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There are many men and boys who experience abuse in their lives. They often do not have a place to talk about those experiences. This post is a space for that.

Any man or boy who wants to share his experiences of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, bullying, and harassment may do so here. You may submit your story as a comment. You can use your own name, a pseudonym, or remain anonymous.
You may share whatever you feel comfortable with, be it your whole story or just a moment.

The purpose of this post is show people what men and boys go through. It is to shed light on the truth of those experiences and shatter the stereotypes of about them.

I will moderate all comments and remove any that are not from men or not on topic. This just to make sure the comments are only from men and only about their stories.

(A note to those posting: if you use profanity, the comment will automatically go into moderation. This applies to all comments on this blog, so it is nothing personal. Once I see the comment, I will approve it.)

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Barbara Brooks: Former foster parent pleads guilty to raping children, gets 7 years behind bars — A Colerain Township woman accused of sexually abusing children she babysat pleaded guilty to rape charges Friday in a plea deal. Barbara Brooks, a 63-year-old former Hamilton County foster parent, pleaded not guilty in June 2012 to charges of sexually assaulting four different children she babysat between January 2000 and Feb. 27, 2007.

Child sex abuse royal commission: Catholic priest abused two generations of boys in the same family, inquiry hears — Tony Hersbach and his twin brother Will were molested by Father Victor Rubeo in Melbourne in the 1960s. The priest then abused Tony’s two sons, Paul and Adam, in the 1980s. Paul Hersbach gave evidence to the commission on Monday, and he and his father gave an exclusive interview to the ABC’s 7.30 program about how the domineering and charismatic priest managed to take hold and control their family.

Former Church Youth Leader Sentenced to 40 Years for Child Sex Abuse — Nathaniel Morales, a former youth group leader at the Maryland-based Covenant Life Church and who was convicted in May for sexually abusing three young boys, has been sentenced to 40 years in prison. The judge called him a “cowardly pervert” and a “pathetic human being.” Judge Terrance McGann of Montgomery County Circuit Court sentenced Morales, 56, to 40 years in state prison for molesting at least four boys while ministering at Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland, during the 1980s, WJLA reports. Continue reading

Losing religion

A video of a young man coming out to his family has gone viral. Daniel Ashley Pierce recorded an “intervention” his family set up to confront him about being gay. Their reaction is  tragic, abusive, and a testament to the profound stupidity of holding onto ancient religious beliefs.

That is not how to react to your child coming out as gay. Continue reading

The Good Men Project ran an article blaming male victims

Given the feminist spin on the Good Men Project, it was only a matter of time before the editors ran an article victim blaming men for the abuse they suffer. One could argue they have done it before. They ran plenty of articles written by Hugo Schwyzer and Jamie Utt that tacitly excuse and deny male victimization. However, I cannot recall anything as pernicious as author Talisa’s When Girls Attack.

I will spare readers the extra click and post the entire article here (that way if anyone at GMP grows a conscience and decides to remove the piece they cannot pretend it did not exist): Continue reading

The lady doth protest too much, methinks

I continue to find it pathetic that every few weeks feminists feel compelled to write articles about how people misunderstand them. For a group that has been around in its present form for nearly six decades, feminists are completely incapable of convincing people they are not misandrous ideologues bent of ruining society.

As Zerlina Maxwell stated in her recent article:

The message is fairly simple: Feminism in this case is the sanctimonious, uptight older sister, always out to spoil everyone’s fun.

In 1990, Pat Robertson famously said, “The feminist agenda is not about equal rights for women. It is about a socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism, and become lesbians.” Despite countless well-reasoned arguments to the contrary, it’s clear that some 25 years later, feminism still has an image problem.

And whose fault is that?

This isn’t to say it’s feminists’ fault.

Really? Please explain. Continue reading

Boko Haram kidnaps 97 boys and the world remains silent

I knew this would eventually happen:

The Islamist terror group Boko Haram kidnapped at least 97 men and boys and killed 28 people this week in a raid on villages in Borno State in northeast Nigeria, a local leader and residents said Friday.

Boko Haram gunmen also injured 25 others during the raid in which scores of homes were burned, the sources said.

The gunmen raided the farming and fishing village of Doron Baga and surrounding villages on the shores of Lake Chad, about 110 miles north of the state capital, Maiduguri.

The raid and kidnappings occurred on Monday, but the news did not emerge sooner due to lack of communication and because cell phone towers were destroyed in previous Boko Haram attacks.

It is worth noting that even though the majority of the victims of this series of kidnappings and murders were male, various media outlets chose to ignore their sex. For example, the CNN article quote above is titled “Boko Haram kidnaps at least 97, kills 28 in raid.Continue reading

Woman abused son on webcam

A woman faces three years and three months in jail for abusing her son and broadcasting it via webcam to her partner. According to the article, the abuse came to light when the woman admitted the abuse to a domestic violence charity:

It came to light when his mother made a complaint at Next Link Domestic Abuse Services in Bristol.

Her disturbing confession was passed on to Avon and Somerset police and she was taken in for questioning. Her son was also interviewed.

Prosecuting, Mark Hollier said: “In a very ordinary voice, he described an incident to the police officers about how his mother had given him a sex lesson in the main bedroom of the family home and this was observed by [the partner] via a webcam and computer link.”

The mum – who wept through much of the hearing – denied “volunteering” to have sex with her son.

She was charged with engaging in penetrative sexual activity with a boy under 13 which she admitted.

Of course, the claim is that the man is ultimately responsible for the woman’s behavior. As the judge put it: Continue reading

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Callum Carson bravely breaks a social taboo by openly talking about being the victim of male rape — SCOTLAND has witnessed a steep increase in the number of rapes reported to police. But while this crime is often viewed as an attack on women, there are male victims too. It is rare for anyone to publicly share their experience of rape – particularly a man. Callum Carson, from Bathgate, waived his right to anonymity to share his story in a bid to raise the issue of male rape and highlight a system that he feels let him down.

Charge: Self-styled swim coach molested gravely ill boy at Seattle Children’s hospital — An Idaho man accused of sexually assaulting a seriously ill boy at Seattle Children’s hospital now faces a child molestation charge. A self-styled swim coach, John Hudspeth was caught by Children’s staff molesting the boy while he was being treated at the hospital, King County prosecutors say in charging papers. Hudspeth, a 63-year-old resident of St. Maries, Idaho, is alleged to have spent years grooming the boy for abuse prior to the sexual assaults.

Coventry rape centre launches counselling service for men — Coventry Rape and Sexual Abuse Centre has launched a counselling service for men. The project will provide specialist counselling to men who have experienced any form of rape or sexual abuse at any point in their lives. It will also help fathers and adult male siblings of abused children. CRASAC already supports younger males from the ages of five to 18, but in the past, there was no provision for adult men. Continue reading