Women Rape Boys, Too

The Good Men Project posted my article about the rate of female-perpetration sexual violence against boys. Hopefully it will spawn a good discussion. So far the comments have mostly polite. It can get tense on GMP, but I would like people to keep it civil.

7 thoughts on “Women Rape Boys, Too

  1. Here is what I posted in case it does not make it past the moderator:

    People sexually abuse other people. Until we get away from dividing people because of gender there will only be limited progress in reducing abuse. Women rape girls too.

    Another thing to consider about the low reporting rates is that female perpetrated sexual abuse is, out of the sexual crimes, probably has the lowest reporting rate with mother-daughter/mother-son sexual abuse being reported the least. Also female perpetrated sexual abuse tends to be sent to social services and family services/family court where as males are sent to the criminal courts. This also skews things.

    As for the person who commented about less violence being involved, my response is so? There does not need to be any physical violence involved to create long term harm. Each case is unique unto itself. Speak to some survivors of female perpetrated sexual abuse and you will find in many cases the psychological harm is just as bad with or without physical violence. You will also find that for some the feelings of betrayal and the re-victimization by others (e.g. not believing, minimizing) is felt by them to be as or more harmful than the actual abuse was.

    Hugo your comment about “rare” is wrong. For example:

    In a study of 17,337 survivors of childhood sexual abuse, 23% had a female-only perpetrator and 22% had both male and female perpetrators. ( Dube, Shanta R et al. “Long-Term Consequences of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Gender of Victim.” American Journal of Preventive Medicine. (2005):28(5), p 430 – 438.

    When it comes to child sexual abuse about 20-25% of it is done by women alone. So while the majority of sexual abuse is committed by males, by no means is it “rare” for a female to sexually abuse a child.

    Another thing is that abuse is abuse and ALL forms of abuse can cause long term harm. This goes back to the each case is unique comment. Someone may have been a victim of neglect or physical abuse and still suffer as much long term harm as someone who has been sexually abused.

    If you want to get a small glimpse into some of this there is a new documentary that has just been released about Mother-Daughter sexual abuse with 4 survivors on that film. You can by it here https://www.createspace.com/299205.

    And if you want to find research studies you can find roughly 600 of them on the topic of female perpetrated sexual abuse or survivors of at this link:

    These include ALL studies that we could find on this topic dating from 1865 to the present.

  2. James,

    A few things for your discussion with Hugo that have actual studies linked and numbers, a lot of studies actually:



    Also remember that it is not just the FBI and their current definition of Rape, some states still have the old definition AND others have changed it over time which means this could impact older studies using those numbers and definitions.

  3. I also posted the study that was presented earlier this year to the U.S. Africa Command about women perpetrating sexual violence against other women and men in the Congo.

    Women reported to have perpetrated conflict-related sexual violence in 41.1% (95% CI, 25.6%-56.6%; n = 54/148) of female cases and 10.0% (95% CI, 1.5%-18.4%; n = 8/66) of male cases.

  4. It’s great that your article is published on the GoodMenProject.

    However some follow-up comments complaining about Hugo disappeared.

    This GoodMenProject is a feminist webpage, and there is biased moderation of comments.

    I think, editing, deleting and banning will sharply rise in future –
    GoodMenProject, we care about men, but only when it fits us….

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