Rape away the gay

The lengths religious fundamentalists will go to “combat” homosexuality never cease to amaze me. I wrote about a case last year in which a pastor received a reduced sentence for raping boys. His reason for his actions was that he “believed that he could rape away the gay by ‘praying while he had sexual contact’ with the boys, all in an effort to keep them ‘sexually pure’ for God” and that “when they would ejaculate, they would be getting rid of the evil thoughts in their mind.”

Others are more creative in their excuses:

A gay Mississippi man says a male teacher at the Baptist school he attended in the 1990s raped him each week for three years as a way to force him to change his sexual orientation.

Jeff White told the Washington Blade during a July 14 interview at a restaurant near his home on the Mississippi Gulf Coast the teacher at Bethel Baptist School in Walls, Miss., who he identified as Steven Barnes, scheduled an “appointment” with him each Wednesday in his classroom or the office where he forced him to have oral and anal sex. […] “He would rape me because I was gay and because it would make me hate men and make me change,” said White.

It gets worse. Continue reading

Losing religion

A video of a young man coming out to his family has gone viral. Daniel Ashley Pierce recorded an “intervention” his family set up to confront him about being gay. Their reaction is  tragic, abusive, and a testament to the profound stupidity of holding onto ancient religious beliefs.

That is not how to react to your child coming out as gay. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v219

Archdiocese seeks to block depositions — The Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis has asked a judge to prevent attorneys for an alleged sexual abuse victim from taking depositions from top church officials. A former teenage altar boy identified as John Doe 1 filed suit last May against the archdiocese, the Diocese of Winona and former priest Thomas Adamson, alleging sexual abuse by Adamson between 1976 and 1977 when he was assigned to St. Thomas Aquinas church in St. Paul Park.

Boy ‘didn’t know what mammy meant’ — The son of an unmarried mother said he became a zombie – introverted and fearing the next beating, lying soaked in urine at night in an attempt to dissuade sexual abusers from “dropping the hand.” He lived at St Joseph’s in Termonbacca, Londonderry, run by the Sisters of Nazareth order of Catholic nuns, in the 1950s after being born in abject poverty and abandoned by his parents.

Church ‘in denial’ over sex abuse — An organisation representing male survivors of sexual abuse including some abused by priests, says the Catholic Church in New Zealand, like other countries, is still in denial. In a scathing report on the Vatican’s policies, the United Nations’ watchdog for children’s rights says Church officials imposed a code of silence on clerics and moved abusers from parish to parish in an attempt to cover up such crimes.

Civil complaint: Redlands’ boy’s life ‘forever altered’ because of Laura Whitehurst’s sexual abuse — Redlands Unified School District officials “turned a blind eye” to a year-long sexual relationship between Laura Whitehurst, a former English teacher at Citrus Valley High School, and a then-16-year-old student that resulted in the birth of a child, attorneys for the young man said Thursday. “Children in California, children in Redlands should not be sexual toys for teachers,” said John Manly, an attorney representing the young man at a news conference outside of Riverside Superior Court. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v192

Boy Scouts End Longtime Ban on Openly Gay Youths — The Boy Scouts of America on Thursday ended its longstanding policy of forbidding openly gay youths to participate in its activities, a step its chief executive called “compassionate, caring and kind.” The decision, which came after years of resistance and wrenching internal debate, was widely seen as a milestone for the Boy Scouts, a symbol of traditional America. More than 1,400 volunteer leaders from across the country voted, with more than 60 percent approving a measure that said no youth may be denied membership “on the basis of sexual orientation or preference alone.”

Former Church of England priest, 74, abused girls and boys at Barnardo’s home then savagely beat victims who tried to speak out — A retired Church of England priest found guilty of a catalogue of historic sex attacks on young children at a Barnardo’s home has been jailed for 10 years. Canon Gordon Rideout, 74, abused more than a dozen girls and boys at the now closed home at Ifield Hall in Crawley, West Sussex, over a four-year period. The former Anglican clergyman from Polegate, East Sussex, also indecently assaulted two girls at an army site in Middle Wallop, Hampshire, the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) said.

Gym coach tried to ‘hypnotise boy for sex’ — A GYM instructor tried to hypnotise a teenage boy so he could abuse him, a court has heard. Paul Schofield, who was a head coach at Bolton Metro Olympic Gymnastics Club in Farnworth, is accused of abusing the boy in the mid 1990s at his former home, when he was aged 14 or 15. The complainant alleges Schofield, aged 47, of Railway View, Hednesford, Staffordshire, tried to hypnotise him to engage in sexual activity. During a police interview Schofield admitted he learned to hypnotise people after buying a book and said he used it as a “party trick”, but only when there were witnesses around.

