists, but why deal with details when you can mock men’s rights activists for listing the insults feminists hurl at them?
David Futrelle decided to do just that. In a recent post, he listed the complaints that one men’s rights activist compiled:
“Suck it up like a man!”
“You need to get over your anger at women.”
“You’re afraid of a strong woman!”
“You are so immature!”
“You are just bitter because you can’t get laid.”
“Are you gay?”
“That’s a sexist stereotype!”
“You need therapy.”
“You make me feel afraid.”
“You are so materialistic.”
“No woman will marry you with that attitude.”
“You are insensitive to the plight of women.”
Futrelle then listed Sady Doyle’s compilation:
Slut, cunt, bitch, whore, ugly, dyke, lesbo, unfuckable, crazy, delusional, liar, hysterical, autistic bitch child, feminazi, ballbuster, humorless, heartless whore, man hater, misandrist, stupid little girl, shrieky hysterical moron, airhead, spoiled little princess, stupid bitch, stupid fucking cunt, stupid feminazi cunt, an ugly bitter little woman, cumm guzzling closet lesbian, a pseudo-intellectual Insane Oversensitive Humourless Female supremacist.
Two points. One, I am sure that as a feminist Futrelle does not have a problem with feminists calling men they disagree with rapists, gay, dangerous, unmanly, whiners, babies, delusional, liar, hysterical, creepy, misogynists, or bitter. However, the two lists are not really that different, which leads to point number two: Futrelle edited the men’s rights list.
On the site, the author lists a series of categories and includes various insults under them. Futrelle conveniently left out insults like:
“You’re just afraid of losing your male privileges.”
“Your fragile male ego …”
“You sound like the KKK.”
“I need a real man, not a sissy.”
“You misogynist creep!”
“I bet you are fat and ugly.”
The list is rather long and it is understandable for someone to shorten it, but seems Futrelle only listed the insults he thinks are harmless. That is rather… dishonest.
But, yeah, somehow it’s a little hard for me to feel a ton of sympathy for MRAs who so regularly work themselves into a lather over “shaming language” like “creep” and “loser” and “you are insensitive to the plight of women.”
Yes, I suppose it is much easier to him to feel a ton of sympathy for feminists who so regularly work themselves into a lather over “shaming language” they ironically dish out themselves, such as calling a male survivor a liar and asshole for talking about his abuse, on Futrelle’s own site.
Stupid is as stupid does indeed.