Lena Dunham stumbled onto a basic truth about the public: people do not like when you lie about other people.
It is a curious thing as the same people who will object to a blatant lie in one instance will accept the most ridiculous rumors and claims in another instance. Where people tend to draw the line is when the accusation is so wildly out of a person’s character. Case in point, Dunham decided to accuse New York Giant wide receiver Odell Beckham Jr. of misogyny and sexual rejection because he ignored her at an event. As Dunham explained to her friend Amy Schumer:
You and I were literally sitting across from each other at the Met Ball, and it was so surreal to get to do that.
I was sitting next to Odell Beckham Jr., and it was so amazing because it was like he looked at me and he determined I was not the shape of a woman by his standards. He was like, “That’s a marshmallow. That’s a child. That’s a dog.” It wasn’t mean — he just seemed confused.
The vibe was very much like, “Do I want to fuck it? Is it wearing a … yep, it’s wearing a tuxedo. I’m going to go back to my cell phone.” It was like we were forced to be together, and he literally was scrolling Instagram rather than have to look at a woman in a bow tie. I was like, “This should be called the Metropolitan Museum of Getting Rejected by Athletes.”
To be fair, Dunham went to the Met Ball dressed in a tuxedo and big glasses. Chances are that Beckham Jr. neither knew who Dunham was or cared, and simply continued on with whatever he was doing. Had Dunham been that anxious to speak to him, she could have started up a conversation. Instead, she accused the man of unspoken misogyny because he did not find her sexually attractive. This is despite Dunham knowing nothing about Beckham Jr.’s sexual preferences or his general opinion of women.
Dunham’s reaction is a perfect example of the type of mentality that drives many modern feminists. These are people who are so self-absorbed that they cannot fathom that men would not find them interesting. In layman’s terms, these feminists consider themselves “ultra fuckable”.
Many people noted the absurdity of Dunham’s claim, and this is where it becomes interesting. The reason is because the negative response normally would not happen. The progressives would normally rally around Dunham and defend her insights. The problem is that she choose a well-known target and depicted him in a way that is uncharacteristic of his actual behavior. Instead of support, Dunham received a wave of raised eyebrows.
As a result, Dunham attempted to backtrack her previous comments by issuing an apology:
I owe Odell Beckham Jr. an apology. Despite my moments of bravado, I struggle at industry events (and in life) with the sense that I don’t rep a certain standard of beauty and so when I show up to the Met Ball surrounded by models and swan-like actresses it’s hard not to feel like a sack of flaming garbage. This felt especially intense with a handsome athlete as my dinner companion and a bunch of women I was sure he’d rather be seated with. But I went ahead and projected these insecurities and made totally narcissistic assumptions about what he was thinking, then presented those assumptions as facts.
She did a little more than that. She played into the feminist narrative that men are so sex obsessed that all they think when they see women is whether the women are worth a go. She also played into a rather old racist trope of about black men’s “lust” for white women. That one was likely unconscious, but it is there.
More troubling is that she decided to play politics with these views. She could have shared them privately, but instead chose to make them public. That was clearly intentional, and she probably thought people would go along with her claims. When they did not, Dunham looked foolish, and it took her some time to realize her mistake.
She continued in her apology:
I feel terrible about it.
No, she does not. She likely feels terrible that her attempt at attacking a popular male athlete blew up in her face. It is unlikely she thinks she did anything wrong to Beckham Jr.
Because after listening to lots of valid criticism, I see how unfair it is to ascribe misogynistic thoughts to someone I don’t know AT ALL. Like, we have never met, I have no idea the kind of day he’s having or what his truth is.
That has not stopped feminists like Dunham before. Scores of prominent feminists make ridiculous claims about men they do not know. Again, the difference here is that Dunham picked a well-known figure with a detailed history of public behavior. She presented him in a way that was totally out of character. Had he been a lesser known figure, someone working at the Met Ball, or a random man, Dunham would have gotten away with it.
But most importantly, I would never intentionally contribute to a long and often violent history of the over-sexualization of black male bodies- as well as false accusations by white women towards black men.
Yet she did. It may have been unintentional, yet it still happened. One would think that someone so obsessed with political correctness would have factored that into her narrative. However, ego, particularly one led by media-fueled narcissism, can prevent a person from seeing the obvious. Dunham walked herself into that trap with such gusto that one would she knew what would happen.
I’m so sorry, particularly to OBJ, who has every right to be on his cell phone. The fact is I don’t know about his state of mind (I don’t know a lot of things) and I shouldn’t have acted like I did. Much love and thanks, Lena
The apology sounds hollow, mostly because Dunham is not sorry for what she did. She is merely sorry that her usual antics flopped.
There is something positive to take from this incident. It reveals how many modern feminists think. It shows that their claims about men have nothing to do with anything men do to them. It all comes from feminists’ minds. They project their feelings about men onto men and then play the victim. The more these incidents happen, the more people will realize that much of the feminist commentary is complete nonsense.
It is merely a narcissistic fantasy played out in public view.