I write often about female sex offenders, but it is rare for me to see any articles detailing how female abusers groom their victims. A recent article, however, does so:
A Melbourne mum used alcohol, drugs and tens of thousands of dollars to groom a teenage friend of her son for an ongoing sexual relationship, a court has heard.
The 52-year-old woman, who cannot be named to protect the victim’s identity, pleaded guilty in the Victorian County Court on Tuesday to repeatedly having sex with the teen over a four-year period.
The teenager was friends with the woman’s son and would regularly sleep over at her house.
On those occasions, the woman would sneak into the room to have sex with the teenager, sometimes as her son slept nearby, the court heard.
After one sexual encounter the teenager vomited in the bathroom for half an hour.
“I’d never had sex before this and I felt sick to the bottom of my stomach,” the boy said in a police statement that was read out in court.
The sexual relationship began in 2002 when the victim was aged 13 and the woman was 41.
According to the article, the woman at one point pushed the boy against a wall and groped him, called his school and claimed to be his mother to take him out of class, bought alcohol for him and his friends to keep him around her, and paid to keep up the boy’s drug habit. In a victim statement, the boy stated, “When I was 15 (the woman) turned me into an addicted drug user. I hate her for everything she did to me. I would give anything to erase what my life has been these past 10 years.”
Of course, the woman’s attorney spun the usual excuses:
Defence lawyer Jane Dixon said her client had been suffering from depression and anxiety and was trapped in a controlling marriage at the time of her crimes.
Forensic psychologist Patrick Newton told the court the woman had an immature and dependent personality with “limited social skills”.
She has pleaded guilty to one count of maintaining a sexual relationship with a child under 16 and will be sentenced on December 6.
The short of it is that woman will not spend much, if any, time in jail for her actions. However, the damage she did to this boy will carry a lot of weight. It has already resulted in him becoming a drug addict.
When people think that female abusers are harmless, this is the kind of thing people need to hear. We do not hear about how confusing sex can be to boys, even teenage boys. We do not hear about the pressure and force some women use to make their victims comply. People need to realize that just like men, women who abuse are not above ruining their victims to get their way.