Maryland lawmakers block abuse support bill

It takes great deal of courageous to talk about one’s experience of abuse in public. It takes much more to do it as an effort to get legislation passed to assist other victims of abuse. It takes something unheard of to do it two years in a row, only to see the bill ignored and tossed aside. This is what C.T. Wilson faced in Maryland:

For the second year in a row, he put it all out there: the shame, the fear, the self-loathing, the pain, the dark details of his horrific, repeated rape.

An Army veteran and attorney, Maryland Del. C.T. Wilson (D-Charles) stood before his colleagues in Annapolis, confessed that he “really, really” didn’t want to be there and told them why he doesn’t sleep much at night. Why he hoped his children would never be boys. Why he knows he is “a monster on the inside.”

And for the second year in a row, lawmakers in the state legislature put all that in a drawer. And closed it.

“It’s usually the case when we tell our stories,” Wilson said. “Nobody wants to hear this. And we want to be heard.”

Wilson wants his fellow delegates to understand what the adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse endure. And what recourse they have years and years later. And for two years, he has sponsored legislation aimed at helping them.

As it stands, a criminal case against an abuser can be pursued anytime, no matter how long ago the abuse happened.

But a civil case — the kind of action that can get a patient’s treatment paid for — has a statute of limitations. Victims have seven years once they reach adulthood to file a civil suit against a molester or a school, a team or a church that enabled that abuser.

And unless a victim comes to terms with the abuse, recognizes it, fights through it and files a civil suit before age 25, no dice. And that’s a big problem. Because many victims of childhood sexual abuse repress the memories in order to survive. Some even kill themselves.

Since Maryland removed the statute of limitations on the criminal cases, I see no reason why this should not apply to civil cases. As Wilson notes, many victims do not report their experiences until years after the abuse happened. In those instances, they will begin addressing whatever issues developed as a result of the abuse. It makes sense to allow them to file a suit for damages as this would be the point where the damages would be most apparent. Continue reading

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Understanding Intimate Partner Violence: An Australian Perspective

A commenter named astyaagraha posted information about how the Australian government treats male victims of domestic violence on reddit. The information is hardly surprising. It shows how the Australian government uses a double standard when it comes to assisting male victims, or more accurately male abusers since their policy is to assume men claiming abuse at the hands of women are lying and are actually abusers. This is exactly how one would expect a feminist-run program to treat men, and it certainly lives up one’s woeful expectations. Here is astyaagraha’s full comment from reddit: Continue reading

Stop The Abuse: CRIPHASE

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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CRIPHASE

What is CRIPHASE?

Resource and Intervention Center for Men Sexually Abused during their Childhood is an organization with non lucrative goals helping men who were victims of traumas and who want to free themselves of that heavy load in order to live a happier life.

CRIPHASE is managed by men who were sexually abused during their childhood for men who were sexually abused in their childhood. Indeed, the Board of Directors is composed of at least three men that have been sexually abused in their childhood and that have completed PHASE I out of a total of seven. The remainder of the Board of Directors is composed of one representative of our therapists, the general manager and other members of the community that have a special interest in this cause. Therefore, the Board really understands the difficulties and the specific needs of men who call upon the services of the Center.

Our services are offered in Montreal. However, we accept all men, without regard to their place of residence. If you can come to the Center, you are welcome. If we cannot help you, we will direct you towards resources suitable to your needs.

Please donate and help make a difference.

Support the Canadian Centre for Men and Families

The Canadian Centre of Men and Families is marking their first-year anniversary. The organization provides support for men, their families, and male victims of abuse. The organization is engaged in several operations, including creating a shelter male victims of domestic violence and fighting an anti-male policy on a college that blocks the creation of a support group for men.

They created a video discussing these topics and sharing some of the stories of the men they helped. They are looking for donations, and any donations they receive before December 31st will be matched another donor. From the YouTube page:

Please Give Generously to http://equalitycanada.com/donation/

CAFE and the CCMF need your support to continue this important mission. All donations made on or before December 31st 2015 will be DOUBLED. Monthly donations are highly appreciated.

