If you need to lead into a conversation about the recent Orlando shooting with a list of why you are not attacking men and masculinity as you proceed to blame men and masculinity for the shooting, there is a problem.
It took feminists only a few hours to start in on their “toxic masculinity” narrative after the shooting in Orlando. Now that they have had five days, feminists have written a series of articles blaming masculinity the shooting and the sexual assault by Brock Turner.
The most recent, Two violent men, two symptoms of the same sickness, offered this gem:
Sociologists are pattern seekers. This problem is bigger than Brock Turner and Omar Mateen. It’s Kevin James Loibl, who sought out and killed the singer Christina Grimmie the night before the massacre at Pulse. It’s James Wesley Howell, who was caught with explosives on his way to the Los Angeles Pride Parade later that morning. It’s the grotesque list of men who used guns to defend their sense of superiority that I collected and documented last summer.
The problem is men’s investment in masculinity itself. It offers rewards only because at least some people agree that it makes a person better than someone else. That sense of superiority is, arguably, why men like Turner feel entitled to violating an unconscious woman’s body and why ones like Mateen will defend it with murderous rampages, even if it means destroying themselves in the process. And unless something changes, there will be another sickening crisis to turn to, and another sinking sense of familiarity.
This must stop.
Every time a mass shooting or killing happens, which unfortunately happens all too often in the United States, feminists jump in and blame “toxic masculinity”. It does not matter if there is clear evidence the assailant suffered from mental illness, held a specific bias or hatred against the victims, suffered from anger problems, experienced bullying and abuse, or simply did not care about other people’s lives. No matter the situation or circumstance, feminists always have the same response: it was “toxic masculinity”.
No, it was not.
Brock Turner abused alcohol and targeted a woman who he may have had legitimate interest in and who may have initially consented to sex with him. When she passed out, Turner not only continued to engage in violent sexual activity with her, but also shoved pine needles into her vagina for some unknown reason. He had to be pulled off of her, and when he was he ran.
He had no sense of entitlement to women’s bodies nor did he express any privilege due to his family’s economic status and his race. He acted like an ass. How much of that was fueled by alcohol is unclear, yet that would not make any difference. He chose to drink, and if he drank to the point that he could not control himself, that too is his responsibility.
Omar Mateen grew up in a religion that reviles homosexuality. He grew up in a religion that holds sexist views about women. He was bullied following the September 11th attacks, and appeared to applaud the terrorist attack. By adulthood, Mateen openly sided with terrorists. This is despite being born and raised in the United States.
While he may have had the view that women are inferior, his targets were not women. They were gay people, overwhelmingly men. Mateen apparently visited gay clubs and used gay dating apps. He was closeted homosexual who could not express his sexual interests due to his religious and cultural background. His attitude and actions appear to stem from the combination of all those factors.
Neither Turner or Mateen represent all men, all white people, all Muslims, all Afghans, or all gay men.
Stop blaming men and masculinity for people behaving badly.
Men did not make these two assault or kill anyone. Turner and Mateen chose to act. They and they alone bear the responsibility for those actions.
But better yet, stop exploiting tragedies. Stop using something that has nothing to do with your bigoted ideology to peddle your misandrous narrative.
You do not like men. We understand that. Now let us move on and actually address the problems that led to these acts.