Juvenile Inmates Found to Be at No Greater Risk for Prison Rape — Youth advocates have long argued that juveniles incarcerated in adult prisons and jails are at heightened risk for rape and other forms of sexual abuse because of their age. But a government survey released on Thursday found that juveniles did not report significantly more sexual victimization than adult inmates. The survey, which also examined sexual victimization among adult inmates, offers the first national estimates of the prevalence of sexual abuse among juveniles housed in adult facilities. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v179

Abuse survivor launches financial assistance foundation — A new foundation has been created to help male survivors access counselling. The Canadian Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse was created by a former Cambrian College student who said he was fortunate enough to have the cost of his counselling covered when he was still in school. Paul Leduc was a student two years ago when he had his breakdown. “I was here for about four months or so when I sort of hit a bit of a rock bottom,” he said.

Detectives try to give abused kids ‘some happiness on Christmas’ — The detectives say they granted the 6-year-old boy’s first Christmas wish early when they were able to arrest his grandmother on abuse charges.Area Central Detective Joseph Mancilla said that at first, when the boy was asked what he wanted for Christmas, he said, “I just don’t want my sister to be beaten anymore.” Last month the grandmother of the boy and his 5-year-old sister, Goldine Williams, 47, of the 7500 block of South Kingston Avenue, was charged with aggravated battery of a child.

Exonerated after 28 years in prison, man asks for apology from rape victim — It was an emotional day for “Mary Smith,” the Highland Park woman who said she finally got justice Thursday. She finally got to say what she wanted to say to Marion Sayles, the man who raped, shot, and left her for dead 30 years ago. “How dare you? You tried to destroy my life. And by the grace of God, I’m here. And you are now serving a life sentence for what you did to me. God bless you,” Smith said. Sayles sat quietly as his sentence was read.

Homeland Security Takes Steps To Implement Prison Rape Elimination Act Guidelines — Earlier this year, the Department of Justice released its final guidelines for implementation of the Prison Rape Elimination Act (PREA), which it has been developing since the law passed in 2003. The new rules contain specific protections for those who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex (LGBTI), or who are otherwise gender non-conforming, including professional training for all correctional staff to minimize mistreatment. Continue reading

Cutting out dad

I do not usually write about father’s rights issues, but this story caught my eye:

Europe’s highest court on human rights will decide if a lesbian can adopt her partner’s child, in this case stripping the father of his parental rights to his son.

The case is very simple according to Gregor Puppinck of the European Centre for Law and Justice (ECLJ). “The two female partners want to oust the father and, since the law does not allow them to do so, they claim it is discriminatory,” Gregor reported in Turtle Bay and Beyond, C-FAM’s blog.

The Grand Chamber of the European Court of Human Rights will hear the case X and others v. Austria on October 3.  Its decision will apply to all 47 countries in the Council of Europe and cannot be appealed.

Austria’s attorney has pointed out that most European countries do not allow a child to have two mothers or two fathers. A homosexual rights attorney who brought the case argued that this is sexual discrimination.

Here is the problem: the man has been a part of his son’s life from the beginning. Since 1995, the father has paid alimony to the mother and frequently visits with his son. However, now the mother and her lesbian partner want the father stripped of his rights because the pair want to be recognized as a “family”.  Continue reading

Bulletin Board v168

Ex-Penn State president Graham Spanier says he was abused as a kid — Hoping to fight the perception he aided in the coverup of Jerry Sandusky’s pattern of child molestation, ex-Penn State president Graham Spanier sent a three-page letter Monday to the school’s board of trustees defending himself. The letter, which has since been obtained by the Patriot-News and other media outlets, insists that he would not have turned “a blind eye” to Sandusky’s victims because of Spanier’s own abuse history.

Former quarterback admits to sexual abuse of 11-yr-old, says ‘We are gay.’ — New details have been released leading up to the arrest of a former Edinburg North quarterback on child sex charges. Police documents indicate 18-year-old Joel Cuellar admitted to sexually abusing an 11-year-old boy continuously over a three month period before his arrest last Friday at a McAllen soccer park. In the report, Cuellar admits that he was supposed to take the unnamed male to the movies on the night officers discovered them in a parked car, shirtless with Cuellar’s pants down.

Monsignor Lynn sentenced to jail for role in church sex abuse — In a soft and clear voice, disgraced Catholic Monsignor William Lynn stood Tuesday before a packed courtroom and apologized for the years of sexual abuse a young man suffered at the hands of defrocked priest Edward Avery, whom Lynn transferred to the boy’s parish despite knowing that he had abused another boy. “I did my best,” said Lynn, 61, who served as secretary for clergy for the Archdiocese of Philadelphia from 1992 to 2004.

New California Law Protects Military Parents Child Custody Rights — Governor Edmund G. Brown, Jr. signed into law AB 1807, protecting child custody rights for military parents. Assemblyman Paul Cook, R-Yucca Valley, introduced the legislation to protect our military parents. Fathers and Families has lobbied and advocated for the rights of our military in child custody. This legislation is another success. When a divorced couple shares custody of a child and one of the parents is deployed due to military orders, full custody of the child is given temporarily to the non-deployed parent.  Continue reading