It happens every day. In fact, it is pretty hard to avoid it. There are some things that can only be understood with a slap on the forehead. Things so mind-boggling that one wonders how humans managed to evolve thumbs while being this mentally inept. Case in point:
For the last two years feminists have pushed the “yes means yes” argument. The premise of their position is that people, particularly men, fail to understand when their partner consents to sex. In order to prevent these instances of mistaken rape, the partners must get enthusiastic, typically verbal consent from their sexual partners.
There is nothing wrong with this concept in theory. One should make sure that one’s partner wants to engage in sexual activity. Where the feminist position becomes ridiculous is in its application.
Feminists argue that not only must a person receive enthusiastic consent, but they must do so at every stage of sexual activity. They must ask for permission to every time they touch, kiss, hug, hold, caress, cuddle, and engage in various forms of sexual activity.
To give people an idea of how utterly stupid this would look, feminist college students created a video:
It is worth noting that the woman in the video does not ask for permission to engage in sexual activity. She acts when she wants, regardless of the man’s consent. Only the man must as for consent.
Unsurprisingly, the 10th graders found this idea completely moronic. One student presented a basic question which prompted this response:
Consent from the person you are kissing — or more — is not merely silence or a lack of protest, Shafia Zaloom, a health educator at the Urban School of San Francisco, told the students. They listened raptly, but several did not disguise how puzzled they felt.
“What does that mean — you have to say ‘yes’ every 10 minutes?” asked Aidan Ryan, 16, who sat near the front of the room.
“Pretty much,” Ms. Zaloom answered. “It’s not a timing thing, but whoever initiates things to another level has to ask.”
What follows “pretty much” is that “or it is rape.” In short, if you do not ask for permission every 10 minutes you are a rapist. That is an excellent message to teach high school students.
The students did not buy this argument:
But Ms. Zaloom, who has taught high school students about sex for two decades, said she was grateful for the new standard, even as she acknowledged the students’ unease.
“What’s really important to know is that sex is not always super smooth,” she told her 10th graders. “It can be awkward, and that’s actually normal and shows things are O.K.”
The students did not seem convinced. They sat in groups to brainstorm ways to ask for affirmative consent. They crossed off a list of options: “Can I touch you there?” Too clinical. “Do you want to do this?” Too tentative. “Do you like that?” Not direct enough.
“They’re all really awkward and bizarre,” one girl said.
“Did you come up with any on your own?” Ms. Zaloom asked.
One boy offered up two words: “You good?”
That drew nearly unanimous nods of approval.
How sad that people who were not alive when Zaloom began teaching students about sex have a better understanding of it than she does.
No one acts like the people depicted in the feminist fantasy video above. That is not how sex works. This is not how people communicate in the moment, nor is it the better way to do it. The rapist woman in the feminist video shows that. She touches and kisses the man and he allows her to do it. If he did not want to do it, he would move her hand. That would get the point across just as clearly as saying “no.”
It is bizarre that feminists want to complicate sex to such a degree that it makes anything appear to be rape. Fortunately, even children are smart enough to see through this level of stupidity. For example:
Students will ask, “Can I have sex when we are both drunk?” she said. “I get this one a lot: If I hook up with a girl and the next day she decides she didn’t want to do it, then what do I do?”
Ms. Zaloom will typically use such questions as a way to begin talking about the benefits of sexual partners’ knowing each other. But sometimes, there are no straightforward answers, she said. “We’re trying to show them very explicitly that sex has to include a dialogue,” she added, “that they have to talk about it each step of the way.”
Again, even children are aware this is not how sex works. The questions they ask are reasonable, and they deserve a better response than “there are no straightforward answers,” especially if you offer them a straightforward argument.
Ironically, the only good advice Zaloom offers is rather unfeminist:
Ms. Zaloom suggested making clear plans with friends ahead of time, like making pacts to leave parties together. And she urged them to have conversations with potential sexual partners “before you get swept up in the moment.”