Stop the Abuse: The Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so. Every month I will post a new link to an organization that provides services for male victims. As the list grows, I will create a page where all the links can be found.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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SNAP

Welcome Statement:

If you’ve been victimized by clergy, please know that you are not alone. You can get better. You can reach out to others who’ve been hurt just like you have. Together, we can heal one another.

We are SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests.
We are the nation’s largest, oldest and most active support group for women and men wounded by religious authority figures (priests, ministers, bishops, deacons, nuns, brothers, monks, and others). We are an independent and confidential organization, with no connections with the church or church officials. And we are here to help.

SNAP was founded by Chicago’s Barbara Blaine in 1989. Since then, SNAP has helped thousands of survivors. We offer support in person, (via monthly self-help group meetings in chapters across the country), over the phone, on line, and at twice-a-year national meetings.

We also provide a safe and productive outlet for the passion many survivors feel toward preventing future abuse.

Our web site exists to provide support and knowledge to all victims of clergy abuse, to help educate the public, and to help ensure that in future generations, children will be safe.

Welcome! Reach out! Get help!

Please donate and help make a difference.

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Canonbury sex offence man jailed for 13 years after abusing his position of trust — Leslie Paul, 64, of Clephane Road, was sentenced at Blackfriars Crown Court for offences of indecent assault and indecency while working as a carer for Lambeth Social Services. Between 1980 and 1988, Paul carried out the offences at Lambeth Children’s Home in South Vale, where the four male victims resided. In October 2012, the first victim came forward to report allegations against Paul.

Case begins in trial of woman suspected of young son’s sexual abuse — The trial of a woman suspected of having sex with her adopted son began Friday with the prosecutor telling jurors the case is about a 12-year-old boy and the events he would describe, and a defense lawyer saying her client is the victim of threats by her boyfriend and that the woman never had sex with the boy. Deputy District Attorney Mary Nguyen during her opening statement in Solano County Superior Court told jurors Friday that defendant Michelle V. Souza had intercourse with her adopted son, now 12, and instructed him not to tell anybody.

Domestic abuse: Men ‘need more help’, victims’ organisation says — The Men’s Advisory Project said it supported 536 clients in 2015 compared to 294 in 2013. But while victims often suffer similar hardship, it said the services available for men in Northern Ireland are less extensive than for women. One man who knows how difficult it can be to get help is Paul. Paul, whose name has been changed to protect his identity, walked away from his 25-year marriage after suffering physical, emotional and psychological abuse. Continue reading

Understanding Intimate Partner Violence: An Australian Perspective

A commenter named astyaagraha posted information about how the Australian government treats male victims of domestic violence on reddit. The information is hardly surprising. It shows how the Australian government uses a double standard when it comes to assisting male victims, or more accurately male abusers since their policy is to assume men claiming abuse at the hands of women are lying and are actually abusers. This is exactly how one would expect a feminist-run program to treat men, and it certainly lives up one’s woeful expectations. Here is astyaagraha’s full comment from reddit: Continue reading

Sweden played politics with rape crisis clinic for men

Last year, Sweden announced they would open the first rape crisis clinic for male rape victims. While they already provided medical support for women, according to reports Sweden apparently had no services dedicated for male victims. The decision met resounding support and was hailed as not only a general step forward but also a feminist achievement, as Sweden is a largely feminist-run country.

However, new information suggests that the effort may have been nothing more than political posturing:

In truth, the clinic was a pre-existing emergency and forensic facility catering to “women who have been subjected to acute sexual assault” according to the hospital’s website, which had not been updated at the time of writing. The claim, widely repeated by the city’s politicians for the global media, that it is the world’s first male rape clinic is just plain wrong.

“To say that we’re the first clinic in the world to provide this kind of care [for men] is incorrect,” admitted Karl Norwald, a sexologist at the Södersjukhuset unit after it reopened in its new guise. “I know there are clinics in Denmark and Norway already, so I believe there has been a misunderstanding of some kind along the way.”

So the question arises: Why would politicians play fast and loose with the truth around such a painful subject? Who could possibly be gauche enough to see the opening of a clinic for rape victims as a “sexy” way to get some publicity?

Those questions answer themselves. Continue reading

Stop The Abuse: CRIPHASE

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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CRIPHASE

What is CRIPHASE?

Resource and Intervention Center for Men Sexually Abused during their Childhood is an organization with non lucrative goals helping men who were victims of traumas and who want to free themselves of that heavy load in order to live a happier life.

CRIPHASE is managed by men who were sexually abused during their childhood for men who were sexually abused in their childhood. Indeed, the Board of Directors is composed of at least three men that have been sexually abused in their childhood and that have completed PHASE I out of a total of seven. The remainder of the Board of Directors is composed of one representative of our therapists, the general manager and other members of the community that have a special interest in this cause. Therefore, the Board really understands the difficulties and the specific needs of men who call upon the services of the Center.

Our services are offered in Montreal. However, we accept all men, without regard to their place of residence. If you can come to the Center, you are welcome. If we cannot help you, we will direct you towards resources suitable to your needs.

Please donate and help make a difference.

Support the Canadian Centre for Men and Families

The Canadian Centre of Men and Families is marking their first-year anniversary. The organization provides support for men, their families, and male victims of abuse. The organization is engaged in several operations, including creating a shelter male victims of domestic violence and fighting an anti-male policy on a college that blocks the creation of a support group for men.

They created a video discussing these topics and sharing some of the stories of the men they helped. They are looking for donations, and any donations they receive before December 31st will be matched another donor. From the YouTube page:

Please Give Generously to http://equalitycanada.com/donation/

CAFE and the CCMF need your support to continue this important mission. All donations made on or before December 31st 2015 will be DOUBLED. Monthly donations are highly appreciated.

This type of service is desperately needed in Canada. There are so few services for men and a great deal of opposition to creating them. Any support you can offer will help the organization continue its work in supporting men and boys. Continue reading

Silent Suffering: Supporting the Male Survivors of Sexual Assault

The Greater London Authority (GLA) Conservative London commissioned a study on male victims of sexual violence. The study collected the reporting rate of male victims to local police. The results showed a stark situation:

On Wednesday, the GLA Conservative Group issued a thorough study that highlighted the gulf between adult male sexual assaults and the amount that get reported to the police.

Titled “Silent Suffering – Supporting the Male Survivors of Sexual Assault”, the paper highlighted the fact that between 2010 and 2014 there were 26,483 recorded incidents of males being victims of sexual assault or rape. This is contrasted with research conducted by SurvivorsUK, the largest and longest established specialist male sexual violence support charity in the UK, which evaluated five years of self-referral data (more than 600 individual entries) to establish that less than 4pc of the sample had reported their experience of adult sexual assault to the police.

The study provided an estimated numbers of victims:

Figures collected from all the UK’s police forces show that between 2010 and 2014 there were 26,483 recorded incidents of males being victims of sexual assault or rape.

This includes 3,748 incidents recorded by the Metropolitan Police Service (MPS) – the highest rate in the UK.

Using these figures alongside the research conducted by SurvivorsUK, we can estimate the number of males over the age of 16 who were sexually assaulted or raped between 2010 and 2014, who did not report their experiences to the police.

These numbers suggest that across the entire UK between 2010 and 2014, 679,051 sexual assaults and rapes of males took place. Of these – 652,568 were not reported to any police force.

In the geographical area covered by the MPS this would equate to 96,103 sexual assaults and rapes of males between 2010 and 2014 – with 92,355 of them not being reported.

The study also analyzed why men do not come forward. Continue reading