Stop The Abuse: 1in6 Canada

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so. Every month I will post a new link to an organization that provides services for male victims. As the list grows, I will create a page where all the links can be found.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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1in6 Canada

Let’s get this out of the way right now.

If you are a man who was sexually abused as a child or sexually assaulted as an adult, you are not alone, you are not to blame and the feelings and thoughts you are having are normal.

More importantly, healing and a better life are possible—you, your family and your friends need to know that. And finding that help may be just a click away.

Please donate and help make a difference.

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2 Former Minnesota Boy Scouts Suing Over Alleged Abuse — Two men sued the Boy Scouts of America on Thursday, saying they were sexually abused as scouts by troop leaders in St. Paul more than 40 years ago. Their attorney, Jeff Anderson, said the lawsuits allege that the Boy Scouts organization created a public nuisance by its negligence and concealment of abuse allegations and by failing to warn parents and others about the “prevalence” of abuse.

Appogg urged to address some domestic violence programmes for male victims, female perpetrators — The National Audit Office (NAO) expressed concern today that the Appogg social welfare agency in its programmes on domestic violence is geared towards addressing abuse perpetrated against women, while attending to male victims is largely considered to be a distant secondary priority. The agency was also found lacking in programmes aimed at female perpetrators.

Boy, 10, looked like ‘prisoner of war’ after beaten, shot by mom, officials say — A mother of seven is accused of severely starving and beating her two young sons, even shooting the boys with a BB gun.The details of the abuse, which came to light last year, were so shocking that Harris County Precinct 4 deputy constables likened the abuse to how prisoners of war are treated. Sandra Anna Gonzalez is charged with two counts of injury to a child. Continue reading

A good talk about male survivor resources

Originally posted on July 24, 2014

Allan emailed me a video of Rick Goodwin’s talk about male victims of sexual abuse and building the Men’s Project. It is worth viewing. It gives an insight into the things abused men and their advocates face when trying to create services for them.

Stop the Abuse: Living Well

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so. Every month I will post a new link to an organization that provides services for male victims. As the list grows, I will create a page where all the links can be found.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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Living Well

LivingWell is a Queensland resource which offers a range of services specifically designed to assist men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse or sexual assault, their partners, friends and family and service providers. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual abuse as a child, or adult, please know that you are not alone. Support and assistance is available. LivingWell currently provides the following services.

Please donate and help make a difference.

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Archdiocese criminally charged with ‘failing to protect’ sex abuse victims — The Ramsey County attorney’s office filed criminal charges Friday against the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis for “failing to protect children” from an abusive priest. The charges stem from the archdiocese’s oversight of former priest Curtis Wehmeyer, who is now serving a prison term for abusing two boys while he was pastor of Blessed Sacrament Church in St. Paul. “

Bullied Boy With Cancer Severely Beaten, Left Unconscious, Gets Suspended By School — Julia Morales is absolutely fed up with the formidable treatment her son has suffered at the hands of several vicious bullies at Henry P. Becton Regional High School in East Rutherford, NJ. According to My-9 NJ, Morales’ cancer-stricken, 16-year-old son has allegedly been mistreated for quite some time. The relentless torment and taunting initially began with verbal abuse.

Child abuse accused ex-pilot Bartle Frere ‘liked to help boys’ — A former British Airways pilot on trial for child sex offences has told a court he liked to help boys purely to encourage them and see them develop. Bartle Frere, 51, from Shipton Gorge, Dorset, said he carried out unpaid photography work at several private schools in England. Police searched his home in November 2013 and seized DVDs, boy’s underwear and Viagra, the jury heard. He denies a string of sexual offences dating back to 2001. Continue reading

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14 years in prison for Wollaton paedophile who filmed sex acts with young boys — Child molester Steven Peck has been jailed for 14 years after admitting he groomed young boys for sex. Over a seven-year period, he befriended three youngsters, plying them with gifts and taking them on days out, while abusing them – at venues including Wollaton Park. It was only when one of the victims told his grandmother two years ago that the crimes came to light.

Boys bear the pain alone – Sexual assault of males under-reported — As more agencies turn their searchlight on sexual abuse of the country’s young girls, there is an increasingly loud call for more emphasis to be placed on boys who are victims of sexual abuse. According to Everton Hannam, chairman of the National Parent-Teacher Association in Jamaica, he was very disappointed that there appears to be no overwhelming drive towards identifying and assisting male victims.

Child sex abuse claims shake United Nations — The boys said they approached the French soldiers because they were hungry. Some were so young they didn’t quite understand the acts the soldiers demanded in return. One boy, 8 or 9 years old, said he did it several times to the same soldier, “until one day an older kid saw him and told him what he was doing was bad.” Another boy, 9, said he thought the soldiers had been urinating. Continue reading

Support Toronto DV Symposium

There are not many services for male victims in Canada. Those that do exist receive little attention from the government or media. One particular group is in need of funding

The The Canadian Maltese Charitable Service trust will be holding its second annual Domestic Violence symposium at Ryerson College in Toronto, Canada on June 5 & 6 from 9am to 6pm.

The event is needed to bridge a severe information gap. While hundreds of thousands of dollars are dedicated to promoting awareness of the plight and experiences of abused women and girls, little to nothing has been done to inform the public about abused men and boys.

According to the site, the event will cost  $10,000  to cover the venue, equipment, promotional materials, and speakers’ expenses. Attila Vinczer, the Executive Secretary of the organization, paid for the previous year’s fees. This year he will need an additional $3,000 to cover the costs.

The group is asking for donations. If you can, please donate and help the organization in its effort to bring awareness to domestic violence against men.