Several days ago a video appeared on YouTube. The title is “My Family Raped Me.” The short film plays like a public service announcement. It appears to be geared for an Indian audience, as all the actors are Indian. The female narrator gives the audience an account of the myriad of ways she was raped throughout her life. She begins with:
Yes, I’ve been getting raped. I don’t even remember since when. Maybe it started when I came out of my mother’s womb.”
There is just one problem: she was never raped. Instead, she claims that acts committed against other women were assaults on her. Yet this presents a problem because none of the acts are sexually violent. The one act of violence in the video is the woman’s father slapping her mother. The other instances are her mother calling some girl a slut and her brother teasing a woman about her appearance.
In short, saying mean things to one women is akin to raping another woman .
Feminists often complain about how people trivialize rape by using the word in the “wrong” context. Saying, “I raped that test” is wrong. Saying, “I got raped in Halo yesterday” is wrong. Yet comparing an insult to rape is acceptable.
The video received more down votes than up votes, a number of negative comments, and a hilarious take-down by TJ of the Amazing Atheist, leading the YouTube account holder to block voting and commenting.
For those out there who might be confused: rape is unwanted sexual intercourse. It is not a lewd comment, not an insult, and not a slap across the face. It certainly cannot be done to you if no one touches you.
Please, feminists, stop trivializing rape.