Woman receives suspended sentence for burning boyfriend’s penis

Bronwyn Joy Parker burned her boyfriend’s penis with hair straighteners after she suspected him of cheating:

Bronwyn Joy Parker, 22, had pleaded guilty to recklessly causing serious harm over the incident which left her then boyfriend with third degree burns to his genitalia at her Mount Barker home in December 2013.

In sentencing, District Court Judge Paul Muscat said Parker’s crime was one of the “most unusual” he had encountered during his time in court.

He said the victim suffered third-degree burns to each side of the shaft of his penis requiring treatment in the Burns Unit of the Royal Adelaide Hospital.

According to the report, Parker got her boyfriend to agree to the act as a form of punishment if he cheated. Parker initially intended to burn the man’s testicles, but he talked her into only burning his penis. Granted, “only” is not the most apt word. The man suffered third-degree burns that will require years of treatment:

The court has heard he now requires constant review by medical specialists who have indicated the healing and scarring process may take up to two years.

“In short, his penis will be scarred for life and he will suffer from a number of issues, including the proper function of his penis, not to mention the cosmetic and psychological problems associated with the scarring to such a sensitive site,” Judge Muscat said.

This all began because Parker is apparently an incredibly jealous woman. The judge acknowledged that she frequently physically and emotionally abused her boyfriend if she suspected or he admitted to cheating. The situation worsened to such an extent that Parker talked the man into agreeing to let her burn his testicles with straighteners if he cheated on her. And that is what happened:

“He was unfaithful to you and had spent two nights with his ex-girlfriend and had sex with her. “When you found out about that, you reminded him of his promise to you.

“He asked you ‘What about it?’ referring to the promise he had previously made.

“You told him to remove his penis from his shorts, which he did.

“He said that you could ‘tap it’ with the straighteners after he removed his penis, after you said that you were not going to burn his testicles.”

Let us stop there. If ever there were a clear example of an abusive relationship, this is it. This woman has so much control and power over this man that she got him to agree to allow her to burn one of the most sensitive parts of his body. Imagine what this woman did to this man to get him to that point. Imagine the abuse he had to suffer to break him to such a degree that he would accept being burned as punishment. Yet the judge framed the situation as such:

Judge Muscat said neither of the couple had realised the “seriousness of what you were about to embark on.”

The couple? No, it is not “the couple.” This is purely out of Parker’s mind. She concocted the idea, she bullied her boyfriend into agreeing to it, and she reminded him of his “promise.” Only she is responsible.

“You took his penis in your hand and then, with the other, you placed the straighteners on either side of the shaft of his penis before squeezing them momentarily.

“I need not here say anything of the pain and shock which he then experienced.”

I disagree. People are unaware of what actually happens during a third-degree burn. Here is an explanation:

Third-degree burns are the worst burns. They cause the most damage, extending through every layer of skin. The damage can even reach the bloodstream, major organs, and bones, which can lead to death.

There is a misconception that third-degree means most painful. With this type of burn, the damage is so extensive that you may not feel pain because your nerves are damaged. Depending on the cause, third-degree burns cause the skin to look (follow the link at your own risk):
– waxy and white
– charred
– dark brown
– raised and leathery

Now that we know what this man suffered, let us continue:

The victim had described his penis as “swollen, blistering and pussy and black in colour” after the incident and did not immediately seek treatment because of his embarrassment.

Here are the risks the man faced by not immediately seeking medical attention:

Third-degree burns carry the most risk for complications, such as infections, blood loss, and shock. Still, this doesn’t mean that minor first and second-degree burns can’t cause complications. All burns carry the risk of infections because bacteria can enter broken skin. Sepsis, or a bloodstream infection, can occur in the most severe cases. This can lead to shock or even death.

Tetanus is another possible complication with burns of all levels. Like sepsis, tetanus is a bacterial infection. It affects the nervous system, eventually leading to problems with muscle contractions. As a rule of thumb, every member of your household should receive updated tetanus shots every five years to prevent this type of infection.

Severe burns also carry the risk of hypothermia and hypovolemia. Hypothermia is characterized by dangerously low body temperatures. While this may seem like an unexpected complication of a burn, the condition is actually prompted by excessive loss of body heat from an injury. Hypovolemia, or low blood volume, occurs when your body loses too much blood from a burn.

Scars are a complication of all burns. Severe burns may cause keloids, which are discolored areas of scar tissue on the skin. While keloids aren’t harmful in themselves, they can be bothersome. The appearance of scar tissue can worsen with sun exposure, so be sure to wear adequate sunscreen on any exposed areas.

