Bulletin Board v179

Abuse survivor launches financial assistance foundation — A new foundation has been created to help male survivors access counselling. The Canadian Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse was created by a former Cambrian College student who said he was fortunate enough to have the cost of his counselling covered when he was still in school. Paul Leduc was a student two years ago when he had his breakdown. “I was here for about four months or so when I sort of hit a bit of a rock bottom,” he said.

Detectives try to give abused kids ‘some happiness on Christmas’ — The detectives say they granted the 6-year-old boy’s first Christmas wish early when they were able to arrest his grandmother on abuse charges.Area Central Detective Joseph Mancilla said that at first, when the boy was asked what he wanted for Christmas, he said, “I just don’t want my sister to be beaten anymore.” Last month the grandmother of the boy and his 5-year-old sister, Goldine Williams, 47, of the 7500 block of South Kingston Avenue, was charged with aggravated battery of a child.

Exonerated after 28 years in prison, man asks for apology from rape victim — It was an emotional day for “Mary Smith,” the Highland Park woman who said she finally got justice Thursday. She finally got to say what she wanted to say to Marion Sayles, the man who raped, shot, and left her for dead 30 years ago. “How dare you? You tried to destroy my life. And by the grace of God, I’m here. And you are now serving a life sentence for what you did to me. God bless you,” Smith said. Sayles sat quietly as his sentence was read.

Homeland Security Takes Steps To Implement Prison Rape Elimination Act Guidelines — Earlier this year, the Department of Justice released its final guidelines for implementation of the Prison Rape Elimination Act (PREA), which it has been developing since the law passed in 2003. The new rules contain specific protections for those who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex (LGBTI), or who are otherwise gender non-conforming, including professional training for all correctional staff to minimize mistreatment. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v176

A priest notorious in school for ‘tampering with boys’ — In March 2009, Spiritan/Holy Ghost priest Fr Henry Maloney pleaded guilty in the Circuit Criminal Court to abusing Mark Vincent Healy and the late Paul Daly when both were pupils at St Marys College in Dublins Rathmines between 1969 and 1973. He was given a suspended sentence due to ill health and as he was already under strict supervision at Kimmage Manor in Dublin, where he has been since.

Boy Scout files show nearly 20 sex-abuse cases with New Orleans connections — More than 70 Louisiana cases are listed among the “perversion files” — a vast, long-secret collection of documents chronicling men cast out of the Boy Scouts of America over the past six decades because, in many cases, they were suspected of being child molesters. Nearly 20 of the cases have a connection to New Orleans — a city particularly salient in the history of the Scouts as the site of the organization’s first well-known sex-abuse scandal 36 years ago.

Boy Scouts of America: Safety net for youths still has flaws — A Boy Scout meeting at an elementary school in Bloomington, Ill., came to an unexpected end for one adult volunteer: Police arrested the uniformed assistant scoutmaster, acting on a tip about a convicted sex offender in a school zone. Brian Liska was surprised by his arrest in October 2011 — just as he’d been surprised months earlier when he learned that the Boy Scouts of America’s national office had approved him as a volunteer in the first place. “It kind of puzzled me,” Liska, 38, said in a recent phone interview.  Continue reading

Judge deliberately ruins children’s relationship with their father

Originally posted on June 25, 2012

We often hear about how the family court system is biased against fathers. We often hear about cases where mothers lie about abuse, falsely claiming that the fathers abused their children. We often hear about fathers losing custody and contact with their kids despite no evidence of any abuse. What we do not hear is an explanation for why judges who know the mothers lied still tear children away from their fathers.

One judge has now given us an insight into that. Magistrate Tom Altobelli wrote a letter to two children who were separated from their father as a result of his ruling. Here is his letter in full: Continue reading

Cutting out dad

I do not usually write about father’s rights issues, but this story caught my eye:

Europe’s highest court on human rights will decide if a lesbian can adopt her partner’s child, in this case stripping the father of his parental rights to his son.

The case is very simple according to Gregor Puppinck of the European Centre for Law and Justice (ECLJ). “The two female partners want to oust the father and, since the law does not allow them to do so, they claim it is discriminatory,” Gregor reported in Turtle Bay and Beyond, C-FAM’s blog.

The Grand Chamber of the European Court of Human Rights will hear the case X and others v. Austria on October 3.  Its decision will apply to all 47 countries in the Council of Europe and cannot be appealed.

Austria’s attorney has pointed out that most European countries do not allow a child to have two mothers or two fathers. A homosexual rights attorney who brought the case argued that this is sexual discrimination.

