Happy Father’s Day, Mom

Angel Soft released an advertisement celebrating Father’s Day. However, the toilet paper company decided to add a twist. No, it was some lame pun about fathers be messy. Indeed, the ad is not about fathers at all:

I will let a representative of Angel Soft explain the thought process behind this ad: Continue reading

A Difficult Marriage

I came across an article written by a woman raised by lesbian mothers. Heather Barwick argued in her piece that while she supports the gay community, she no longer supports gay marriage. She stated:

Growing up, and even into my 20s, I supported and advocated for gay marriage. It’s only with some time and distance from my childhood that I’m able to reflect on my experiences and recognize the long-term consequences that same-sex parenting had on me. And it’s only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting.Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not. A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.

According to Barwick, her mother married her father essentially to fit in. However, Barwick’s mother eventually came out, divorced her father, and found a woman to share her life with. Barwick’s father “wasn’t a great guy” and after her mother “left him he didn’t bother coming around anymore.”

That is a poor reason for failing to support gay marriage. Continue reading

Bulletin Board v210

Caseworker blames starved boy’s family for not warning her about abuse — A caseworker for a Toronto boy who starved to death at the hands of his grandparents says other family members should have warned her the couple had a history of abusive behaviour. Margarita Quintana, a frontline children’s aid worker, is testifying for a third day at the coroner’s inquest into the death of Jeffrey Baldwin.

Domestic violence against men at its highest level in Northern Ireland since police began recording statistics — Domestic violence against men in Northern Ireland has increased by more than 40% in nine years – and that’s just reported incidents. PSNI figures reveal that the figure reached a record of 2,525 male victims in 2012/13, up 259 cases on the year before. Police started recording the statistics nine years ago. They also show that in one year alone (2011/12) the level of reported incidents jumped 25% (from 1,833 to 2,266).

GMP: Fathers are not important — The Good Men Project (GMP) recently ran an article by Suzanne Venker about the importance, indeed irreplaceability of fathers in the lives of children. Venker supported her contentions by pointing to the spectrum of psychological and social maladies which are inarguably much more likely to befall fatherless children than those whose nuclear family remains intact. She also conveyed a deep sense of appreciation for her husband and his importance in her life and the life of their son. The tone of the article was upbeat, affirming and positive about the importance of men and masculinity, particularly in the lives of children. Of course, GMP quickly realized their mistake and took the article down. Continue reading

Judge deliberately ruins children’s relationship with their father

Originally posted on June 25, 2012

We often hear about how the family court system is biased against fathers. We often hear about cases where mothers lie about abuse, falsely claiming that the fathers abused their children. We often hear about fathers losing custody and contact with their kids despite no evidence of any abuse. What we do not hear is an explanation for why judges who know the mothers lied still tear children away from their fathers.

One judge has now given us an insight into that. Magistrate Tom Altobelli wrote a letter to two children who were separated from their father as a result of his ruling. Here is his letter in full: Continue reading

Bulletin Board v167

Aversion to Therapy: Why Won’t Men Get Help? — Twenty years ago, Bob Smith’s wife questioned his commitment as a father. She demanded he see a psychiatrist. Smith (not his real name) grudgingly obliged. He went. Once. “The idea of paying some guy $300 an hour to massage your issues,” says Smith, a Los Angeles-area attorney in his early 60s, “is ridiculous.” In fact, the psychiatrist Smith talked to found plenty of issues to massage. His 45-minute assessment suggested that Smith was toting a veritable luggage store full of psychological baggage that needed unpacking.

The Boy Scouts of America kept secret sex abuse files hidden for decades — For decades, the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) kept secret files of accused pedophiles, a process meant to identify and ban molesters from working with children. But, an ABC15 Investigation found that didn’t always happen. The BSA tracked thousands of allegations from around the country, involving scout masters molesting boy scouts. But our investigation discovered, few cases were reported to authorities.

Central Africa: Invisible Victims – Sexual Violence Against Men in the Great Lakes — According to recent studies, 48 women are raped every hour in the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) and the country has been ranked as the second most dangerous to be a woman in the world. Gender-based violence in the region has become widespread and there has been a proliferation of non-governmental organisations and donor efforts to aid the plight of female victims. Much less attention is being paid, however, to male victims of rape. Like women, men are also targeted and suffer sexual violence.

Emaciated, 85-pound teenage boy found in burning Deerfield Beach home — When Broward Sheriff’s Office investigators found the emaciated 14-year-old boy, he weighed 85 pounds. He had also overdosed on cocaine, marijuana and a cocktail of other drugs. His father, Darin MacDannald, 47, was charged with cruelty toward a child and infliction of physical/mental injury. The Deerfield Beach man was being held on a $7,500 bond Thursday in Broward County jail. Continue reading