SNL thinks “hot teacher sex” is funny

As readers of his blog will know, child rape is hilarious. Anytime an adult takes advantage of their authority, trust, and power to sexually exploit a child it is the height of humor. Indeed, the older the child, the funnier the assault because we all know teens always want sex with smoking hot adults. It is not as if it is a complete betrayal or taking advantage of the less experienced party. No, the scenario is hysterical, unless the child is a girl, in which case no comedy show would make a sketch mocking the idea of charging two adults for having sex with a 16-year-old.

Fortunately, Saturday Night Live had the forethought and maturity to mock the idea of charging two women with raping a 16-year-old boy, hence last Saturday’s sketch titled Teacher Trial with Rhonda Rousey:

The humor practically writes itself. Continue reading

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Canonbury sex offence man jailed for 13 years after abusing his position of trust — Leslie Paul, 64, of Clephane Road, was sentenced at Blackfriars Crown Court for offences of indecent assault and indecency while working as a carer for Lambeth Social Services. Between 1980 and 1988, Paul carried out the offences at Lambeth Children’s Home in South Vale, where the four male victims resided. In October 2012, the first victim came forward to report allegations against Paul.

Case begins in trial of woman suspected of young son’s sexual abuse — The trial of a woman suspected of having sex with her adopted son began Friday with the prosecutor telling jurors the case is about a 12-year-old boy and the events he would describe, and a defense lawyer saying her client is the victim of threats by her boyfriend and that the woman never had sex with the boy. Deputy District Attorney Mary Nguyen during her opening statement in Solano County Superior Court told jurors Friday that defendant Michelle V. Souza had intercourse with her adopted son, now 12, and instructed him not to tell anybody.

Domestic abuse: Men ‘need more help’, victims’ organisation says — The Men’s Advisory Project said it supported 536 clients in 2015 compared to 294 in 2013. But while victims often suffer similar hardship, it said the services available for men in Northern Ireland are less extensive than for women. One man who knows how difficult it can be to get help is Paul. Paul, whose name has been changed to protect his identity, walked away from his 25-year marriage after suffering physical, emotional and psychological abuse. Continue reading

Confronting the stigmas of male victimization

A recent article on Sheknows tackled the issue of the stigmas male domestic violence victims face. Author Cailyn Cox noted:

When we hear of a female victim of domestic abuse, we are sickened, horrified and angry, but is the reaction the same when the victim is male?

More than 700,000 men a year are believed to fall victim to violent attacks from their partners, but according to The Telegraph, many of these acts go unreported, as men fear the consequences of reporting the offence.

Such consequences include shame and embarrassment, which stem from the stigma attached to the abuse, as well as fear that they themselves may be arrested after their abusers make false accusations in retaliation.

Dr Jessica McCarrick, a senior lecturer in counselling psychology at Teesside University, carried out a study on male domestic violence victims, and her report revealed that men were often “treated with suspicion by the criminal justice system” — the very system they are meant to be relying on for protection.

Wherever would they get such a notion? Surely no country, such as Australia for example, would have it written into their general policy to treat male victims of domestic violence as abusers until proven otherwise: Continue reading

Matthew Santoro: My Abuse Story

I thought I would share Matthew Santoro’s video about his abuse at the hands of an ex-girlfriend. It takes Santoro some time before he is able to describe what happened to him. I have seen that before with many abused men. They are not used to talking about it, and quite often all the emotions rush forward at once.

The video has made the rounds on the internet, and I hope that more comes from it than people merely listening to him speak and saying how sorry they feel for him. People should listen to what he says about how this woman abused him. Listen to the ways in which his abuser worked. Listen to how she manipulated him and others. Listen to how she used the situation and her sex to her advantage.

These are things that male victims face. These are the things that keep many men from coming forward. Part of what makes Santoro’s story so powerful is that you can see his face. You can see the affect the abuse had on him. The visual makes it harder to dismiss him.

We need to understand that domestic violence is not about male oppression of females, but about one person controlling another. It knows no sex. It is purely about power through fear.

Please take the time to listen to Santoro’s story. Continue reading

South Korea: Male victims on the rise

The South Korean government released a report on the increased reporting of sexual violence against males. According to the report, the rate jumped 42% in 2014 compared to the prior three years:

According to the report released by the Ministry of Gender Equality and Family, the number of male victims of sexual offenses reported to the police has risen rapidly from 749 in 2011 to 828 in 2012, 1,021 in 2013 and 1,066 in 2014.

Following the increase, men made up 5.1 percent of victims of the total sexual offenses reported in 2014, up from 3.8 percent in 2011.

By type, sexual harassment represents 60 percent of cases for male victims, followed by rape with 20 percent.

The numbers show that South Korean men are reporting more instances of assaults. This may occur as a result of greater international coverage of sexual violence against males. South Korean, however, only recognizes forced vaginal penetration as rape. Same-sex assaults are defined as “rape-like” and carry lesser sentences. The law also does not recognize female-on-male assaults as rape.

The report also revealed the impact the assault had on men: Continue reading

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Attorney: St. George’s School trying ‘to silence victims’ in sex abuse case — Past and present St. George’s School administrators have attempted “to silence victims” to “prevent a scandal” over accusations of systemic sexual abuse dating to the 1970s and 1980s, says an attorney for three St. George’s alumni who are pressing the issue. Attorney Eric MacLeish spoke in advance of a news conference Tuesday at which he and three women who say they were sexually victimized in the 1970s by the school’s former athletic trainer Al Gibbs, are scheduled to release a rebuttal to a Dec. 23, 2015, report by St. George’s School.

Children’s home former head and ex-chaplain jailed for sex abuse of boys — A former head of a children’s home run by a Catholic order who has already served 21 years in prison for sexually abusing boys has been jailed for a further nine years. James Carragher was head from 1976 to 1990 of St William’s – an approved school for boys with behavioural problems in Market Weighton, East Yorkshire, run by the Catholic De La Salle order. Carragher, 75, was jailed for seven years in 1993 and a further 14 years in 2004 for offences he committed at St William’s.

Colo. Man Who Spent 28 Years in Prison for Rape After Woman Claimed His Face Came to Her in a Dream Is Freed — In 1988 a Colorado man was convicted of raping a woman. The victim, according to the Associated Press, had been out drinking the night in August 1987 when she was attacked. When she reported the assault to police, she initially named a different man as her attacker (who would later say that he had sex with her that night). But the next day, while in the hospital, the woman claimed that a neighbor, Clarence Moses-EL, had attacked her and that his face came to her in a dream. Continue reading

Understanding Intimate Partner Violence: An Australian Perspective

A commenter named astyaagraha posted information about how the Australian government treats male victims of domestic violence on reddit. The information is hardly surprising. It shows how the Australian government uses a double standard when it comes to assisting male victims, or more accurately male abusers since their policy is to assume men claiming abuse at the hands of women are lying and are actually abusers. This is exactly how one would expect a feminist-run program to treat men, and it certainly lives up one’s woeful expectations. Here is astyaagraha’s full comment from reddit: Continue reading