This type of service is desperately needed in Canada. There are so few services for men and a great deal of opposition to creating them. Any support you can offer will help the organization continue its work in supporting men and boys. Continue reading

Silent Suffering: Supporting the Male Survivors of Sexual Assault

The Greater London Authority (GLA) Conservative London commissioned a study on male victims of sexual violence. The study collected the reporting rate of male victims to local police. The results showed a stark situation:

On Wednesday, the GLA Conservative Group issued a thorough study that highlighted the gulf between adult male sexual assaults and the amount that get reported to the police.

Titled “Silent Suffering – Supporting the Male Survivors of Sexual Assault”, the paper highlighted the fact that between 2010 and 2014 there were 26,483 recorded incidents of males being victims of sexual assault or rape. This is contrasted with research conducted by SurvivorsUK, the largest and longest established specialist male sexual violence support charity in the UK, which evaluated five years of self-referral data (more than 600 individual entries) to establish that less than 4pc of the sample had reported their experience of adult sexual assault to the police.

The study provided an estimated numbers of victims:

Figures collected from all the UK’s police forces show that between 2010 and 2014 there were 26,483 recorded incidents of males being victims of sexual assault or rape.

This includes 3,748 incidents recorded by the Metropolitan Police Service (MPS) – the highest rate in the UK.

Using these figures alongside the research conducted by SurvivorsUK, we can estimate the number of males over the age of 16 who were sexually assaulted or raped between 2010 and 2014, who did not report their experiences to the police.

These numbers suggest that across the entire UK between 2010 and 2014, 679,051 sexual assaults and rapes of males took place. Of these – 652,568 were not reported to any police force.

In the geographical area covered by the MPS this would equate to 96,103 sexual assaults and rapes of males between 2010 and 2014 – with 92,355 of them not being reported.

The study also analyzed why men do not come forward. Continue reading

1in6 and RAINN Launch Peer SupportGroup to Help Male Survivors

1in6 and RAINN recently co-created a service to allow male survivors to talk with each other and professionals online:

Male survivors of childhood sexual abuse have a new way to find support and community online. 1in6 has partnered with RAINN to launch the Peer SupportGroup (PSG), a new online service for peer-to-peer support among male survivors. This is the second online support service launched by this dynamic partnership, beginning with the Online SupportLine in 2009.

“What started as a dream, where we would be able to provide anonymous, safe, and therapeutically-sound support groups to men in real-time, has become a reality,” said Steve LePore, founder and Executive Director of 1in6.

The first Peer SupportGroup session took place in early October 2015, with positive reviews from both users and moderators. The service functions similar to a group chat, where male survivors of childhood sexual abuse can support other men in their journey of trauma recovery. Men from all over the country can chat back and forth with one another and share their experiences during a 90-minute online session. Each session is moderated by a licensed clinician who provides therapeutically-sound guidance and a “gatekeeper” who has gone through extensive training to ensure the anonymity and safety of every participant.

This an awesome move. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v270

Boy’s rape filmed in notorious Dolphin Square — A police raid on Dolphin Square in London’s Pimlico area in 1985 uncovered a small-scale film studio in the living room of a first-floor apartment. Officers were acting on a tip-off that a boy, aged about 11, had been taken into the premises against his will. A forensic examination came to nothing. However, a few months later a sickening sex video was seized in the West End in which an officer recognised the flat as the location.

Child sex abuse survivor from Worcester is ready to climb Kilimanjaro to help other survivors — A COURAGEOUS survivor of child sex abuse from Worcester had in a sense already climbed a mountain by speaking out about his ordeal and facing his abuser in court. But now Tom Leavesley, formerly of Diglis, Worcester, is literally climbing a mountain to help other survivors so they do not suffer in silence as he did.

Federal judge: Ex-Yakima priest must pay sex-abuse victim $5M — A federal district court judge has issued a $5 million judgment against a priest who served in the Catholic Diocese of Yakima in the 1970s and ’80s. The civil lawsuit, brought by a man known as C.S. in court documents, alleged that the Rev. Dale Calhoun sexually abused him beginning in 1977 when he was 12 and ending when he was 17. The settlement is the largest civil judgment against an individual priest in Central and Eastern Washington, according to attorneys Bryan Smith and Vito de la Cruz of Tamaki Law. Continue reading