Feminist: Male rape victims have more privileges than women

Originally posted on November 28, 2014

I take a simple position on discussions about sexual violence: leave out the politics. Politics make an already complex issue more complicated. They lead to bias, bigotry, and favoring the protection of political stances over addressing the problem. This is particularly true when feminists are involved in the discussion.

It appears many feminists are incapable of discussing sexual violence without resorting to “who has it worse” arguments. Advocates for male victims and men’s rights activists frequently challenge feminists on those arguments. Feminists usually respond by dismissing the challenges as “misogyny” or an attempt to silence women.

Yet there is good reason for people to persist in those challenges, and that is because when such arguments are left unquestioned, they lead to rather ugly statements. For example, Kaelyn Polick-Kirkpatrick wrote in The State Press:

[…] men’s rights activists and skeptics alike raise questions about feminism’s tactics. For instance, why not include everyone in conversations about rape given it’s such a prodigious problem? Well, conversations that include men do need to happen — everyone has a role to play in mitigating rape culture; but these conversations do not necessarily need to happen within the feminist community.

Feminism provides a safe-space for women to cope with and fight back against the oppressive society in which they live. It exists because oppressed people often need support from others who can empathize with their struggles — men have privileges that prevent them from being able to empathize with the struggles of women, even when they are survivors of sexual crimes. For instance, it is unlikely that a man will be asked what he was wearing during an assault, and it is unlikely that a man will be told that he deserved it due to his promiscuous behavior.

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This Is What It Looks Like v9

The Honey Badgers released a video interview with Tarol Hunt, the creator of the webcomic Goblins.

Hunt recounts his experiences with feminists on Tumblr responding to his webcomic. I think it is important for people to share their stories because it is often difficult for people to believe feminists behave so terribly. As Hunt states, many people initially think of feminists as the “good guys.” Yet feminists quite often prove themselves to be otherwise.

I found Hunt’s experiences particularly infuriating because feminists not only went after him, but the also attacked his wife and his mother. The situation with his mother was the worst as feminists set about claiming that Hunt lied about his mother’s brutal assault at the hands of four men. Continue reading

A Dose of Stupid v106

It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:

Why Reverse Oppression Simply Cannot Exist (No Matter What Merriam-Webster Says)

From the title alone I got the feeling the stupid is strong with this one, and Melissa A. Fabello proved my feelings right.

Fabello starts with an anecdote:

It’s a common argument that those of us – all of us – who work in social justice movements face: the straw man of reverse oppression. Even within the in-crowd of people who are quote-unquote “socially conscious,” this argument pops up now and again.

It is a good thing Fabello knows what a logical fallacy is because she engages in scores of them. For example:

“Yes, black women are beautiful — but I think what you mean is that all women are beautiful,” they say.

“But isn’t telling men to ‘sit down and shut up’ also sexist?” they ponder.

“But in the dictionary,” they start.

And we – seasoned veterans in the war against anti-oppression – know that the battle has already been lost.

It’s hard to convince someone that they’ve misunderstood a concept when their very (albeit misguided) understanding of the world depends on the existence of the falsehood in question.

However, it’s true that reverse oppression – like “reverse racism,” “female privilege,” and (so help me God) “cisphobia” – cannot possibly exist. Because the very nature of oppression won’t allow it to!

That is a nice example of denying the antecedent. Fabello, like most feminists, defines oppression in a way that wholly excludes certain people from being considered oppressed, and then uses this as proof that said people cannot be oppressed.

She cites Urban Dictionary when she claims people have “internalized oppressive ideas and values,” which is odd considering that she immediately argues:

The Dictionary
Put it down. Close that web browser. And for those of you who I know are going to post dictionary definitions in the comment section before even reading the article, you— I don’t have anything to say to you. Just stop.

Merriam-Webster is not your friend today.

The dictionary, to begin with, is a really trite resource to use when arguing complex topics.

I am curious: if dictionaries are so useless and untrustworthy, why did Fabello cite Urban Dictionary? Are people to understand that Fabello considers Urban Dictionary, yet Merriam-Webster is not? Is it not possible she favors the Urban Dictionary definition because it is written by users, meaning that feminists like herself can add a definition and upvote it to popularity, making it the topmost definition?

Likewise, given that many feminists cite Merriam-Webster’s definition of “feminism” whenever people criticize the ideology, does this mean that said definition is now inaccurate? Is Fabello arguing that feminism is not “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes?” Continue reading

Breaking Poe’s Law

I wrote about an article satirizing feminists’ tendency to coin misandrous terms to vilify and humiliate men. A few people seemed to take the article seriously, which excellently demonstrated Poe’s Law.

