Stop the Abuse: The Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so. Every month I will post a new link to an organization that provides services for male victims. As the list grows, I will create a page where all the links can be found.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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SNAP

Welcome Statement:

If you’ve been victimized by clergy, please know that you are not alone. You can get better. You can reach out to others who’ve been hurt just like you have. Together, we can heal one another.

We are SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests.
We are the nation’s largest, oldest and most active support group for women and men wounded by religious authority figures (priests, ministers, bishops, deacons, nuns, brothers, monks, and others). We are an independent and confidential organization, with no connections with the church or church officials. And we are here to help.

SNAP was founded by Chicago’s Barbara Blaine in 1989. Since then, SNAP has helped thousands of survivors. We offer support in person, (via monthly self-help group meetings in chapters across the country), over the phone, on line, and at twice-a-year national meetings.

We also provide a safe and productive outlet for the passion many survivors feel toward preventing future abuse.

Our web site exists to provide support and knowledge to all victims of clergy abuse, to help educate the public, and to help ensure that in future generations, children will be safe.

Welcome! Reach out! Get help!

Please donate and help make a difference.

Sweden played politics with rape crisis clinic for men

Last year, Sweden announced they would open the first rape crisis clinic for male rape victims. While they already provided medical support for women, according to reports Sweden apparently had no services dedicated for male victims. The decision met resounding support and was hailed as not only a general step forward but also a feminist achievement, as Sweden is a largely feminist-run country.

However, new information suggests that the effort may have been nothing more than political posturing:

In truth, the clinic was a pre-existing emergency and forensic facility catering to “women who have been subjected to acute sexual assault” according to the hospital’s website, which had not been updated at the time of writing. The claim, widely repeated by the city’s politicians for the global media, that it is the world’s first male rape clinic is just plain wrong.

“To say that we’re the first clinic in the world to provide this kind of care [for men] is incorrect,” admitted Karl Norwald, a sexologist at the Södersjukhuset unit after it reopened in its new guise. “I know there are clinics in Denmark and Norway already, so I believe there has been a misunderstanding of some kind along the way.”

So the question arises: Why would politicians play fast and loose with the truth around such a painful subject? Who could possibly be gauche enough to see the opening of a clinic for rape victims as a “sexy” way to get some publicity?

Those questions answer themselves. Continue reading

Stop The Abuse: CRIPHASE

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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CRIPHASE

What is CRIPHASE?

Resource and Intervention Center for Men Sexually Abused during their Childhood is an organization with non lucrative goals helping men who were victims of traumas and who want to free themselves of that heavy load in order to live a happier life.

CRIPHASE is managed by men who were sexually abused during their childhood for men who were sexually abused in their childhood. Indeed, the Board of Directors is composed of at least three men that have been sexually abused in their childhood and that have completed PHASE I out of a total of seven. The remainder of the Board of Directors is composed of one representative of our therapists, the general manager and other members of the community that have a special interest in this cause. Therefore, the Board really understands the difficulties and the specific needs of men who call upon the services of the Center.

Our services are offered in Montreal. However, we accept all men, without regard to their place of residence. If you can come to the Center, you are welcome. If we cannot help you, we will direct you towards resources suitable to your needs.

Please donate and help make a difference.

Top Posts of 2015

Here are the top posts of 2015. This list only includes posts written in 2014, not those that carried over from other years.

Be Careful What You Ask For

In Plain Sight: The Rape of Afghan’s Boys

Nerds and Feminism: Feminists Behaving Badly

Jennifer Lopez, child rape, and victim-blaming

Woman “fell” pregnant after raping 12-year-old boy

Jason Aaron: God of Blunders

Female researchers outraged when asked to include men

This is why we can’t have nice things

Mary Koss doesn’t think women can rape men and boys

The Shaming of a “Feminazi”

Support the Canadian Centre for Men and Families

The Canadian Centre of Men and Families is marking their first-year anniversary. The organization provides support for men, their families, and male victims of abuse. The organization is engaged in several operations, including creating a shelter male victims of domestic violence and fighting an anti-male policy on a college that blocks the creation of a support group for men.

They created a video discussing these topics and sharing some of the stories of the men they helped. They are looking for donations, and any donations they receive before December 31st will be matched another donor. From the YouTube page:

Please Give Generously to http://equalitycanada.com/donation/

CAFE and the CCMF need your support to continue this important mission. All donations made on or before December 31st 2015 will be DOUBLED. Monthly donations are highly appreciated.

This type of service is desperately needed in Canada. There are so few services for men and a great deal of opposition to creating them. Any support you can offer will help the organization continue its work in supporting men and boys. Continue reading

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17 Former Connecticut Boy Scouts Allege Sexual Abuse — Seventeen former Boy Scouts have filed a lawsuit charging that their scoutmaster in Ridgefield sexually abused them from 1963 to 1975. The plaintiffs’ lawyer said that it was the largest single lawsuit filed against the Boy Scouts of America and that one child was molested more than 1,000 times. In addition to listing the 17 former Scouts, the lawsuit lists two girls allegedly sexually assaulted by the scoutmaster, Donald Dennis, who died two years ago.

Are we purposely ignoring child sexual abuse in Pakistan (and our homes)? — How many of you had the slightest idea that your helpless seven-year-old son, who wholeheartedly recited the Holy Quran alongside his so-called honest and unadulterated qaari sahib, was being sexually abused continuously in a barricaded room? We enjoy labelling ourselves as humble and modest beings when in truth we are the ones perpetuating brutality to its core.

Boy Tells Court How He Was Sexually Assaulted — A BOY who testified in court yesterday of his alleged sexual assault by a man he knew said he didn’t know if what was happening to him at the time was “right or wrong”. The child, who refused to face anyone other than Senior Justice Stephen Isaacs during his testimony, said he now knows that the alleged abuse was “wrong”. Stephen Serrette, who is accused of committing the abuse, sat in the prisoner’s dock as the child gave testimony. Continue reading

1in6 and RAINN Launch Peer SupportGroup to Help Male Survivors

1in6 and RAINN recently co-created a service to allow male survivors to talk with each other and professionals online:

Male survivors of childhood sexual abuse have a new way to find support and community online. 1in6 has partnered with RAINN to launch the Peer SupportGroup (PSG), a new online service for peer-to-peer support among male survivors. This is the second online support service launched by this dynamic partnership, beginning with the Online SupportLine in 2009.

“What started as a dream, where we would be able to provide anonymous, safe, and therapeutically-sound support groups to men in real-time, has become a reality,” said Steve LePore, founder and Executive Director of 1in6.

The first Peer SupportGroup session took place in early October 2015, with positive reviews from both users and moderators. The service functions similar to a group chat, where male survivors of childhood sexual abuse can support other men in their journey of trauma recovery. Men from all over the country can chat back and forth with one another and share their experiences during a 90-minute online session. Each session is moderated by a licensed clinician who provides therapeutically-sound guidance and a “gatekeeper” who has gone through extensive training to ensure the anonymity and safety of every participant.

This an awesome move. Continue reading