I suppose this was only a matter of time:
An active member of the Norwegian Socialist Left Party (SV) who described himself as an ardent “feminist and anti-racist” explained the difficulty he experienced accepting that he had been anally raped by a male migrant. He said he didn’t blame the man for the attack, and regretted the fact he had been sent back to Somalia.
I read that four times before I could process it. I could not figure out how someone feel guilty about a rapist being deported. It is an odd position to take, and it is made all the more bizarre by how Karsten Nordal Hauken describes “feeling nothing” after being raped by the migrant. He states in the original article (Google translated):
After the rape, I felt I was pushed out of a way of life that I was well inside. I’ve lost so much time, and it was the worst consequence. New conditions and new friends I can always get. The bond that was weakened by years in a haze of marijuana smoke can be strengthened again. But the years in which self-loathing was the only self-esteem I had, the years disappeared in depression and cannabis use, they do not I get back.
It is scary and taboo to talk about young men’s emotional life. I feel forgotten and ignored. But I dare not talk about it, I’m afraid of attacks from all sides. I am afraid that no girls want me, and that other men laugh at me. Afraid that I’ll be perceived as anti feminist when I say that young men who are struggling should get more attention.
But what the hell, we are struggling. We must be seen!
Hauken is right. This type of violence is something we need to talk about to show that women are not the only victims and men are not the only perpetrators. Male victims should not have to keep their assaults secret out of fear of not fitting in or infuriating a hate movement.
Yet my point in posting his words is to show how much this affected him. He fell into self-loathing because of how he thought women, men, and feminists would perceive him. This was not something he could write off, which makes his reaction to learning that the rapist would be deported all the more bizarre:
Speaking to NRK ahead of a new documentary series about young people in Norway dealing with mental illness, Mr. Hauken said of the moment when he was told by telephone at work that his attacker was to be deported: “I was a bit taken by surprise by this message.
“But I remained calm enough to tell the manager that I had to go. The tears, they came the moment I sat in the car. I felt a relief and joy that he was going away forever. I felt that the Norwegian government took on the responsibility to exercise the ultimate revenge, like an angry father who confronts a child abuser.
“But I also got a strong sense of guilt and responsibility. I was the reason why he should not have to leave Norway, and heading for a very uncertain future in Somalia. He had already served his sentence in prison. Should he now be punished again? And this time much harder?”
Let us try to process this: this man was raped by another man. He reports the crime, the rapist is convicted and imprisoned, and upon release is sent back to Somalia. The victim now feels guilty because Somalia is in a state of complete anarchy and is one of the most violent places in the world. Hauken feels responsible because the man who raped him must return to his failed-state of a country.
It is not that I do not understand Hauken’s conflict. I understand having a limit to how much you think someone should be punished. I understand not wanting a person to go to jail. Hauken is not the first rape victim to want some leniency for the rapist.
What completely boggles my mind is why he thinks this. It is not because he is concerned about a specific threat of violence against the rapist. It is not that he thinks the four-and-a-half-year sentence was enough. No, it is that his social justice leanings led him to feeling guilty:
Mr. Hauken found himself unable to blame his attacker, saying “he is not responsible for his actions”. Rather than the rapist being in charge of his own destiny, he said he was merely “a product of an unjust world. A product of an upbringing marked by war and deprivation”, and said that rather than the attack being sexually motivated, it was all about “exerting power” over him.
Again, I had to read this several times to process it because I simply could not fathom how anyone could think this way. How is this rapist not responsible for his actions? Are we to believe that Somalians have no sense of right and wrong? Are we to believe that they do not know it is wrong to rape people? Are we to believe that they are essentially children who cannot help responsible for their actions?
I am a product of a bad upbringing. It would be fair for me to force my 16-year-old godson into sex because of what I experienced? Should I get a pass if I decide to prostitute him? Perhaps if I recorded the sex and distributed it online? If I did those things, would anyone in the Western world care that I spent the first third of my life being physically and sexually abused?
How about those who abused me and my siblings? Should my father, aunts, and uncles receive sympathy because they were raised in an abusive home? This was all that they knew, so that it makes it right for them to abuse their own children?
Again, would anyone care about that? When did someone’s upbringing or social status give them license to assault without consequence?
Why should Hauken feel guilty? Did he ruin Somalia? Did he strip away their government? Did he teach this rapist to rape?
Yes, rape often about exerting power, but that is not an excuse to give it a pass because the rapist may feel powerless. But Hauken doubled down on his politics:
The attack had not in any way dulled his left-wing politics, either. Mr. Hauken said: “I stand rock solid in my opinion that people like him need our help. I want us to continue to help refugees with such a background… For I am a human being first, and not a Norwegian. No, I’m part of the world, and the world is unfortunately unfair”.
I do not know what to make of that. Perhaps it is lost in translation. As reads it now, it is one of the dumbest statements I have ever seen come out of a progressive’s mouth. There is no part in helping refugees that requires you to give a pass to rapists. You can help people because the world is indeed unfair while acknowledging that sometimes the people you help do bad things. When they do them, you punish them.
This is not racist position. This person is a criminal. He committed rape and was later found carrying a knife in public. This is a dangerous person. When someone receives refugee status, it should be on the condition that they not commit crimes or their status will be revoked. This man committed rape. The authorities arrested, charged, tried, convicted, sentenced, and imprisoned him according to their law. Once he was done with his sentence, what reason would they have to let him go free in Norway?
That is not worst example of this strange apologism in the Breitbart article. It goes on to list this incident:
Another young activist fallen victim to their own politics was one woman volunteering at a migrant camp on the French-Italian border. While the migrants living at the facility held a party, she was cornered in a shower-block and gang raped by a group of African males, her screams unheard over the music.
Concious [sic] that her attack could be used to damage the peaceful reputation of migrants, she decided to cover up her own rape.
If there were ever proof that the progressive ideology is the most backwards ideology one could find, this would be it. Here you have people who are likely anti-rape activists excusing and covering up rape so as not to be seen as racist. The amount of Western white guilt that must have been heaped on these two to get them to these positions must be colossal. No one else would think this way. It is completely absurd.
Let me state that I have no problem with people forgiving those who assault them. I have no problem with people maintaining a relationship with someone who assaulted them. I speak with my family frequently. I understand that. This is a normal response when one has bonds with other people. I cannot bring myself to cut my family off, and I would never fault anyone who felt the same way. People forgive, forget, or forgive and forget. They may do whatever works for them.
Yet they must have a better reason than “I’m a privileged white person” or “if I come forward people will be racist”. It is the most bizarre example of victim blaming I have ever seen, made all the most shocking because they are doing it to themselves.