Here is the problem: the man has been a part of his son’s life from the beginning. Since 1995, the father has paid alimony to the mother and frequently visits with his son. However, now the mother and her lesbian partner want the father stripped of his rights because the pair want to be recognized as a “family”.  Continue reading

Bulletin Board v168

Ex-Penn State president Graham Spanier says he was abused as a kid — Hoping to fight the perception he aided in the coverup of Jerry Sandusky’s pattern of child molestation, ex-Penn State president Graham Spanier sent a three-page letter Monday to the school’s board of trustees defending himself. The letter, which has since been obtained by the Patriot-News and other media outlets, insists that he would not have turned “a blind eye” to Sandusky’s victims because of Spanier’s own abuse history.

Former quarterback admits to sexual abuse of 11-yr-old, says ‘We are gay.’ — New details have been released leading up to the arrest of a former Edinburg North quarterback on child sex charges. Police documents indicate 18-year-old Joel Cuellar admitted to sexually abusing an 11-year-old boy continuously over a three month period before his arrest last Friday at a McAllen soccer park. In the report, Cuellar admits that he was supposed to take the unnamed male to the movies on the night officers discovered them in a parked car, shirtless with Cuellar’s pants down.

Monsignor Lynn sentenced to jail for role in church sex abuse — In a soft and clear voice, disgraced Catholic Monsignor William Lynn stood Tuesday before a packed courtroom and apologized for the years of sexual abuse a young man suffered at the hands of defrocked priest Edward Avery, whom Lynn transferred to the boy’s parish despite knowing that he had abused another boy. “I did my best,” said Lynn, 61, who served as secretary for clergy for the Archdiocese of Philadelphia from 1992 to 2004.

New California Law Protects Military Parents Child Custody Rights — Governor Edmund G. Brown, Jr. signed into law AB 1807, protecting child custody rights for military parents. Assemblyman Paul Cook, R-Yucca Valley, introduced the legislation to protect our military parents. Fathers and Families has lobbied and advocated for the rights of our military in child custody. This legislation is another success. When a divorced couple shares custody of a child and one of the parents is deployed due to military orders, full custody of the child is given temporarily to the non-deployed parent.  Continue reading

Bulletin Board v167

Aversion to Therapy: Why Won’t Men Get Help? — Twenty years ago, Bob Smith’s wife questioned his commitment as a father. She demanded he see a psychiatrist. Smith (not his real name) grudgingly obliged. He went. Once. “The idea of paying some guy $300 an hour to massage your issues,” says Smith, a Los Angeles-area attorney in his early 60s, “is ridiculous.” In fact, the psychiatrist Smith talked to found plenty of issues to massage. His 45-minute assessment suggested that Smith was toting a veritable luggage store full of psychological baggage that needed unpacking.

The Boy Scouts of America kept secret sex abuse files hidden for decades — For decades, the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) kept secret files of accused pedophiles, a process meant to identify and ban molesters from working with children. But, an ABC15 Investigation found that didn’t always happen. The BSA tracked thousands of allegations from around the country, involving scout masters molesting boy scouts. But our investigation discovered, few cases were reported to authorities.

Central Africa: Invisible Victims – Sexual Violence Against Men in the Great Lakes — According to recent studies, 48 women are raped every hour in the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) and the country has been ranked as the second most dangerous to be a woman in the world. Gender-based violence in the region has become widespread and there has been a proliferation of non-governmental organisations and donor efforts to aid the plight of female victims. Much less attention is being paid, however, to male victims of rape. Like women, men are also targeted and suffer sexual violence.

Emaciated, 85-pound teenage boy found in burning Deerfield Beach home — When Broward Sheriff’s Office investigators found the emaciated 14-year-old boy, he weighed 85 pounds. He had also overdosed on cocaine, marijuana and a cocktail of other drugs. His father, Darin MacDannald, 47, was charged with cruelty toward a child and infliction of physical/mental injury. The Deerfield Beach man was being held on a $7,500 bond Thursday in Broward County jail. Continue reading

This Is What It Looks Like v6

Child abuse does not happen in a vacuum. As much as it remains hidden from plain sight, it is predictable. We can usually tell when an abusive situation exists, and once we know a little about the players, we can usually tell why it happened. It is only because of our desire to keep out of other people’s business and pretend the world is a generally good place that we “miss” the warning signs.

There is not just one cause of abuse. A myriad of things come into play, such as drug abuse, mental illness, religious views, personality issues, prejudice, and political views. It is the latter two that prompted this post.

Hugo Schwyzer recently had a son. He wrote about his son’s birth on Role/Reboot. You would think it would be a joyous occasion, but Schwyzer had a fear:  Continue reading