New study debunks myths about domestic violence

Originally posted on June 25, 2014

This is what happens when people conduct a balanced, impartial study of domestic violence:

Women are more likely than men to be aggressive and controlling towards their partner, according to a study.

The research found that women showed controlling behaviour along with serious levels of threats, intimidation and physical violence when in a relationship more often than men.

More than 1,000 young men and women were questioned about any “Intimate Partner Violence” (IPV) they had inflicted on a girlfriend or boyfriend, or been subjected to themselves.

The results are in contrast to earlier studies which suggested women are almost always the victims of such behaviour.

That flies in the face of the assumption that men commit most domestic violence and that women are the vast majority of victims. It shatters the myth that when women commit violence against men it is always done in self-defense. It leaves the notion that men abuse women out of an oppressive impulse flailing. As Dr. Elizabeth Bates explained in the interview:

“Previous studies have sought to explain male violence towards women as arising from patriarchal values, which motivate men to seek to control women’s behaviour, using violence if necessary.

“This study found that women demonstrated a desire to control their partners and were more likely to use physical aggression than men. This suggests that IPV may not be motivated by patriarchal values and needs to be studied within the context of other forms of aggression, which has potential implications for interventions.”

I can already hear the backlash. I can already hear the retorts about men being bigger and stronger. I can hear the claims about women resorting to slaps and pushing whereas men use their fists. Bates had a response to that:

“It wasn’t just pushing and shoving. Some people were circling the boxes for things like beating up, kicking, and threatening to use a weapon.

“In terms of high levels of control and aggression, there was no difference between men and women.”

She added: “The stereotypical popular view is still one of dominant control by men. That does occur but research over the last 10 to 15 years has highlighted the fact that women are controlling and aggressive in relationships too.

“A contributing factor could be that in the past women have talked about it more. The feminist movement made violence towards women something we talk about. Now there is more support for men and more of them are feeling comfortable coming forward.”

That demonstrates a point I have made for years: we do not know how often men are abused because no one bothers to ask them. Or they do as one professor mentioned in the article did: only look at men in prisons and women in refuges rather than the general population.

Bates looked students in their late teens and early twenties as they were more likely to be victims. Her findings revealed that males tend to target other males rather than females. This is nothing new. The most victims of male violence are other males. However, as a result of feminists politicizing domestic violence, that vital piece of information is typically ignored. Instead of looking at male violence as a whole, feminists pushed the focus on male violence against females, giving the false impression that violent men tend to target women.

Feminists also succeeded in shutting down any conversation and analysis of female violence. The current feminist position on female abusers is that they are rare and largely act in self-defense. This was based conjecture and interviewing abused women, never by actually studying abused men.

The results of this study are important because they can help us understand what violence women actually commit and why they commit it. This is what we ought to do, rather than assuming that women are perpetual victims. If we want to stop domestic violence, we cannot play politics. We have to look at the situation with an unbiased eye.


19 thoughts on “New study debunks myths about domestic violence

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  2. Nice very handy, have reposted it on to NZ men’s site 🙂 as there are multiple reports that completely miss any of that being released , I wonder why !

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  4. And then feminazis will try to counter this by saying “but men are stronger and do more damage”, thus dismissing male victims and female perpetrators of DV.

  5. Does “The Patriarchy” theory (which underpins ALL 3rd Wave Feminist ideology) which attempts to explain why the powerful males subjugate weaker females also explain why females abuse much much weaker children and babies in vastly greater numbers than males ever do?
    Generally accepted as 70% of child abuse perpetrated by females alone.

  6. Makes sense that it would be about even. Men just take it and drink and work themselves to death.

  7. ” I can already hear the retorts about men being bigger and stronger”

    Which only matters in affair fight and is therefore irrelevant most of the time.

  8. Which only matters in affair fight and is therefore irrelevant most of the time.

    Exactly. This is something many feminists seem to miss, particularly when they talk about how little men have to fear walking alone at night. Feminists assume that assailants will announce themselves as if in a formal samurai battle. That does not happen. Usually the assailant just attacks the man. It does not matter how big and strong you are if someone blindsides you. It also does not matter if they use a weapon. Yet feminists tend to conveniently forget that.

  9. “This is something many feminists seem to miss, particularly when they talk about how little men have to fear walking alone at night.”

    They miss everything because they truly believe they already know everything – and these are people who have often always lived in female dominated settings. They really think they understand what men’s lives are like, until they go undercover for a 18 months and end up having a nervous breakdown because of the strain, or until some male close to them gets falsely accused of a rape or whatever. Then the scales fall from their eyes. But until that happens they toddle happily along secure in the belief that ”

    The oppressed knows the oppressor” and after all mothers have eyes in the backs of their heads and see everything (granting themselves the honor of being mothers whether they actually have kids or not.)

  10. But until that happens they toddle happily along secure in the belief that “The oppressed knows the oppressor”

    I recall Hugo Schwyzer saying that years ago. It is a ridiculous notion. The oppresses has no true understanding of the oppressor. They only see the worst of the person, so their view is slanted.

  11. The one thing I don’t like about the article is the comment along the lines of this is new/groundbreaking research and news. You can go to California State University, Long Beach and look at the Bibliography they have on this exact subject.

    SUMMARY: This bibliography examines 286 scholarly investigations: 221 empirical studies and 65 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 371,600.

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