For those who do not know, Poe’s Law is defined as:

Without a clear indication of the author’s intent, it is difficult or impossible to tell the difference between an expression of sincere extremism and a parody of extremism.

If one thought that no feminist could come up with anything as ridiculous as “broplimenting,” I give you “manterrupting” and “bropropriating.” As Jessice Bennett explains on TIME:

Manterrupting: Unnecessary interruption of a woman by a man.

Bropropriating: Taking a woman’s idea and taking credit for it.

Bennett cites Kanye West interrupting Taylor Swift at the 2009 MTV VMAs, an act universally reviled, as a prime example of “manterrupting.” She goes on to list a study conducted by a woman Bennett frequently works with as proof of this imbalance:

Sandberg and Grant cite research showing that powerful male Senators speak significantly more than their junior colleagues, while female Senators do not. That male executives who speak more often than their peers are deemed more competent (by 10%), while female executives who speak up are considered less (14% less). The data follows a long line of research showing that when it comes to the workplace, women speak less, are interrupted more, and have their ideas more harshly scrutinized.

Someone even created an infographic based on the TIME article.

This is the perfect illustration of Poe’s Law. There is no difference from the nonsense in Bennett’s serious “commentary” and Katherine Timpf’s satirical article. If not told, one cannot tell which is which.

Thank you, modern feminists.

Ten Ways Men Oppress Women with Their Everyday Behavior

My cousin showed me Katherine Timpf’s satirical article about men’s behavior. She riffs on the recent feminist campaign to ban men from sitting with their legs apart on public transportation, which they call “manspreading.” Timpf offers other examples of how men oppress women with their everyday behavior. She gives such gems as:

1. Broplimenting

This is when a guy says something nice to you without asking for your consent first. Men should always ask. “Do you consent to me complimenting you?” before saying anything nice or else it’s assault. No, nonverbal cues don’t count – he still has to ask for explicit consent before offering that kind of affection.

and:

4. Mentoring

You’ve heard this word before, but unless you’re as educated and culturally aware as I am, you have probably never thought about how sexist it is. Why isn’t it “women-toring,” huh? I’ll tell you why. It’s because we live in a society where people think men are the only ones who can give advice. Seriously, I hate when like my boss or my dad tries to help me out or give me feedback and acts like it’s because he has more experience when really we all know it’s just because he thinks that he is better than me because he is a man and I am a woman. I fight against this by refusing to take advice or direction from men and smearing anyone who tries to offer it in a Jezebel post. I just did this with my boss, actually, and guess what? He fired me! Just more proof of sexism in the workplace.

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Nerds and Feminism: Feminists Behaving Badly

We are two weeks into the new year, and feminists have begun the year in true form by going after the most oppressive of all men: nerds.

Granted, feminists engaged in a great deal of nerd-bashing last summer with the fallout from GamerGate. The current round, however, has a different cause.

Scott Aaronson, a scientist and blogger, wrote a comment describing his fear of approaching women as a young man:

I spent my formative years—basically, from the age of 12 until my mid-20s—feeling not “entitled,” not “privileged,” but terrified. I was terrified that one of my female classmates would somehow find out that I sexually desired her, and that the instant she did, I would be scorned, laughed at, called a creep and a weirdo, maybe even expelled from school or sent to prison. And furthermore, that the people who did these things to me would somehow be morally right to do them—even if I couldn’t understand how.

Aaronson’s fear came from feminism, specifically the feminist notion that all interactions between men and women contain a power differential that men use to exploit women. Aaronson tried to conform to feminist demands, yet it only made the situation worse, to the point that he contemplated suicide. Continue reading

A Dose of Stupid v105

It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:

Don’t apologize to me for your rape joke

Salon’s Jenny Kutner does not like jokes about rape. Specifically, she does not like jokes made about women. So when she attended a birthday party and a man told a joke about rape, Kutner did not find it funny. Of course, she did not say anything to the man. Instead:

[…] I leaned over to another relative and whispered, “Glad rape jokes are still in vogue.” I pulled out my phone and fired off some similar snark for Twitter, then went inside to eat some more salami.

You see, Kutner is a feminist, and as a feminist she finds it unethical to tell jokes about raping women. Her dislike of such humor is well known to her friends and family, so one of them informed the man that Kutner was a feminist. According to Kutner: Continue reading