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Elementary School Teacher Killed in Apparent Murder-Suicide May Have Abused Multiple Kids: Reports — A Minnesota elementary school teacher and his husband, who were found dead last week in an apparent murder-suicide in Washington state, may have sexually abused multiple underage boys, according to reports. Aric Babbitt, 40, and Matthew Deyo, 36, were reportedly found dead on Lopez Island on Aug. 25, just two weeks after one of Babbitt’s former students went to police and accused him of sexual assault.

Exposed: UP’s hell prison where inmates suffer vicious torture and corruption — The crime team of India Today has unearthed a prison that has turned into a vicious hub of third-degree torture, abuse and corruption. Here, an inmate is pinned down on the ground, with his feet up and locked in bamboo sticks by fellow prisoners. Unbearable screams pierce through the large hall as a deputy jailer unleashes a flurry of club blows on his bare soles.

Family of malnourished boy found dead in Echo Park closet had been reported to social workers six times — Days apart in 2012, two teachers contacted the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services about a young boy named Yonatan Daniel Aguilar. One reported that the boy was suffering from general neglect. Another said he had a black eye. County social workers interviewed school employees, including a soccer coach and a special education teacher. Continue reading

When facing jail time, blame the victim

In yet another case of unusual sentences, an Australian woman received two years in jail after pleading guilty to two counts of sexual penetration of a child under the age of 16:

A mother has been jailed for performing sex acts on a 14-year-old schoolboy after she initially spotted him playing football.

The 39-year-old woman, from Victoria, has been sentenced to two years behind bars, with a minimum of 10 months after abusing the boy who went to the same school as her daughter.

The sentencing comes after she pleaded guilty in a Victorian court to two counts of sexual penetration of a child under the age of 16.

The boy was just 14 years old when the then 36-year-old woman engaged in sex acts with him on two separate occasions at her home.

The Australian government typically does not charge women with counts of sexual penetration. It is uncommon for the women to receive any jail time for sex offenses at all, let alone a minimum 10-month sentence. The woman will also register as a sex offender for life. The article offers no explanation for that, and it does seem odd considering the rest of the woman’s sentence.

Of course, woman could not leave it at that. Continue reading

Not exactly a slap on the wrist

Kraigen Grooms recently received a 10-year suspended sentence after pleading guilty to engaging in a lascivious act with a child. Grooms, then 16-years-old, livestreamed himself engaging in sexual activities with a 1-year-old girl. Those watching the stream recorded it without Grooms knowledge and shared it, which eventually led to Grooms arrest. Investigators posted pictures of Grooms, then labeled as “John Doe”, in an attempt to find him. A Facebook group run by Tim Caya featured a “wanted” poster with Grooms’s pictures. Some of Grooms’s relatives saw it and reported him to Homeland Security. The federal officers arrested Grooms in 2014 andcharged with a second degree sexual assault.

Those are the basic facts of the case. What happened in the media was “TEEN RAPES BABY, GETS SUSPENDED SENTENCE!”

The headlines and social media backlash that followed display people’s worst impulses. Instead of anyone looking at why Grooms received the sentence, people went to their narratives: Pedophiles should be shot. White male privilege lets another rapist off. Fire the judge.

The media did no better. They reported the minimum amount of information, essentially the sentence and prior charges, and a great deal of misinformation. Their misinformation was so bad that an attorney from the Iowa state office released a statement clarifying why Grooms received the plea deal.

What I want to do is break down the facts of the case so people can understand why Grooms is not in prison. Continue reading

Woman receives 25-year sentence for sexual abuse

When women sexually abuse children, they usually face little repercussions. Most female abusers are not reported. Of those who are, most do not face charges. Of those who face charges or trial, most receive plea deals for lesser offenses. Of those who are convicted, most will either have the sentence suspended or receive probation. Of those who face conviction for serious offenses, most will not have to register as a sex offender. Of those who do have to register, most of them will be removed within five to ten years.

Simply put: women who prey on children get a pass.

Due to this, I do not expect to see situations like what occurred in a recent case:

A 37-year-old New Boston, Texas, woman received a 25-year sentence Friday for sexually assaulting a 13-year-old boy after the victim’s parent assured the judge it was their wish.

