Stop the Abuse: MaleSurvivor

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so. Every month I will post a new link to an organization that provides services for male victims. As the list grows, I will create a page where all the links can be found.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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MaleSurvivor

Since the late 1970s research has documented that 1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before her 18th birthday and that at least 1 in 6 boys suffers the same fate. Any person who has been sexually abused – male or female – experiences lasting effects and enduring emotional pain. Most of the organizations that serve survivors of sexual abuse have been created by women for women. Because so few people know that large numbers of males are sexually abused, male survivors have been unseen, neglected and therefore underserved.

Sadly, for males caught in this tragedy not of their own making, instead of needed understanding they confront profound misunderstanding in a culture that values invulnerability and denial of pain as essential qualities of manliness. Men simply are not allowed to admit that they have been sexually exploited and abused!

People with histories of sexual abuse and their therapists have found that individuals must have the support of others during their recoveries. Because of societal attitudes (especially denial) toward the sexual abuse of males, we believe that boys and men need added support to come forward and ask for help. If the community fails to see signs of abuse or ignores a cry for help, a child or adult may feel utterly abandoned and not speak up again – often leading to years of emotional trauma.

Identification, assessment and intervention will help prevent abused boys from becoming self-destructive or abusive adolescents and men. MaleSurvivor exists to serve any male who has been sexually abused. Although our work is directed to males, we are interested in helping any victim of sexual abuse.

Please donate and help make a difference.

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10 thoughts on “Stop the Abuse: MaleSurvivor

  1. Cool. I tried translating your page in babel fish, but there was not a selection for Danish to English. If it is possible, could you post the links in this thread and I will add them to the resources page I am going to make.

  2. Dear Nice Guy,
    We are gathering men’s rights bloggers to allow for worldwide coverage. For an article once a month we will promote your blog heavily. The article just needs to cover men’s rights news in your region, and or, a special narrow issue you feel you are very experienced and interested in though with an international scope.

    This is to avoid overlap of our writers all covering the same issues all at the same time. The long term plans are for a serious men’s rights news network. We already have a very large site doing things other people aren’t, but this worldwide coverage will start in November or a little later when we get all the profiles in.

    If you are interested in working with over 15 men in 7 countries to get the news to men give us a shout at oct1st2005@yahoo.com

    Regardless of what you choose to do keep up the hard work & thanks for your time,
    Timocrat

  3. Dear Soldier,
    We are gathering men’s rights bloggers to allow for worldwide coverage. For an article once a month we will promote your blog heavily. The article just needs to cover men’s rights news in your region, and or, a special narrow issue you feel you are very experienced and interested in though with an international scope.

    This is to avoid overlap of our writers all covering the same issues all at the same time. The long term plans are for a serious men’s rights news network. We already have a very large site doing things other people aren’t, but this worldwide coverage will start in November or a little later when we get all the profiles in.

    If you are interested in working with over 15 men in 7 countries to get the news to men give us a shout at oct1st2005@yahoo.com

    Regardless of what you choose to do keep up the hard work & thanks for your time,
    Timocrat

  4. Hans Side: I can read Danish (am Norwegian), but I can’t seem to find anything about male victims and so on on http://hansside.dk . I can only see about 15 blog posts in the category sjove ting (fun stuff). Is it the right URL?

  5. Sorry for OT comment, but over at Man Boobz they are having a grand old time making fun of Justin Bieber’s victimization at the handes of a 19 year old female assailant. Here is my post at Man Boobz:

    Where is Toy Soldier when you need him? The man boobz brigade is:

    1) Beating up on a rape victim:
    “Triple points if it’s a teeny bopper popstar!”

    2) Blaming him for his victimization:
    “Here’s the thing about celebrities of both genders – they all tend to have obsessive fans who will sometimes go to great lengths to get their celebrity of choice’s attention.”

    2) Excusing the assailant:
    “The girl who accused him of fathering her baby was probably emotionally disturbed.”

    3) Glorifying the assault:
    “Do they have a website? How can I apply for employment?”
    “He wasn’t abused by an older woman was he? D:”

    4) And trivializing his experience:
    “Yeah, so he’s still rich and famous and she’s a national laughingstock who got no money, but he was VERY NEARLY INCONVENIENCED.”

    Congratulations, good work. Going to re-post on Toy Soldier’s web site, hopefully he will run a full story about this outrage.

  6. To be fair, Anthony, they do not technically condone child abuse. They do play into a number of stereotypes about the harm false allegations do to men and boys, but I think most of the comments were about Bieber’s fame and wealth. That said, it is rather interesting that only one of the regulars (LBT, who is a male survivor) noted that if said pregnancy were real that the woman committed a sex offense.

    What I think is truly pathetic and disturbing is that instead of responding to you like a normal person, several of them decided to tell you to go to therapy, as if someone thinking that an adult claiming to have had sex with a teenage pop star is a crime makes you crazy.

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