I have written before about the callous attitudes male survivors face. Some people believe I lie about how bad it is, that I take benign comments out of context and exaggerate what people actually said. I could certainly do that, but unfortunately I do not have to. It is quite easy to find idiotic comments mocking and humiliating male survivors. For example, the Lesbian Mafia decided to take James Landrith to task for talking about his rape. And by take him to task I mean spending several hundred words mocking James and accusing him of lying about his abuse:
Since we’ve been discussing how feminist, trans activist and liberal agenda-makers have been pushing the idea that women rape men, we decided to go gallivanting through the internets for any examples of women raping men. They are hard to find but we DID find this one gem from back in December and we loved it.
“Former U.S. Marine James Landrith joined HuffPost Live, to tell his story of being raped by a pregnant woman decades ago.”
The fun actually starts right in the title of the article: “Women Raping Men: A Survivor Tells His Story To HuffPost Live.”
Did you SURVIVE??!!! Did you narrowly escape the brutality of her penis-envelopment? Were you afraid for your very life? Did you just barely get away from the pregnant brute and her savage treatment? Thank God you escaped!
A lot could be said, however, I just want to note that the above comments were written by people who think they are doing comedy or satire:
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So that explains the pathetic attempt at Daily Show-esque humor. However, it does not explain this:
For everyone who has been “educated” consistently by misinformation peddlers like this, take a look at the updated definition of rape that the FBI came out with last year: “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” It finally includes men and that’s a good thing but what isn’t new and hasn’t changed is that rape is penetration. So this bullshit they push not only takes a giant shit on rape victims, it does the male victims of sexual assault a disservice. It forces us to compare and reduce women’s experiences by elevating sexual assault to rape instead of acknowledging that all people can have levels of non-consensual sex.
Let us stop there. The issue with the FBI definition was that it did not count acts that were counted by the states, therein skewing the FBI’s report on the rate of rape. Feminists petitioned a change to the defintiion from “forcible rape” to “penetration no matter how slight” to include types of sexual violence against women that were not counted as rape by the FBI. The inclusion of male victims was incidental, not intentional. However, the exclusion of female rapists was indeed intentional. All 50 states recognize that women can commit rape, and typically charge women who commit such acts under existing rape statutes. Yet the feminists who pushed for the change in the FBI definition ignored that, meaning that the FBI still does not count acts of female-on-male sexual violence as rape even when states have charged the acts as such.
Excluding the most common way men are raped does male survivors a disservice, as does claiming that counting their assaults as rape means reducing women’s experiences. If one breaks down the FBI definition, performing oral sex on a woman or girl without her consent counts as rape, but performing oral sex on a man or boy without his consent does not. To put it another way, according to the FBI’s current definition, Jerry Sandusky did not rape any of the boys he performed oral sex on.
The Lesbians tried to weasel out of their argument by stating:
Levels of consent and coercion are something that can be addressed but it is NOT the same as rape. And the constant need to make it the SAME will only highlight the difference unless you’re so far off the rails that only the Universe People can save you.
That depends on how one defines rape. If one goes with the older definition, then only a person who is penetrated can be raped. That definition excludes most male victims since most sexual violence against male victims does not include them being penetrated. They are often forced to penetrate, either by being forced to have vaginal or anal intercourse with the rapist, by having oral sex performed on them, or by being forced to perform cunnilingus or analingus.
Of course, such exclusions would lead to situations like the one I noted above. Several of the boys Jerry Sandusky abused only had Sandusky perform acts on them, mostly oral sex. Does it make sense to claim that the boys were not raped because Sandusky put his mouth around their penises instead of making them put their mouths around his?
The better and currently used definition of rape is any non-consensual sex act that involves intercourse. That definition allows for the possibility that the penetrating person may be the victim. Yes, that definition annoys many feminists because it recognizes women as potential rapists. Yet it is the fairest and most accurate definition to go with, especially if acts like fondling a woman’s vagina can count as rape.
The Lesbians seem to really have a problem understanding how James was raped:
This guy is OUT of his fucking mind and they should be ASHAMED for giving this attention seeking douche-bag a forum. And they have the BALLS to call him a SURVIVOR. He was drugged and incapable of resisting BUT contradicts himself in the same SECOND and says he didn’t want to hurt her or the baby and was forced to submit. Which is it? Were you roofied by a serial penis-enveloping rapist or were you afraid to hurt her and therefore in between a rock and a hard place?
That argument would make more sense if the Lesbians did not argue in the next paragraph that roofied women sometimes have spotty memories. It also does not help that “the most common effects [of Rohypnol] include; disinhibition and amnesia, excitability or aggressive behavior, decreased blood pressure, memory impairment, drowsiness, visual disturbances, semi-consciousness, dizziness, confusion, stomach disturbances, and urinary retention.” In other words, it includes the very things James described.
The Lesbians then went into basic victim blaming:
Did you say “I don’t want to have sex with you?” “Get off me?” (anything?) “You didn’t give me a hard-on, I think you’re gross, the waitress is why my dick is hard, not you” did he TRY ANYTHING to stop this calculated rape attack? Because women are grilled by EEEEEVERYONE when they report SURVIVING a rape. They are always asked if they said no. But some dude has nothing but a story, literally a story, and it’s presented as fact…because…he said it on the internet. Because he’s just SAYING it, it’s PROOF.
If the Lesbians had bothered to check James’ initial recounting of the rape years ago, they would have found people asking those stupid questions. But more odd is the notion that because some women are not believed, James should not be believed. How does that help anyone?
Like many feminists who take issue with anyone writing or talking about female-on-male violence, that topic is not the real issue. The real issue is that those feminists think people should be talking about women, and that is the Lesbians’ real point:
There is a devastating rape problem in the U.S. military that desperately needs to be addressed but instead the controlled left-wing media, online and off, uses their platform to draw attention to bullshit stories like this one where a marine says he was roofied and raped by a sick penis-enveloping bitch. We used to think only Fox News worked this tirelessly against women, apparently we were wrong, apparently Fox News could learn a thing or two about working against women from self-described feminists.
Oddly enough, men make up the majority of victims of military sexual trauma (as the military calls it), and female-on-male assaults are the least likely to be reported because of the military culture and because of the potential responses from secular groups. It makes more sense to highlight a case like James because it reveals to us that these types of assaults happen than to bury it or disbelieve it because it does not fit into one’s warped ideological worldview.
Plenty of men in James’ situation might write off the assault as a joke. While they may feel bothered by it on a personal level, if they tell others about it, they will likely poke fun at it, not because they were not traumatized, but because of responses like the one from the Lesbian Mafia.
Those responses are the reason male survivors remain silent. Those responses are the reason why feminists decided not to include women as potential rapists in their rewrite of the FBI definition. Those responses are the reason why most rape centers do not provide outreach or services to male survivors.
This is what it looks like for men and boys who were raped, and it is not a pretty sight.