Kimberly Elaine Mitchell carried a box of tissue Friday morning as she walked into a first-floor courtroom of the Bi-State Justice Building for formal sentencing before 102nd District Judge Bobby Lockhart. Mitchell pleaded guilty to three felonies Wednesday and was scheduled to have a jury decide her fate in a punishment-only trial next week.

Mitchell faced multiple life sentences for the abuse. If the decision went to the jury, Mitchell could have received five years to life in prison. She chose to accept a plea bargain. The boy’s parents accepted the deal in order to spare their son the stress of testifying. The deal is unusual in that it still required Mitchell to plead to two first-degree felony charges.

This is the sort of deal that is typically offered male offenders. While I am not a supporter of long sentences, it is good to see that neither the prosecutors or judge applied a double standard in this case. Indeed, to the judge’s credit, he did not give Mitchell a pass: Continue reading

What Mrs. Robinson actually looks like

I had a robust discussion on another thread concerning adult women having sex with teen boys. One commenters named Terry argued that most teen boys would love to have sex with an older woman. My position is that while most boys may fantasize about this, the reality of the situation proves untenable. The boys are not prepared for the situation, particularly the way in which adults will manipulate teens to get what they want.

Terry argued while this may be true for a small number of boys, most boys are “pussy hounds” and would face no trauma from a sexual encounter with older women. A recent case shows why that is untrue:

A former educational assistant who was working at Sir Robert Borden High School in Ottawa has been sentenced to 14 months in jail for sexually exploiting a student over a two-year period.

Katherine Kitts, 46, was arrested in October 2014 after a mother found sexually explicit texts on her son’s phone and contacted police with concerns about Kitts’s relationship with him.

The offences happened between April 2012 and April 2014 while Kitts was working at Sir Robert Borden High School. She had sex with the student repeatedly throughout those years, including in Kitts’s van, parked off school property.

Kitts was initially charged with sexual assault, sexual exploitation and telecommunication with a person under 18, but after pleading guilty to sexual exploitation in March, the other two charges were stayed.

Kitt’s lawyer asked for a 90-day intermittent sentence, meaning Kitt would go to jail on the weekends or a few days during the week, followed by probation. The lawyer claimed the abuse was unusual and out of Kitt’s character. The judge did not buy it, and with good reason. Continue reading

Stop the Abuse: Survivors Manchester

Often times people want to help others but do not know how. This cannot be any truer than when it comes to helping abused men and boys. The resources sometimes are not apparent and are often difficult to find. Sometimes the resources are hidden or even barred by other groups who wish to polarize the issue. The intent here is to provide those who wish to help male victims with the opportunity to do so.

Please remember that you do no have to empty your wallets to help. Even a small donation can go a long way. And for those on the other side of the issue, it would go a long way to demonstrating real concern for all victims if you donated as well.

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Survivors Manchester

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We hope you realise this, we want to acknowledge it anyway, but you’ve made a big step towards healing and breaking free from the legacy of abuse.

You really are an inspiration and if your sat there reading this then that is evidence enough… it says a lot about how you’re thinking about, and are, breaking the silence.

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Student gets $6 million abuse settlement from school following abuse

In rare instance of accountability, a former student abused by one of his teachers will receive a $6 million settlement from the school district:

Vince Finaldi, an attorney for the former high school student, said the egregious conduct of Redlands Unified School administrators in the case warranted what may be one of the largest single-victim sex abuse settlements by a public agency.

“The size of this settlement represents the gravity of the damage done to this young victim and his family and it also highlights the extreme malfeasance and neglect by school officials who turned a blind eye to the criminal conduct of a teacher and failed to protect a student,” Finaldi said.

Laura Whitehurst faced 41 felony counts of unlawful sex acts. She faced a potential 29-year prison sentence. She chose to plead guilty to six counts of lesser offences, resulting in a one-year jail sentence. She was released after six months and placed on probation. She was also required to register a sex offender, but otherwise faced no other penalty. She also shares custody of the child that resulted from her abuse of the student.

The former student’s attorneys argued that the school officials were culpable because they knew of the abuse but nothing to stop it. School district officials agreed to a settlement, although it appears for purely public relation reasons: Continue reading