In short, this is not something that will fully heal and go away. This man will live with this for the rest of his life. Yet the truly disturbing thing is Parker’s nonsense rationale for burning him:

When Parker was interviewed by police she told she had only applied the straightener for a couple of seconds and thought it would only feel like sunburn.

Let us stop there. Women use various forms of hot irons to style their hair. None of them would dare hold a hot straightener to their skin for a couple of seconds. Enough women deal with burns from the utensil barely nicking their skin to know that holding it there for a couple of seconds will hurt much more than a sunburn. That sounds like a lie, which Parker essentially admitted when she stated:

“To start off with, it looked brown around the outside and it didn’t look too bad, it just looked as if you had cooked a piece of meat,” she told police.

What minor sunburn looks brown like a piece of cooked meat? There is simply no way she did not know what she was doing. This is as clear an example of domestic violence as one could get. That is why the judge did this:

Judge Muscat sentenced Parker to nine months’ jail but suspended that sentence upon her entering an 18-month good behaviour bond.

So not only was Parker not charged with domestic violence despite clearly engaging in it and the judge acknowledging her behavior as abusive, but she does not even have to serve a day in jail for her actions. She gets to walk without any actual punishment.

Granted, Australia has a terrible record of addressing domestic violence against men. Prominent feminists like Michael Flood work to silence male victims by denying they exist and downplaying their injuries.

People should make note of the latter in regards to this issue as it is a very common retort from feminists. They will say women report more sever injuries than men. Perhaps, but that may not result from an actual lack of injury against men. The man in this case did not immediately seek help out of embarrassment. Had his wounds been less severe or if he could have treated them himself, it is likely he would not have told anyone, including researchers.

These are the types of assaults that can easily get lost in the perpetual politicking. We do not know how frequently men are severely injured because we cannot know if those men will report their injuries.

Yet that does not explain how this judge can see the evidence of how abusive this woman is and give her a complete pass. She is not even prohibited from contacting her victim.

It is an absolute travesty of justice.

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8 thoughts on “Woman receives suspended sentence for burning boyfriend’s penis

  1. He IS an idiot for allowing it, but he also probably didn’t start out that way. I’d imagine he just wanted her to be happy, and to have peace in his own home, and the only way to do that was to give in to her gradually increasing demands of him. It can start pretty normally, she just wants to know where he is ‘because she worries about him,’ and then if he slips up and doesn’t tell her once or twice she throws a tantrum, and he apologizes, etc. etc. He slowly concedes his moral and emotional power in the relationship, and her demands slowly infringe on his freedoms until he can’t possibly believe he’s come this far down the rabbit hole. Seeking some escape or some peace (because emotional terror is absolutely the worst; there’s no defense against it), he turns to his previous girlfriend who either hasn’t had time to beat him down so far, or hasn’t the inclination to do so. It must be something like that, because the article says it was a couple of days. How beaten down and desperate must a man be to spend multiple days away from his significant other? Upon his return, she throws another tantrum, and I imagine he doesn’t really believe she’ll go through with it.

    Also, had he resisted at any point, it could have become physical (or she could claim emotional abuse) and we all know where that leads. He was pretty much screwed regardless.

    It seems so outlandish and impossible, but just think about the plausible train of events that could have led to it. Any of us could go down that slope, because we ALL want to be loved and to love. We open ourselves to all manner of micro-abuses (as much as I hate the term), and once you cede the power, both moral and emotional (even as small as decision making about dinner), you have to fight twice as hard to get it back. It isn’t fear, Joseph, at least, not always. It’s desperation and emotional bonding. Not always love, but what we WANT to be love.

  2. Love makes fools of us all. I know that sounds trite, but it explains why some men and women put up with absolute scum in relationships. They still feel attracted to them and scuttle back. My flatmate in uni broke up with her boyfriend after he scared her (apparently). He was in tears, then she was, but later they got back together.

    Also, is anyone reminded of that shameful episode of ‘The Talk’ a few years ago? Where a bunch of middle aged boilers accompanied by an equally idiotic audience (all female), were laughing about a similar case, only the excuse was a divorce request. Surprisingly, their idiocy landed them in very hot water, and they were forced to make a grovelling apology. (I reckon that judging by their response, they were more being juvenile and immature than genuinely malevolent.)

  3. OMG!!..she burnt his penis!!?
    Worst think ever to do to a man, poor man!!..I can’t imagine the pain and suffering he was going through when she burned his cock,the most sensitive part of a man’s body, and the pain was more intense because he was alive, and of course his body was feeling the pain of the fire, probably he was so hurt, thanks God that he didn’t die!.

  4. So sick woman, how she could do that to an alive human being, with an alive body and a beating heart, and specially that the human was her man,thanks God she didn’t have the cruel idea to burn him alive.

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